Do kids really hate their working mom why? - Page 2

Here is what I think:

• A child needs utmost love, care, respect (yes, I said respect), validation, loving touch, embraces. They should be given importance.
• Sometimes a yes, when they ask for something, and a no, only when required, Not always, because the child learns to deny every happiness to herself with time (personal experience 😆)
• No bias among siblings (if the child has siblings)
• A child should be given unconditional love (their good deeds don't make them lovable and bad don't make them unlovable, this is what they do, not who they are).
• Be fully present. If you have half an hour for the child, spend it with the child being fully present, not being preoccupied with something else. Let them know about yourself. Ask them about them. It's possible to be physically present and emotionally unavailable.
• Keep commitments you make to the child. If that's going to her performance or bringing a chocolate for her, whatever.
• Don't humiliate them or slap them before others.
• Protect them. A child needs protection the most. If you have the guts to scold her, have the guts to scold others if they hurt her. Otherwise they grow up feeling unprotected and uncared for. It blocks the root chakra and that doesn't let other chakra develop and the child cannot grow completely.
• Provide a loving environment. If the space at home is one of love, it becomes their safe haven, truly a home.
• Respect their choices. Let them know the difference between things but let them decide.
• When they say something, listen to them. Truly, listen to them.
• Don't crush her will power. Don't say she cannot do something. Let her try and fail and try again and change if she wants to. Be there for her and let her know that failure in something is not failure in life.
• Let them grow into their own person, instead of your extension.
• Inspire learning into them. (Don't beat it into them)
• Be a person of values and don't let anybody disrespect you. (Children learn from example)
• Be direct to them. If they can't do or have something, tell them why.
• Don't believe in the "children are to be seen and not heard" bakwas theory.

Zyada hi lamba ho gaya🤣

Did it make sense at all to the original post. God, main bhi na😆

Nobody is saying working mother are Bad or they should not go to work at all but in order to provide all worldly luxury to her daughter kinjal .Rakhi forget that kinjal need touch therapy And just busy in her work

Yes go to work but please take out some time for ur daughter to give personal attention to her ..yeh personal attention ki kami world ki luxury fill nahi kar sakte

OK Kinjal is 28-29 years old born in early 1990s (toshu said hes 28-29 in old epi)

That time work culture was not toxic 14 hours like now after 2010

In 1990s private or govt all go office 10am come back at 6pm

Kinjal was born 1993 and went to school by 1997 only.

Than no human work 10-14 hours like now

And Rakhi works in own business that too just tution center coaching

If you know coaching classes it opens 6am to 8am in morning and evening 5pm to 9pm

Manager and owner rarely there in coaching center whether NIIT or Byjus etc they are at home or going hotel coffeee here there enjoying not regular job like bank or It company

So where was Rakhi busy? She must be at home from 10am to 5pm

Now school is from 8am to 2pm ok in primary and till 3pm in highschool ya college

So Kinjal gets 2pm to 5pm with Rakhi everyday

That is what most of us also got in 90s frm parents 7pm to 10pm so itna kya natak hai kinju baby ka

Cannot she understand her father betrayed mom, toshu ki tarah useless nalla hoga woh bhi Rakhi ka pati ya business tour kehke ghumtah hoga bina responsibility ke aish karke toshu ka rajkot tour ki tarah

Otherwise if hubby capable and responsible why wife handle business in life? Woh aish karegi ghar pe kitty party aur shopping jhake

In 1990s also tution and computer classes was in thing so its not like kinjal go school 8am to 3pm than miss Rakhi usko tution, computer class hoga

Kids are more busy than parents in 90s onwards with school, tution, music class, dance, computer class etc

So i want to know why excatly kinjal unhappy with mom Rakhi and not dad who betrayed her mom? Usko support karna hai mom who was betrayed by her dad and support her instead of har waqt humiliating her shameless daughter

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Nobody is saying working mother are Bad or they should not go to work at all but in order to provide all worldly luxury to her daughter kinjal .Rakhi forget that kinjal need touch therapy And just busy in her work

Yes go to work but please take out some time for ur daughter to give personal attention to her ..yeh personal attention ki kami world ki luxury fill nahi kar sakte

Dolly also working did not meenu ewquire touch therapy

Meenu is fine with her mom

Anupam anever at home with little anu shes ok

If one parent there its enough or grandparent at home tabi its fine

Indeed kids hate parents being at home mostly because they object pado liko home work karo tv mat dekho etc they wait for parents to go out of home

Abhi dekthe hain kinjal ki beti ka kya reacton hai after 10 years

90s main kids feeedom from parents ko tarasthe the ki kab hum akele honge because helicopter parenting was norm than whether working mom or not

Its not like now where kids have own room own mobil own TV

No coaching can run from7 am to 8 pm during summer vacation and when school open it run from 3 pm to 8 pm.I myself know coaching centre where 9 ,10 11 12 student come for coaching and that coaching centre run from 7 am to 8pm during summer vacation

And after school open coaching run from 3pm to 8pm .

And after mother is so tired that she will eat food and sleep and hardly time for daughter

Originally posted by: myviewprem

OK Kinjal is 28-29 years old born in early 1990s (toshu said hes 28-29 in old epi)

That time work culture was not toxic 14 hours like now after 2010

In 1990s private or govt all go office 10am come back at 6pm

Kinjal was born 1993 and went to school by 1997 only.

Than no human work 10-14 hours like now

And Rakhi works in own business that too just tution center coaching

If you know coaching classes it opens 6am to 8am in morning and evening 5pm to 9pm

Manager and owner rarely there in coaching center whether NIIT or Byjus etc they are at home or going hotel coffeee here there enjoying not regular job like bank or It company

So where was Rakhi busy? She must be at home from 10am to 5pm

Now school is from 8am to 2pm ok in primary and till 3pm in highschool ya college

So Kinjal gets 2pm to 5pm with Rakhi everyday

That is what most of us also got in 90s frm parents 7pm to 10pm so itna kya natak hai kinju baby ka

Cannot she understand her father betrayed mom, toshu ki tarah useless nalla hoga woh bhi Rakhi ka pati ya business tour kehke ghumtah hoga bina responsibility ke aish karke toshu ka rajkot tour ki tarah

Otherwise if hubby capable and responsible why wife handle business in life? Woh aish karegi ghar pe kitty party aur shopping jhake

In 1990s also tution and computer classes was in thing so its not like kinjal go school 8am to 3pm than miss Rakhi usko tution, computer class hoga

Kids are more busy than parents in 90s onwards with school, tution, music class, dance, computer class etc

So i want to know why excatly kinjal unhappy with mom Rakhi and not dad who betrayed her mom? Usko support karna hai mom who was betrayed by her dad and support her instead of har waqt humiliating her shameless daughter

Does Kinjal know about the cheating of her father😲

Meenu use to be with anupama in shah house when Dolly go to job meenu use to come at shah house after school hrs finish and stay there until dolly pick her in the evening dolly did not left her daughter all alone at home

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

That makes me respect Rakhi somewhat. She tolerated the cheating just because she wanted her daughter to have both parents' love.But i would have preferred if she had abandoned him.

Does Kinjal know about the cheating of her father😲

I feel kinjal dad is a useless guy like toshu

Woh responsibilty nahi liya hoga parivaar aur kamane ka ya bacche ka

Ghar jamai bana hoga and enjoying Rakhi hard earned money and her parents property

Like Toshu he must be enjoying in rajkot and bars hotels with friends and women on sasural money

Many women never say outside pati nala hai toh because of society

They act like pati is very good responsible takes care of them to hide family prestige ya avoid mocking or getting targetted by other men in society

Even Kinjal psychology will afffect if rakhi told truth to her so shes hidden

Many women i know their hubby had extra marital affairs middle class rich class they hide from family relatives world kids etc

90s was not so bold as now like anupama to give divorce all hush haush

Even if rakhi tell her mom dad they will say adjust once etc aise ke ke chup kardethe hain aaj bhi 99% parents or family that is why divorce is so low

A survey came 2 years back which said 75% indian married men cheat their wife so Rakhi is not wrong in saying that majority cheat. If 3 out of 4 married men are cheating in india you can imagine how many wives are clueless or even if they know are quiet. Vanraj and Toshu are 3 in 1 men, anuj is exception even hes slept while dating woh bhi ek tara se future wife se cheating hai if you love someone. Majnu or Romeo ke din gaye long back woh sab 16th century tha where men were loyal to one woman zindagi bar actually. Aisa love anuj kapdia ka bhi nahi hai ke ek aurat ko pujo aur kisi aur ko date ya affair na karo aisa love not there in 21st century at all.

True love is when ou love a woman be with her all life never think of other women or date others. Like Romeo, majnu, Salim, Ranjha did for their GFs or lovers jaan dene tak nahi darna and never think of other woman. If such guy exist today he can get nobel prize magar ek bhi nahi hai. Only 15th or 16th century tak aise sacha prem ya pagal premi hota tha. 17th century se bhagwan banana band kiya hoga tabhi love sttorys famous nahi hai uske baad koi bhi itna.

Let’s face it. Nearly 75% of Indian men, whether married or committed, end up cheating on their respective partners.

I have also seen , married men cheat and wife never know at all, full life they are thinking my pati is patni vratha magar yeh sach nahi. In india its all hushed up your parents sibling best friend neighbours all will know but never tell you to avoid family break up. Colleagues and classmates and friends know most but never say ever warna to USA se aage hota divorce rates

Everyone turns blind eyes, thats what society and family teaches girls from childhood in india or asia. Thats why 75% men cheat after marraige but divorce is 0.1%. Imagine if 75% wife cheat in india what would happen? Forget divorce murders would happen by hubbys kyunki asia main it matter of pride and ego if wife or daughter or mother loves another man. We can say thanks to vanraj and toshu they did not kill anupama for loving anuj or marrying him kyunki 99% cases fathers or brothers or ex hubby kill for daring to love. That is why woman love to watch anupama uski himmat 74.9% cheated married woman ne nahi dikaya india main.

Just because woman never know their hubby or BF cheated on them its no tthat they never cheat sab parde main hota hai. In USA its ok to divorce for women so divorce is high jaise hi wife knows hubby cheating 50% divorce tama dethi hain because in USA society divorce is not taboo and no jhanjhat like asian courts. Nor will society target single women divorce women there like indian society nor will parents or relatives give tana. They are all economically capabe like a kinjal toh they have no money issue or society pressure to not divorce.

And 2-3 marrriages is ok in USA toh those woman are lucky phoren divorce tama dethi hain kinjal anupama ki tarah batameez hani sethi pati ki. 50% is divorce rate in USA and 1% in india. Toh in USA 50% women are bold enough to throw divorce on cheating hubby or abusing hubby who raise hands on them. Best part only 61% married men in USA are cheating in that 50% get divorced. Matlab wahan par bhi 11% married woman hai joh darthi hain divorce dene ko aur compromise karthi hain.

Like bill clinton wife hillary did

Best part is more indian men cheat than USa married men. In USA 61% married men cheat and india 75%

Matlab more restrictions and taboo society puts more will cheat actually

Sadly whether india or USA ya europe sab maan maryada culture ka teka women have been burdened with. Even USA bacche bigda toh bolenge maa ki wajah se kyunki baap toh divorce deke bhaag jathe hai 2nd or 3rd wife ke saath, aur women reh jathi hai baccho ke saath kamake paklne main. Like in USA 23% single woman run house hold single handed with kids after divorce.

Like vanraj shah even 52 year old man wants 35 year old kavya or 30 year old Malvika to marry second in USA too

What i never really understood in anupama serial, even in USA no kid stays with father after divorce sab mummy ke saath jathe hain. Yeh kya ulti ganga hai anupam amain divorce ke baad 3 nala kids staying with cheater father not with their 45 year old aged mom and helping her shame. Even in USA where kids are not that much love for parents will run off with mother after father divorces. No where i heard kids staying with daddy after he divorces their mom in life. In USA only 4% kids stay with father after divorce rest 96% pack bags and leave with their mother whether below 18 or above 18 years no one stays with father.

Shah family ke 3 unique ungreatful kids staying with father after he divorce mom cheated her. Kuch toh sharam karo Shah bacche yeh toh USA ke baccho se jyada nikal gaye asanskaar main. Aur anupam akethi hai sabse sanskari bacche. Yeh kya sanskar hai bhai ki tum cheater father ke saath raho mummy ko chod do. Yeh sabse bada ajooba thaanupam aserial ka that anupam a3 kids stay with cheater father anot go with mom after divorce. Such ungreatful nalla shah kids mummy ne 25 years kyala rakha yeh unka khayal nahi rakhe akele chod diya society ke tane kane ko woh bhi old age 45 years ko. Shah kids more forad than USA kids, atleast there 96% kids go with mom after divorce and be with her aise akele nahi chod dete crisis main mummy ko.

If Malvika aur anuj not there what happen to anupama, indian society very cruel to divorce women how she live her 3 good for nothing kids never think or what. Kamske kam samar should hv lived with her or pakhi whose a girl kaise mummy ko akele choda ek girl hoke. These 3 shah kids and kinjal are poisonous kids aise bacchon se be aulad hone behtar hai duinya main faltu auladein sab ki sab. They are more faultu than USA kids also towards a mother. Kids may not like or take care of fathers in USA or india because of various reasons in life. But no kid will leave a mother (or sister) alone kabhi bhi jahe USA ya india ho sab dyaan rakthe hain akele nahi chodta divorce ke baad.

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Why rakhi use to make fun of anupama when anupama meet vanraj for sake of children infact anupama has more genuine reason to not to divorce because of poor financial condition vanraj but rakhi to anupama ka mazaak banati thi ki yeh apne cheater Pati ko chodna nahi chahti hai

Kinjal ki biological mother ne chahe usko time diya ho yah na diya ho , uncultured sasuralwale kabhi kisi ka dil nahi jit sakte jaha gawar dadi saas ho, affair karnewali sasur ho, villain jaisi nanand ho , bekar husband ho and saas bina sasural ho.

Saas bina sasural mai kaun babyshower ke baad rukta hai ! Yeh Sab anupama mai he ho sakta hai.

Anupama Kalpna se bhi uper ka kalpnic show hai.