Anupama's real problem

It always muddles my head to think why Anupama keeps on loving her abusers. I wondered why she goes back again and again and even after all the insults now, she's like this can change and like Vanraj, she might Say Anupamaa is back. I mean wth. Abhi bhi wahin Jana hai

Then I realised what her real problem was. Anupamaa is a masochist. She finds pleasure in her own suffering. Nothing else can justify her non stop need to get insulted and abused.

Or maybe she has Stockholm syndrome🤔

If Anuj starts insulting her, throwing her out, forces her to cut ties with Shahs, makes her cook three meals a day then she might start loving him and his house.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

If Anuj starts insulting her, throwing her out, forces her to cut ties with Shahs, makes her cook three meals a day then she might start loving him and his house.

May Be actress Nirupa Roy is Anu's role model and Anu wants to achieve the title of " Queen of Misery" and best Maa like her😃.

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

May Be actress Nirupa Roy is Anu's role model and Anu wants to achieve the title of " Queen of Misery" and best Maa like her😃.

Originally posted by: JoonaMohalla

It always muddles my head to think why Anupama keeps on loving her abusers. I wondered why she goes back again and again and even after all the insults now, she's like this can change and like Vanraj, she might Say Anupamaa is back. I mean wth. Abhi bhi wahin Jana hai

Then I realised what her real problem was. Anupamaa is a masochist. She finds pleasure in her own suffering. Nothing else can justify her non stop need to get insulted and abused.

Or maybe she has Stockholm syndrome🤔

Hi Dear!!

One thing that puzzles my mind is how this unique username came into your mind. really, I liked it.

I have heard the word joona, really does this mohalla exist??

Originally posted by: ChirpyKiya10

Hi Dear!!

One thing that puzzles my mind is how this unique username came into your mind. really, I liked it.

I have heard the word joona, really does this mohalla exist??

My previous username was CheekuKaBeej😆The hero in the show was unique. Both ml and fl worked in the same newspaper agency. The Boss there had ill intentions towards the fl and without her knowledge the hero used to save her and come between the boss's attempts. That boss used to say "ye cheeku ka beej gale mein atak gaya hai"🤣

So both my previous username and current username are dedicated to that serial❤️

And one year has completed and I'm (perhaps) going to change my username again😆

Originally posted by: JoonaMohalla

It always muddles my head to think why Anupama keeps on loving her abusers. I wondered why she goes back again and again and even after all the insults now, she's like this can change and like Vanraj, she might Say Anupamaa is back. I mean wth. Abhi bhi wahin Jana hai

Then I realised what her real problem was. Anupamaa is a masochist. She finds pleasure in her own suffering. Nothing else can justify her non stop need to get insulted and abused.

Or maybe she has Stockholm syndrome🤔

Actually she doesn't understand divorce means leave ex in law and their house behind no matter what you name it mayka or anything else it is your in laws house and after taking divorce she has no rights to visit the house unless everyone else is okay with it especially her ex husband and his current wife.

She can love her sas sasur and children and DIL and meet them any time but outside the house premises at cafe at kapadia mansion at dance class or at her actual mother's house, she can't be stubborn about visiting V's house if he doesn't like it

Also somewhere it is right that most of fightes are due to her . She unnecessarily intereferes everywhere earlier she used to come।in between baa and kavya , kavya and V . She doesn't let people resolve their own issues without her interference infact earlier problems were due to her between kavya and V. I agree K and V are cheaters were। At fault but when you claim to be indifferent from all this then let her take position as DIL let her handle Baa in her own way. It's not like she would harm Baa physically or vice versa. With V also no one has right to interfere between husband and wife especially ex wife no tips and tricks to better their relationship will be welcomed by anyone.

With pakhi or toshu sometimes she needs to give space to them also when they are being disrespectful no need to go and say Suri Suri and be so emotional or worried both are in their own home safe and sound K is no villain that she will harm Pakhi and toshu so they need anupama also everyone else loves too much both P and Toshu are loved dearly by her ex husband and ex in laws . So it's not like if one or two days she won't talk to them they will be in trouble also if they realise their mistakes they can call her themselves and apologies but she keeps hovering around them and come across pathetic person. Being a mom you don't have to listen all the crap and still hug them you need to tell them when someone no matter how close he/she is to your heart you need to set boundaries for your own mental health and peace

V and K , Pakhi and toshu Baa are wrong but Anupama is no saint here just because she didn't do awful things to others but what she does to herself can also be not forgotten.

Originally posted by: SanchiIndu

Actually she doesn't understand divorce means leave ex in law and their house behind no matter what you name it mayka or anything else it is your in laws house and after taking divorce she has no rights to visit the house unless everyone else is okay with it especially her ex husband and his current wife.

She can love her sas sasur and children and DIL and meet them any time but outside the house premises at cafe at kapadia mansion at dance class or at her actual mother's house, she can't be stubborn about visiting V's house if he doesn't like it

Also somewhere it is right that most of fightes are due to her . She unnecessarily intereferes everywhere earlier she used to come।in between baa and kavya , kavya and V . She doesn't let people resolve their own issues without her interference infact earlier problems were due to her between kavya and V. I agree K and V are cheaters were। At fault but when you claim to be indifferent from all this then let her take position as DIL let her handle Baa in her own way. It's not like she would harm Baa physically or vice versa. With V also no one has right to interfere between husband and wife especially ex wife no tips and tricks to better their relationship will be welcomed by anyone.

With pakhi or toshu sometimes she needs to give space to them also when they are being disrespectful no need to go and say Suri Suri and be so emotional or worried both are in their own home safe and sound K is no villain that she will harm Pakhi and toshu so they need anupama also everyone else loves too much both P and Toshu are loved dearly by her ex husband and ex in laws . So it's not like if one or two days she won't talk to them they will be in trouble also if they realise their mistakes they can call her themselves and apologies but she keeps hovering around them and come across pathetic person. Being a mom you don't have to listen all the crap and still hug them you need to tell them when someone no matter how close he/she is to your heart you need to set boundaries for your own mental health and peace

V and K , Pakhi and toshu Baa are wrong but Anupama is no saint here just because she didn't do awful things to others but what she does to herself can also be not forgotten.

Hi Dear,

I couldn't have said it any better.

I want to add one more thing, Whenever it comes to Pakhi and Toshu, Anu behaves like a helpless woman.. starts her surri surri Jaap. we also sometimes say sorry to our kids but in that case when we genuinely feel that it was our mistake or sometimes in anger or to cut in to stop the argument or dont talk for a while. Then kids also realize that they are at fault.

Why cant this lady cant leave kids on their own for sometime. After all, kids are not so small that you cannot leave them.

One more thing, When it comes to another person like Mukku, she is an entirely different personality. I dont understand why and how? Sometimes, it feels just to garner sympathy votes, she behaves like abla, helpless woman in front of Shahs.

I completely agree. Anupama really needs to set boundaries. Manny a time in life one has to make tough decision no matter how difficult it is.

I loved this part the most:

Being a mom you don't have to listen all the crap and still hug them you need to tell them when someone no matter how close he/she is to your heart you need to set boundaries for your own mental health and peace