Anupamaa Live Update and Daily Discussion Thread 01 Jun 2022 - Page 5

Yes, i am all for social messages and awareness of problems orphans go through, but honeymoon par orphanage kaun jata hai be

Anything to avoid Maan being alone i guess. Perhaps the writers spouses are jealous and have warned them against showing too much romantic Anuj

@bold did not even think about this?😆

Originally posted by: DJ_3

Ya not sure but the similarities were overdone.😆

Arey seriously my mom and dad will sometimes say also ki ye dono hamare bachche hi hai na? Hospital mein exchange to nahi ho gaye the. I do not have any similarity in behavior with either of my parents. Look wise I got features from both but behavior wise NADA

Originally posted by: strancho

Arey seriously my mom and dad will sometimes say also ki ye dono hamare bachche hi hai na? Hospital mein exchange to nahi ho gaye the. I do not have any similarity in behavior with either of my parents. Look wise I got features from both but behavior wise NADA

Well look wise than you are their kid. Behaviour wise you are the better version 😉 🤣🤤

My behavior is so much like my parents it scares me 😱

Originally posted by: V_ka_attitude

The adoption track is noble, would be better down the line - for Fandom would like them to enjoy their married life -

We hope the producers have a good research team - This topic is very sensitive and they were not able to do justice to this social cause.

For adoption: besides a long list of requirements, one also needs 10+ years of history (financial, medical, temperaments) along with many personal professional references, financial standing, one's own mental/emotional evaluations are required.

once you qualify, there are more classes to take, and visits from case reps to check your home -if it's suitable for the child. It is a process that is long and arduous, once parents/children are united then the process of living as a family begins!

You cannot walk in and take a child to the beach!! You are allowed SUPERVISED visits.

MOST important:

Generally, orphan kids in this age range are NOT this happy go lucky, they are scared - Children in orphanages have experienced great trauma and loss, and nothing is ever fixable for them, they have long-term psychological problems including depression, anger, anxiety, and feelings of sadness, and are inclined to withdraw and self-isolate.

So this girl's cuteness does not match with what an average orphanage child would be - Again DKP and BV for sake of satisfying their ego - and to check off a good deed done, out of the blue they threw this orphanage track in -

Why do they touch on subjects for which they are not subject matter experts!

That's my rant for the night!

Yep have watched many adoption vlogs in YT. They were mostly international adoptions but the average wait time was above 1.5 years. And mostly the adopted kid has some kind of disorders. I follow a Korean American family who adopted and the kid has RAD: Reactive attachment disorder.

Also I used to follow an American family where they adopted a girl of 9-10 years old and in their QnA videos they said that it took them a year to get her out of the shell and talk freely and without fear

I have begun to hate this show with all my heart.

Like this whole track is absolutely nonsense.

1. His friend was not invited to the wedding?? What was even that dialogue. Atleast could have said sorry couldn't attend the wedding but introduce your wife

2. Whitewashing of 🗑️ in full swing. So crap it was.

3. This guy runs an orphanage or day care centre No govt interference. What rubbish. His rules. I mean.. what even do these makers eat when they write such crap.

4. No one allows unsupervised visits for a child. Because they don't allow children to be bonded to people if they are not sure they ( the couple) won't return. It causes heartbreak.

The whole essence of the show has been destroyed totally. I can't beleive GK and RG said, we would be excited with this track....

Anyway, have a nice day guys.

No more wasting time on this crap

Originally posted by: DJ_3

Ya not sure but the similarities were overdone.😆

In DKP and BV world , Subtlety or moderation is not thou Art’s name 😊 ( did I use that correctly 🤔)

I saw on TW they even showed Anuj putting on the sandals for the little one like the “Cindrella “ parallel

Originally posted by: V_ka_attitude

The adoption track is noble, would be better down the line - for Fandom would like them to enjoy their married life -

We hope the producers have a good research team - This topic is very sensitive and they were not able to do justice to this social cause.

For adoption: besides a long list of requirements, one also needs 10+ years of history (financial, medical, temperaments) along with many personal professional references, financial standing, one's own mental/emotional evaluations are required.

once you qualify, there are more classes to take, and visits from case reps to check your home -if it's suitable for the child. It is a process that is long and arduous, once parents/children are united then the process of living as a family begins!

You cannot walk in and take a child to the beach!! You are allowed SUPERVISED visits.

MOST important:

Generally, orphan kids in this age range are NOT this happy go lucky, they are scared - Children in orphanages have experienced great trauma and loss, and nothing is ever fixable for them, they have long-term psychological problems including depression, anger, anxiety, and feelings of sadness, and are inclined to withdraw and self-isolate.

So this girl's cuteness does not match with what an average orphanage child would be - Again DKP and BV for sake of satisfying their ego - and to check off a good deed done, out of the blue they threw this orphanage track in -

Why do they touch on subjects for which they are not subject matter experts!

That's my rant for the night!

I know everyone is disappointed with the current track, i didn't like it too but i also didn't find anything unbelievable or odd regarding the girl child behaviour. I have visited few orphanages and seen children there....i found there is nothing technically wrong in the track.

Originally posted by: V_ka_attitude

The adoption track is noble, would be better down the line - for Fandom would like them to enjoy their married life -

We hope the producers have a good research team - This topic is very sensitive and they were not able to do justice to this social cause.

For adoption: besides a long list of requirements, one also needs 10+ years of history (financial, medical, temperaments) along with many personal professional references, financial standing, one's own mental/emotional evaluations are required.

once you qualify, there are more classes to take, and visits from case reps to check your home -if it's suitable for the child. It is a process that is long and arduous, once parents/children are united then the process of living as a family begins!

You cannot walk in and take a child to the beach!! You are allowed SUPERVISED visits.

MOST important:

Generally, orphan kids in this age range are NOT this happy go lucky, they are scared - Children in orphanages have experienced great trauma and loss, and nothing is ever fixable for them, they have long-term psychological problems including depression, anger, anxiety, and feelings of sadness, and are inclined to withdraw and self-isolate.

So this girl's cuteness does not match with what an average orphanage child would be - Again DKP and BV for sake of satisfying their ego - and to check off a good deed done, out of the blue they threw this orphanage track in -

Why do they touch on subjects for which they are not subject matter experts!

That's my rant for the night!

I so agree makers need to stop touching topics they are not expert in or have no research done on the said topic.

First DV & Now this🙄.

My cousin had recently adopted a kid and it took them 6-8 years for adoption with all the back ground check , supervision etc. Also it isn't like you go orphanage like someone and get them adopted atleast not in case of the cousin. They had to file for adoption, various checks and procedures were conducted & after 6-8 years they were told the place the kid they would be adopting from was.

Messaged BV and she says what I am saying is unnecessary! and that all adopted kids are happy. I told her I didn't doubt that adopted kids were not happy - I was talking about the young anu not fitting the orphan profile - again kids are either adopted at a very early age and they don't remember anything else, or if they are adopted at a later stage come with a lot of anxiety, fear, rejection, hard time making bonds etc - and I have seen this myself with many families adopting here in the US - Yes post-adoption they are family there is no distinction but the circumstances from where they come are different and what shapes them

Also that there were loopholes in her scripting - that needed to be explained that the process takes a long time and it is strenuous for all parties involved! You can't waltz in and take a child to the beach! There are no gove rules! What is that?

She doesn't care for my opinion - She cannot accept that she is wrong - Oh well...

these are Bhavana Vyas' responses:

I know what the procedure is

I am adopted. I am the happiest person I hv ever seen. Since childhood.

Anyways there is no point in the discussion

all u want is to rant on something, baccha khush to problem.

Don’t bug on unnecessary things. Thanks. Please.

On that note - this writer/producer has no clue how to properly deal with such topics - that's why they need to stick with love stories, festivals, marriages and saas bahu dramas, not take up social messaging which is clearly out of their subject matter expertise.

Originally posted by: V_ka_attitude

Messaged BV and she says what I am saying is unnecessary! and that all adopted kids are happy. I told her I didn't doubt that adopted kids were not happy - I was talking about the young anu not fitting the orphan profile - again kids are either adopted at a very early age and they don't remember anything else, or if they are adopted at a later stage come with a lot of anxiety, fear, rejection, hard time making bonds etc - and I have seen this myself with many families adopting here in the US - Yes post-adoption they are family there is no distinction but the circumstances from where they come are different and what shapes them

Also that there were loopholes in her scripting - that needed to be explained that the process takes a long time and it is strenuous for all parties involved! You can't waltz in and take a child to the beach! There are no gove rules! What is that?

She doesn't care for my opinion - She cannot accept that she is wrong - Oh well...

these are Bhavana Vyas' responses:

I know what the procedure is

I am adopted. I am the happiest person I hv ever seen. Since childhood.

Anyways there is no point in the discussion

all u want is to rant on something, baccha khush to problem.

Don’t bug on unnecessary things. Thanks. Please.

On that note - this writer/producer has no clue how to properly deal with such topics - that's why they need to stick with love stories, festivals, marriages and saas bahu dramas, not take up social messaging which is clearly out of their subject matter expertise.

She said she is adopted? Hmmm.

Look, I'm not saying children are not happy or joyful who are in orphanage. But there are too many crap things happening in the show right now which makes zero sense absolutely.

And yes you are right, it's mostly only young kids ( babies or toddlers) that are adopted to ensure a healthy bond between parents and child. I wish you would have asked her, if this friend of Anuj is running an illegal orphanage, considering it doesn't come under govt laws - because they are giving a very unrealistic picture to the society. It almost looks like people have come to do shopping, found one pretty dress and picked it up to take it home

Sometimes i feel the other shows are much better than this one. Atleast they don't touch social issues and mess this up completely.

Another one i am terribly afraid off is the intercaste track they want to bring. The way they are handled DV and the way they are handling the adoption, i don't want this to happen. But this may just blow up in shahi's face in a really really bad way...