Anuj’s character and a preposterous analogy - Page 3

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Whats so inappropriate? Cannot you love a person full life

Yes its tough to get such humans in real life in 21 st century because ppl are basically selfish and think about themselves only

So ideally by now anuj should have married for 20 years and had teenager kids

But he stayed single

Nothing is divine in anuj. Thats called a good decent human who livves for his family and love and helps all around even enemies

Before people were like that they took care of younger siblings after marraige too took care of parents took care of friends or cousins in 1950s and 60s may be

Now no one does does not mean we cannot imagine such a person in todays time

Anuj definetly is not Lord Krishna inspiration that could be vanraj

Anuj is more like romeo or majnu or salim etc who would do anything for their love

What is so great in that?? Isn't that the whole point and the very convenience of casual relationships , to derive pleasure without the hassle of commitment . And he was smart enough to not marry, as multiple intimate relationships might be normal in USA but multiple failed marriages aren't appreciated even there , let alone in India.

and btw did you just call vanraj an inspiration from krishna ,just think before you write . Krishna is the supreme himself , nature resides in him. Him associating with nature (having multiple relationships) is like someone caressing one's own hand , couldn't be termed as lust or anything carnal.

Support doesn't mean being dependent on someone completely.

Aur bas kyunki akele aye hain duniya mein sab, zaroori nahi ki life-long akele hi rahe.

People can maintain their individualities even when being in a relationship if it's with the right person.

Unrealistic yeah, I get where it comes from and I agree to an extent that such looooooooong lasting love is very very rare but wouldn’t tag it impossible.

I don’t think his love is inappropriate in any way at all, he actually is setting benchmarks for appropriately treating the lady you claim to love by being genuine listener, respectful, not expecting any reciprocation of feelings, motivator and most importantly by admiring Anu for her traits (I know not everyone would like or advocate to have those traits, even I don’t for some exaggerated questionable “Mahanta” that Anupama displays), but nonetheless Anuj admires her for her traits and not for superficial factors…so I find his love respectable and worthy of praises that he is getting.

coming to analogy with Krishna-Draupadi first then to Meera-Krishna and now with Radha-Krishna, I absolutely agree they don’t give much of the thought about how these are even relevant, it’s just plain selective picking for heavy dialogues that’s all, I think it’s primarily to validate the storyline for TRP audiences which may find it hard to digest that friendship or love for a mother and a divorcee is ok, but yes I don’t really like these analogies at all.

Firstly no one called Anuj Krishna (as you said he is GOD and a Supreme being)

When people say ki aapki shiv Parvati jaisi Jodi ho, doesn't mean that they are calling them as God.

Anuj's love has been more like his devotion for Anu, because he loved her from 26 years without any expectations or conditions, just like meera or radha was devoted to krishna.

It's the devotion aspect and love that is being compared, not of stating human as a God🤪

No one is justifying him sleeping with multiple women with krishna, there is no justification needed also for that.

He was single, and he had all rights to be with anyone and in any kind of a relationship with consent of the both the parties involved in that relationship.

His love for Anu is compared as being as devoted as meera was to krishna.

And as far as talking about it being realistic or unrealistic that's difficult to say.

In a population of 7 billion people, you will find all kinds of people, with all kind of unique stories and unusual forms of love.

Just because something is rare, or not common, doesn't mean it can't exist.

Anyway, at the end of the day, it's just a fictional show, meant for entertainment purposes and probably to look at certain things with a fresh perspective, and a broader mindset.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

But the point to prove which which Anuj has entered the show, is something I have a problem with. It has ended up proving a point for the (regressive) viewers, that a woman needs to always be in atleast one romantic relationship or dependent on someone. Whatever wrong with Anupamaa was fixed, it was by Anuj's efforts or money and was mostly never her own doing.

Additionally, I find Anuj to have zero sense of self-respect like Anupamaa does. Just as insults towards HasLee are triggers for Anupamaa, Anuj's triggers are insults towards GK and Anupamaa, but rarely towards himself.

Why is self-deprecation seen as a virtue is beyond my comprehension!!

👍👍👍couldn’t agree more.

@bold1: It is destructive to the whole point of Anu being self sufficient, I would have loved more if they had shown Anu getting some small responsibility in Kapadia hotel project based on her ability and understanding of how food matters in one’s day to day life (the idea that she presented) and through project work progress Anuj noticing, knowing and ultimately falling for her, I just can’t buy that a college crush can be this deep and mature, no it can’t be…at that age many don’t even know what’s good from bad for themselves so loving someone for such mature traits is highly impossible…..,,buuuut that train is missed long before so…..

@bold2: that’s very deep rooted in our social or moral standards, and selflessness and self deprecation are very very different things. And in the end shows run for numbers.

it was lovely to read your POV

Originally posted by: IndominusRex

First don't misinterpret my words , you know i clearly didn't mean that.

and yes to love someone does require a certain heart.

I did not misinterpret. Infact, I asked for clarification. And please elaborate on your vague sentences, I'd genuinely like to know what you would mean by a 'certain' heart?

Originally posted by: IndominusRex

By unrealisic I meant the whole Love of anuj is fake , an idea regarding love that cannot be applied on humans especially casanovas.

I believe your only concern so far has always been his past affairs regardless of duration. And comparing them to Gopika's krishna has....

First please read again all those Gopika's worship Krishna and Radha together. Krishna relationship with them was one of devotion only. Krishna Rasleela is divine, it's just music and dance nothing else, even today in so many temples people celebrate there love for God in this way. Mata ka jagrata is nothing but Rasleela, in that sense.

Honestly when you say word Rasleela in this sense, it's derogatory.

All those Gopika's are said to reincarnation of saint's who prayed to years to get this opportunity to worship Krishna.

Coming to Anuj's comparison with Krishna in serial, it's never about Rasleela. It's about purity of love, Krishna knew because of curse, he can never marry Radha. Similarly here Anuj knew he can never marry Anupama as she got married yet he continued to love her. That is one part of his life, which never died. Another aspect of his human life was where he tried moving and came in contact with girls at times with biological needs and others with intention to move on. His love was compared to Krishna never him as person.

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

Firstly no one called Anuj Krishna (as you said he is GOD and a Supreme being)

When people say ki aapki shiv Parvati jaisi Jodi ho, doesn't mean that they are calling them as God.

Anuj's love has been more like his devotion for Anu, because he loved her from 26 years without any expectations or conditions, just like meera or radha was devoted to krishna.

It's the devotion aspect and love that is being compared, not of stating human as a God🤪

A man may love a woman but at the same time would also view other women as people with feelings (in terms of humanity.) . Vanraj is disliked because in the pursuit of finding everlasting happiness in marital life he played with the feelings of kavya and anupama , when clearly he was incomplete in himself . He never seemed to consider his faults . Exact is the case with anuj , he had affairs , girlfriends , tried to fill up his incompleteness through other women and girls , the process which would have resulted in even more kavyas and anupamas , obviously for a shorter duration of time.

Originally posted by: IndominusRex

I'm seriously against the use of krishna's character by the show to justify a petty human's biological urges.

Anuj’s hindu calendar birthday being on the same day as janmashtmi , gk addressing him as kanha and describing all that number of matrimonial options , devika calling him prem bhakt , young girls wishing him to be their groom when clearly he is of their uncle’s age (mandir scene) , anuj being seen as the kanha in anupama’s life whether as a friend or lover , and most importantly kapadia himself elaborating his varied and failed relationships with women without a tinge of shame . Clearly the show has been trying to analogise him with krishna . He is described as some 'all women want that guy' type when clearly he is like any other man standing at traffic signal.

First, I don't think someone calling someone Kanha/ Lord Krishna's blessing is wrong. Lots of people do that for people they love. Devika calls him a devotee of love, those girls can marry whoever they wish to. If you still feel like they're using a diety for justifying something wrong, by all means, file a complaint with the BCCC.

Sooo if I summarize correctly you have a problem with the way he's portrayed - that he is special- and you think he is not?

That's okay, everyone has an opinion. It's your love and energy that makes someone special. I'm sure any other man standing at the traffic signal could also be loved, and thus considered special by who loves them.