Leela had a valid point

P.S.

I am very happy that Anupamaa has finally moved out of the house and truly appreciate her for that, coming to Baa she was completely wrong to barge into the kaarkhaana and create a scene before the entire family and Bapuji or hasmukh was right to tell her off.

However the language he used with her where he was claiming sole ownership over the property and treating Baa like she is a freeloader of some kind, that was wrong. And I can understand why she reacted and ranted before everyone in the harshest manner regarding his economic status and ability.

Yes Vanraj was wrong, he is a chauvinist and what not, but he was always a good son, brother and father. He too has made a lot of sacrifices which are indeed being overlooked while Anupamaa's are being put on a pedestal.

They can go and celebrate Diwali or any festival they want with Anupamaa, but is it right to neglect Vanraj, Baa, Kavya and Leela in this process? Like spending the entire day with her but leaving the Shah house empty? That is also wrong.

Why should Leela interefere and bad mouth everyone? She was quite when Vanraj said all those stuff to Dolly. Why the double standard? Vanraj had an affair right under her nose. It was okay and he should be allowed to because he's a man and Anupama can't have male friends. Vanraj could being his friend Kavya to his house.

It is our words and actions that alienate others. The way she snapped at Kinjal for taking the halwa, the way she got papers signed by Anupama and mutely watched as Dolly was made to sign... She scripted her alienation.

Originally posted by: Rein123

P.S.

I am very happy that Anupamaa has finally moved out of the house and truly appreciate her for that, coming to Baa she was completely wrong to barge into the kaarkhaana and create a scene before the entire family and Bapuji or hasmukh was right to tell her off.

However the language he used with her where he was claiming sole ownership over the property and treating Baa like she is a freeloader of some kind, that was wrong. And I can understand why she reacted and ranted before everyone in the harshest manner regarding his economic status and ability.

Yes Vanraj was wrong, he is a chauvinist and what not, but he was always a good son, brother and father. He too has made a lot of sacrifices which are indeed being overlooked while Anupamaa's are being put on a pedestal.

They can go and celebrate Diwali or any festival they want with Anupamaa, but is it right to neglect Vanraj, Baa, Kavya and Leela in this process? Like spending the entire day with her but leaving the Shah house empty? That is also wrong.

@ Bold and Underlined..

I totally agree with your point..

Vanraj is a chauvinist and he did behave very badly with Anupama BUT he is such a good son and brother.. he never ever disrespected his dad even though he was the bread earner of the family.. 14 is pretty young age..

In this aspect, he is better than Anupama..

Why didn’t she ask her mother to stay with her?

Why don’t she misses her mother like she misses Baa?

Why don’t she think to cook and care for her mother? I see Anuj more at her home than her mother..

With what rights, Bapuji got ready to stay at Anupama’s place?

What if Anupama is staying at her Mayka, Will Bapuji go and stay at Anupama’s Mayka?

Why didn’t he shift to Dolly’s Place ( His Own Daughter )?

He never corrected Baa or Vanraj and took stand for Anupama when she needed it badly and dependent on Family.. Now when she is independent and needs no one, he is taking her side? Why?

At the end of the day, one should stay with their family and mend things..
Its a shame to stay at Ex-Bahu’s place just bcos your wife insulted you.. Didn’t he snap fingers at her and asked her to leave? Was that a respectful way to ask some to leave? Bapuji started it all..

Why can’t he just leave to his Village or Stay in his room at his home?

Forget once that Vanraj is a bad husband and think..

Vanraj shared his responsibilities and Burdens at a very young age.. got dolly married, built home and always respected him, listened to him..

In comparison with Vanraj, What did Anupama do for Bapuji? How can he leave his son’s home?

I won’t say money is more important than love in life but the fact is.. money is equally important to live a happy life..

The one and only character whom I consistently dislike is Bapuji..

Forget about retiring early, passing all his burdens to his son..

According to me, he never ever corrected Baa and Vanraj when needed.. He is the root cause for this broken family.. Everybody respects him, all he need to do is speak which he didn’t earlier and even now he is the reason for building more gap.. why can’t they visit Anupama, greet her and get back to their home and celebrate?

Why didn’t he wants to spend time with his wife?

Had he told them, let’s go back and celebrate at home after spending some time at Anupama’s place.. he could have avoided this mess..

Anupama can celebrate with her mom, bro, nephew , Devika, Anuj and GK.. It’s not that she is alone..

Why can’t he see, the young couple Toshu and Kinjal are celebrating separately?

He didn’t correct Vanraj and Baa back then cos he needed someone to take care of him.. He is speaking against of them now cos Anupama is financially independent and can take care of him well.. Simple!

Originally posted by: moonwearer

Why should Leela interefere and bas mouth everyone? She was quite when Vanraj said all those stuff to Dolly. Why the double standard? Vanraj had an affair right under her nose. It was okay and he should be allowed to because he's a man and Anupama can't have male friends. Vanraj could being his friend kavya to his house.

It is our words and actions that alienate others. The way she snapped at kinjal for taking the halwa, the way she got papers signed by Anupama and mutely watched as Dolly was made to sign... She scripted her alienation.

I never said that was right, this topic is in reference to money aspect and responsibilities of a husband and father which she pointed when he tried to pull the property ownership card against her, not about Vanraj cheating on Anupamaa or about having male friends. It's solely about hasmukh's double standards regarding ownership between a husband and wife, he had a problem with Vanraj locking out Anupamaa from the house at night, but he literally did the same thing to leela saying the kaarkhaana is his alone like how Vanraj claimed the entire house since he was the one who built it.

Besides that, yes she did remain mute when Anupamaa was made to return her share in the house along with Dolly but then again who is she to question Vanraj over there? He was indeed the one who built and raised that house now didn't he? Leela has a problem with only Anupamaa not the rest of the family members and its not like she wanted that to happen, it just happened in the heat if the moment. When you're family supports a supposed outsider over you that is how a person normally reacts.

Originally posted by: vivacious

@ Bold and Underlined..

I totally agree with your point..

Vanraj is a chauvinist and he did behave very badly with Anupama BUT he is such a good son and brother.. he never ever disrespected his dad even though he was the bread earner of the family.. 14 is pretty young age..

In this aspect, he is better than Anupama..

Why didn’t she ask her mother to stay with her?

Why don’t she misses her mother like she misses Baa?

Why don’t she think to cook and care for her mother? I see Anuj more at her home than her mother..

With what rights, Bapuji got ready to stay at Anupama’s place?

What if Anupama is staying at her Mayka, Will Bapuji go and stay at Anupama’s Mayka?

Why didn’t he shift to Dolly’s Place ( His Own Daughter )?

He never corrected Baa or Vanraj and took stand for Anupama when she needed it badly and dependent on Family.. Now when she is independent and needs no one, he is taking her side? Why?

At the end of the day, one should stay with their family and mend things..
Its a shame to stay at Ex-Bahu’s place just bcos your wife insulted you.. Didn’t he snap fingers at her and asked her to leave? Was that a respectful way to ask some to leave? Bapuji started it all..

Why can’t he just leave to his Village or Stay in his room at his home?

Forget once that Vanraj is a bad husband and think..

Vanraj shared his responsibilities and Burdens at a very young age.. got dolly married, built home and always respected him, listened to him..

In comparison with Vanraj, What did Anupama do for Bapuji? How can he leave his son’s home?

I won’t say money is more important than love in life but the fact is.. money is equally important to live a happy life..

The one and only character whom I consistently dislike is Bapuji..

Forget about retiring early, passing all his burdens to his son..

According to me, he never ever corrected Baa and Vanraj when needed.. He is the root cause for this broken family.. Everybody respects him, all he need to do is speak which he didn’t earlier and even now he is the reason for building more gap.. why can’t they visit Anupama, greet her and get back to their home and celebrate?

Why didn’t he wants to spend time with his wife?

Had he told them, let’s go back and celebrate at home after spending some time at Anupama’s place.. he could have avoided this mess..

Anupama can celebrate with her mom, bro, nephew , Devika, Anuj and GK.. It’s not that she is alone..

Why can’t he see, the young couple Toshu and Kinjal are celebrating separately?

He didn’t correct Vanraj and Baa back then cos he needed someone to take care of him.. He is speaking against of them now cos Anupama is financially independent and can take care of him well.. Simple!

I am actually wondering, how come he isn't staying over with Dolly and Sanjay? Why all the burden on Anupamaa? Is not Dolly not his own daughter?

And yes Anupamaa has a problem with staying in her maayka or bringing her mom over but she is okay with letting hasmukh stay over? Why such preference for her sasuraal waale over her maayka?

Baapu Ji just needs a place to be fed & someone to take care of him. He has always been kinda selfish

Vanraj may have been a good son but two wrongs don't make a right. He was a good son, but not the greatest father and a shit husband

Where he stayed quiet in front of his parents he took all that frustration out on Anupamaa & Samar. Where he respected his mom, he allowed the mother of his children to be disrespected. Where he worked hard and humbly handed money to his parents, he used that same money to taunt & control & humiliate Anu

Every virtue Van may have has been washed away by all his vices.

Will keep it short..

Dolly doesn’t see Bapuji as a Master.. to her, he is a father..

As of now, He needs a servant who can take better care of him than a family..

So, Bapuji prefers Anupama over Dolly .. LOL

The thing is festival sabko fun loving ,positive and light hearted logo ke sath manana acha lagta hai !

Leela, Kavya and vanraj kitne months se sirf negativity faila rahe isiliye sab inn teeno se durr bhag rahe hai! After all kisko 24/7 negativity ki dukaan ke sath reh kar celebrate karna accha lagega!🤢

Agar leela ko itna he family ka company chahiye tha festivals mai toh bare minimum 4-5 din toh bina negativity failaye sab ke sath reh kar dikhati! But no tyohar ke days mai bhi leela was busy with society, anuj and anupama drama!

Baa vanraj already know the day anupama left . Bapuji is upset with baa vanraj so how they can expect hasmukh to celebrate diwali with them

And also Even after bapuji getting upset leela stil did not keep quite. First she snatch right of anupama snatching her share then she keep saying dekhna is baar anupama ki diwali kaali hogi

Leela ko agar family ke saath diwali manani to khub manaye but why she was saying anupama jki diwali kaali hogi

Jub bapuji ko yeh sub nahin pasand hai to aisi baat keh kar bapuji ko aur kyon upset kar rahi hai leela . Jub itna upset karegi leela to bapuji ka kahan se man karega vanraj aur leela ke saath diwali mananeka

Aaj tuk leela ne kya kuya bapuji ko khush rakhne ko?

Leela ne yeh bola tha ki anupama ki diwali kaali hogi. To jo doosre ka bura sochte hain unhi pe bat aa jaata hai

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

Baapu Ji just needs a place to be fed & someone to take care of him. He has always been kinda selfish

Vanraj may have been a good son but two wrongs don't make a right. He was a good son, but not the greatest father and a shit husband

Where he stayed quiet in front of his parents he took all that frustration out on Anupamaa & Samar. Where he respected his mom, he allowed the mother of his children to be disrespected. Where he worked hard and humbly handed money to his parents, he used that same money to taunt & control & humiliate Anu

Every virtue Van may have has been washed away by all his vices.

Am not one among them who thinks..

Ram is always right, Ravan is always wrong..

Ram’s bad deed is considered as “Leela” and Ravan’s good deed is seen as “Two wrongs doesn’t make one right”

There is no two species.. like Good people and Bad people..
People are GRAY..

Every person holds both the good and bad qualities and have their share of Virtues and Sins.

Vanraj never loved Anupama and it’s easy to show your frustration on a unloved person, that’s what he did which is WRONG but this doesn’t make him any Bad Son.

He is wrong when he is wrong, He is right when he is right and it applies to every single human being..

Not just Anupama, Vanraj and Baa too sacrificed so much for the family.. Didn’t Baa said, She slept on empty stomach many a times but fed Hasmukh and the children well?

Apart from Bapuji, I don’t hate any of the characters.. I stick to the point, he is the root cause for everything that is happening..

To me, every person is good.. everyone holds frustrations and they vent it out one or the other day and the words that come out of the mouth then are definitely hurting.. Happens with everyone but the intensity differs from person to person.

I detest those, who doesn’t take a right stand at right time when they are pretty much in authority and capable..