Talking about separation - Page 2

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I also want to say thing ki local mein matlab ek city mein rehte hue kaun bacche apne parents se alag house mein rehte hain

I have never seen jub parents aur bache ek city mein kaam kar rahe hon to parents aur bache ke alag alag ghar mein reh rahe hon

Yes maine anupama ko alag rehne ko kaha kyonki vahan jo main reason hai vanraj aur kavya bhi reh rahe hain

But if we leave divorce adultery and all. Support vanraj ne anupama ko cheat nahin kiya hota aur anupama aur vanraj shuru se happy married couple hote

To ek city mein rehte parents aur bache alag rahe yeh baat mujhe unrealistic and illogical lagi

Kyonki aisa maine aaj tuk dekha nahin ki ek city mein rehte hue parents aur bache alag makaan mein rehte hon

Bolded lines: Surabhi, yeh tum ek city ki baat kar rahi ho, meine village mein dekha hai ki bache apne parents se alag rehte hai, that too in India...Tumhari yeh line ne mujhe shock kar diya...

Surabhi sach mein Ahmedabad mein bhi yeh chalta hai

Agar hamaare yahan ek city mein rehte hue parents aur bache alag alag makaan mein rahe to log yeh kehna shuru kar dete hai ki ek city mein parents aur bache alag reh rahe hain to iska matlab jaroor jhagda hoga parents aur bache ki beech tabhi to ek city mein rehte hue parents aur bache alag makaan mein reh rahe hain warna ek saath nahin rehte ek city mein hote hue

I have seen lot of family and Even my relative agar grand parents parents and grand children agar ek city mein reh rahe hain to sabhi ek hi makaan mein rehte hain koi alag alag makaan lekar nahin rehta

Mumbai main toh mostly alag rehte hai if, bcoz yahan sab flats main rehte hai 1bhk ya 2 bhk, its not easy to afford big apartments. So it is better to live seperately, bcoz if u have more than 1 kid then shaadi ke baad its difficult to stay in such small apartments and then bacche bhi honge.

So yahan toh normal hai. Infact my parents also started living seperately in 2 years of marriage, bcoz then unke chote bhai ki bhi shaadi ho gayi thi and ghar chota pad raha tha.

Alag hona is ok and fine, only thing is tum kaise alag hote ho is important, sabko ache se mana ke jao, so there is no kadvahat when you leave and and don't let that awkwardness come in your relationships.

He can be available for their parents in bad situation even by staying seperately. Like we were always avbl for our grand parents. And meri mummy bhi humesha bolti hai, saath rehke relationship main kadvahat aaye isse acha alag ho jao, relations toh maintain rahenge.

Leys see Toshu actually kya karta hai. Aaj jo usne baatien boli woh shanti se bhi samjha sakta and in better words, that also without Rakhi being present. He could have told Rakhi let me first talk to my family and kinjal alone. But sidha Rakhi ko leke aana is not correct.

According to me his decision se zyada the way he executed his decision or they way he decided to communicate his decision was wrong.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Agar hamaare yahan ek city mein rehte hue parents aur bache alag alag makaan mein rahe to log yeh kehna shuru kar dete hai ki ek city mein parents aur bache alag reh rahe hain to iska matlab jaroor jhagda hoga parents aur bache ki beech tabhi to ek city mein rehte hue parents aur bache alag makaan mein reh rahe hain warna ek saath nahin rehte ek city mein hote hue

I have seen lot of family and Even my relative agar grand parents parents and grand children agar ek city mein reh rahe hain to sabhi ek hi makaan mein rehte hain koi alag alag makaan lekar nahin rehta

Sad reaction isiliye diya kyunki yeh sab jagah hota hai. Ahmedabad mein bhi hota hai. That's why alag rehna bhi is like a stress

Mere papa ko yeh sab sunana nahi pada tha, kyunki papa village se sheher mein aaye the. Par mere neighbour hai unke parents aur woh couple alag alag rehta hai aur sab baate banate hai and they are in Ahmedabad

But this shouldn't matter if you are too firm to stay separate

Originally posted by: neo7

Mumbai main toh mostly alag rehte hai if, bcoz yahan sab flats main rehte hai 1bhk ya 2 bhk, its not easy to afford big apartments. So it is better to live seperately, bcoz if u have more than 1 kid then shaadi ke baad its difficult to stay in such small apartments and then bacche bhi honge.

So yahan toh normal hai. Infact my parents also started living seperately in 2 years of marriage, bcoz then unke chote bhai ki bhi shaadi ho gayi thi and ghar chota pad raha tha.

Alag hona is ok and fine, only thing is tum kaise alag hote ho is important, sabko ache se mana ke jao, so there is no kadvahat when you leave and and don't let that awkwardness come in your relationships.

He can be available for their parents in bad situation even by staying seperately. Like we were always avbl for our grand parents. And meri mummy bhi humesha bolti hai, saath rehke relationship main kadvahat aaye isse acha alag ho jao, relations toh maintain rahenge.

Leys see Toshu actually kya karta hai. Aaj jo usne baatien boli woh shanti se bhi samjha sakta and in better words, that also without Rakhi being present. He could have told Rakhi let me first talk to my family and kinjal alone. But sidha Rakhi ko leke aana is not correct.

According to me his decision se zyada the way he executed his decision or they way he decided to communicate his decision was wrong.

Nice to hear you after a long time Niyati ❤️

I am like situation jaise demand kare waise hi alag hona chahiye. In place like Mumbai, its obvious to stay separate. I have been in Mumbai with my brother when he was doing a job and the bill of expenses was much big. Upar se jagah bahut chhoti pad jaati hai joint ke liye.

Alag rehna mere liye bhi normal hi hai. Par readymade ghar jo khud couple ke mehnat ka nahi hai, woh hamare liye normal nahi hai. My father stayed in much poverty in Ahmedabad and whatever he has now, is because of himself. Toshu will not even face one percent of hardship which Vanraj saw and that's itne chaude mein bol raha hai ki mein alag jaunga. Alag jao, romance karna hai tumhe, bahar jao paseene chhut jayenge, mehnat karte karte. Readymade ghar milega, bina mehnat ke maid milegi, isiliye bol rahe ho tumhe alag rehna hai. Rakhi will bear the expenses, so what was the need of marrying. Grihasthi kya basai tumne. Do your hard work and then have the guts to speak

Toshu, insuuted everyone and that was wrong

Let Toshu buy a house with his own sweat and then think for separation. Itna self respect to sab mein hona hi chahiye. And that makes me angry 😡.

But hamaare yahan aisa nahin chahe lade jhagde but agar ek city mein reh rahe hain to parents grand parents aur children ek hi makaan mein rahenge

Hamaare yahan bhi parivaar mein chote bade jhagda hota hai ki tumne use mere bare mein aisa kyon bola but agar ek city mein hai to parents grand parents aur children saath hi rahenge chahe ghar mein ramayan jaisa mahol ho ya mahabharat ho jaye

Doosron ko bolne ka mauka nahin denge ki tumhare yahan to jhagda hota rehta hai

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

Nice to hear you after a long time Niyati ❤️

I am like situation jaise demand kare waise hi alag hona chahiye. In place like Mumbai, its obvious to stay separate. I have been in Mumbai with my brother when he was doing a job and the bill of expenses was much big. Upar se jagah bahut chhoti pad jaati hai joint ke liye.

Alag rehna mere liye bhi normal hi hai. Par readymade ghar jo khud couple ke mehnat ka nahi hai, woh hamare liye normal nahi hai. My father stayed in much poverty in Ahmedabad and whatever he has now, is because of himself. Toshu will not even face one percent of hardship which Vanraj saw and that's itne chaude mein bol raha hai ki mein alag jaunga. Alag jao, romance karna hai tumhe, bahar jao paseene chhut jayenge, mehnat karte karte. Readymade ghar milega, bina mehnat ke maid milegi, isiliye bol rahe ho tumhe alag rehna hai. Rakhi will bear the expenses, so what was the need of marrying. Grihasthi kya basai tumne. Do your hard work and then have the guts to speak

Toshu, insuuted everyone and that was wrong

Let Toshu buy a house with his own sweat and then think for separation. Itna self respect to sab mein hona hi chahiye. And that makes me angry 😡.

@bold - totally agree, kuch nahi toh apni self respect ke liye bolta rakhi ko main alag ho jaunga but rahunga rented apartment main. And aage jaake by chance Toshu and kinjal main differences aaye, And knowing Rakhi Dave woh ek minute nahi lagaegi ehsaan jatane main ki tumhe job bhi maine di amd ghar bhi maine diya rehne ko and ghar ka kharcha bhi uthaya. Agar rakhi ki jagah koi aur hita who would have been understanding MIL, toh shayad main phir bhi chalo maan leti ko thik hai, kinjal ka khudka ghar hai toh rent main paise kyun daale, better use that money for future saving. Bit ye rakhi ka bharosa nahi hai, woh ehsaan ginane main ek minute nahi lagayegi and not necessary sirf Toshu ko sunaye woh Shah parivaar main kisiko bhi ye ehsaan jata sakti hai. Uss perspective se sochna chahiye, ki uska penthouse accept karna chahiye ya nahi.

Atleast apne khudke paiso se alag reh rahe ho, kisiko kuch sunane ka mauka toh nahi milega.

And ya I agree, Mumbai is very costly.

I will still be very on and off here.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

But hamaare yahan aisa nahin chahe lade jhagde but agar ek city mein reh rahe hain to parents grand parents aur children ek hi makaan mein rahenge

Hamaare yahan bhi parivaar mein chote bade jhagda hota hai ki tumne use mere bare mein aisa kyon bola but agar ek city mein hai to parents grand parents aur children saath hi rahenge chahe ghar mein ramayan jaisa mahol ho ya mahabharat ho jaye

Doosron ko bolne ka mauka nahin denge ki tumhare yahan to jhagda hota rehta hai

Mere pariwaar ko to sach mein bhagwan ka aashirwaad hai ki, jhaghade hote hai, par hamare manbhed kabhi nahi hue. We all wanna stay together.

But kai kai families mein jhaghada bada roop le leta hai, to lagta hai tum alag hi raho to shaanti. Woh jaghade pariwaar ke bahar aa jate hai aur phir alag rehna hi padta hai.

I am giving an example, Ek Devrani ne Jethani se bola ki "Mind your language while talking to me" Since that day, they are not in talking terms. Its been 6 years and they are not talking to each other. Jab baat karte hai tab jaghada karte hai. To ghar mein hi sabne decide kiya, now you should separate

Originally posted by: surabhi01

But hamaare yahan aisa nahin chahe lade jhagde but agar ek city mein reh rahe hain to parents grand parents aur children ek hi makaan mein rahenge

Hamaare yahan bhi parivaar mein chote bade jhagda hota hai ki tumne use mere bare mein aisa kyon bola but agar ek city mein hai to parents grand parents aur children saath hi rahenge chahe ghar mein ramayan jaisa mahol ho ya mahabharat ho jaye

Doosron ko bolne ka mauka nahin denge ki tumhare yahan to jhagda hota rehta hai

But ye wrong thinking hai na. Zaroori nahi log sirf jhagde ke wajah se alag ho. Apni sahuliyat ke liye bhi alag reh sakte hai. Alag hone ko crime kyun samjha jaata hai? And hum saath sirf isliye rahe taaki log kuch na bole, ye toh sahi baat nahi na. Saath tabhi rehna chahiye jab mann se saath rehna chahte ho, naa ki iss darr se ki log kya kahenge, warna khud bhi dukhi hoge aur dusro ko bhi dukhi karoge, zabardasti logon ke darr se saath rehke. Kuch tih log kahenge, logon ka kaam hai kehne. Hum apni life ke decisions iss basis pe lene lage ki log kya kahenge tih ho chuka kalyan humara.

Originally posted by: neo7

@bold - totally agree, kuch nahi toh apni self respect ke liye bolta rakhi ko main alag ho jaunga but rahunga rented apartment main. And aage jaake by chance Toshu and kinjal main differences aaye, And knowing Rakhi Dave woh ek minute nahi lagaegi ehsaan jatane main ki tumhe job bhi maine di amd ghar bhi maine diya rehne ko and ghar ka kharcha bhi uthaya. Agar rakhi ki jagah koi aur hita who would have been understanding MIL, toh shayad main phir bhi chalo maan leti ko thik hai, kinjal ka khudka ghar hai toh rent main paise kyun daale, better use that money for future saving. Bit ye rakhi ka bharosa nahi hai, woh ehsaan ginane main ek minute nahi lagayegi and not necessary sirf Toshu ko sunaye woh Shah parivaar main kisiko bhi ye ehsaan jata sakti hai. Uss perspective se sochna chahiye, ki uska penthouse accept karna chahiye ya nahi.

Atleast apne khudke paiso se alag reh rahe ho, kisiko kuch sunane ka mauka toh nahi milega.

And ya I agree, Mumbai is very costly.

I will still be very on and off here.

Bolded lines: Exactly, Rakhi paltu chhe game tyare game te boli shake. That's why I dont like her interference much. Better Toshu show some self respect, today Toshu is a loving Damaad for Rakhi, but tomorrow when because of Toshu, Kinjal has to suffer to saare ehsaan ginane beth jayegi

Purple: It is costly, savings to ho hi nahi pata. Par tya street food ma Dosa male e ahi thi sasta hoy chhe 😆

Italics: Aaj aap aai bahut achha laga