y do ppl hav so many expectations?!!!

hello guys..

Recently, my 12th board exam results were out. I am quite a gud student.. in teh hence tat i've always been one of the toppers in my class.. but this year, i had not been tat well prepared for my boards. My marks are not really all tat bad.. but everyone has been having huge expectations from me. My 80% is very low for everyone!! i really dont have any problem.. nor do my parents... but my uncles and other relatives..🤢
They all dont seem to understand tat this is MY life and i want to pursue a career tat i wud enjoy.. i cant imagine workin at a place tat i hav no interest in!! They all want me to do doctoring or engineering! but i want to do architecture. They keep taunting me indirectly tat i want to do arch only bcoz of my low marks in boards!! tat sux!! i really wanted to do arch rite frm the begining. This really hurts me... my parents dont have any problem with my marks or my choice of degree.. but i feel so bad tat they hav to undergo all the bad-mouthing about me frm my so-called relatives!! this is really SICK!! many of my aunts and uncles, of whom i've never known till now, call asking for my marks and wat i'm gonna do. y do they bother!! if my parents dont have a problem with me doing architecture, wats it to them!!
WHY is it tat all careers barring engineering or doctoring considered unworthy?!! WHY do i have to put up with such ppl?!!! i hate this.. sometimes i feel its all my fault.. tat i dint score well.. but then, i was busy preparing for my arch test.. and i've got a good NATA score and can get into a good architecture college now.. why do ppl luv putting me down so much!! they keep siting examples of their sons/daughters who are engineers cleverly erasing the fact that they got into the so-called good engineering colleges by paying.. ie, literally buying their seats. I got into an architecture coll w/o my parents having to spend extra money.. purely by merit!
This is SSOO SICK!! i so dont deserve this! sometimes i wish i cud just talk bak at them, wacking them on the fact tat their children got in only due to the expensive management seats!!

i just had to let it all out somehow.. I cant stand it now!! i feel miserable wenever any of those ppl come home

do help me..

If you yourself and your parents are happy with the results don't let anyone else bother you... as you said this is your life and the most important thing is that ur parents are with you... don't let any comments against you hit you but just let it pass through and you just continue with what you want to do... yh ok they are ur family and you can't just turn ur back to them... when they say be a doctor etc... just listen to them and take it in nicely that doesn't mean you have to obey upon them... just take it in as an advice the final decision has to be made by you

You do what you want to do... you're the one who will have to do it not anyone else... architecture is gr8!and I'm sure you'll reach ur dreams... 👍🏼

i knw yaar....i hav seen my cusins in exactly dis position n my bro too....hez is vrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry gud student...he gav 12 dis yr too.....but he go 95 in maths.....he says he knew dat he wil get 95 but oders dats d relatives(not all of dem)r too ga-ga ovr dis...n he jst too irritateed....c its liek dis evrywere...so u really cnt hlp dis.....u cnt shout at dem...so its bttr keep quite n b silent....jst do wel in ur cumin xams n yrs....n hsow dem wta u r!dats jst d way 2 react
Congratulations n Best Of luck for ur future life! 😊

Originally posted by: rukhaya

If you yourself and your parents are happy with the results don't let anyone else bother you... as you said this is your life and the most important thing is that ur parents are with you... don't let any comments against you hit you but just let it pass through and you just continue with what you want to do... yh ok they are ur family and you can't just turn ur back to them... when they say be a doctor etc... just listen to them and take it in nicely that doesn't mean you have to obey upon them... just take it in as an advice the final decision has to be made by you

You do what you want to do... you're the one who will have to do it not anyone else... architecture is gr8!and I'm sure you'll reach ur dreams... 👍🏼

your right.. i shudnt care abt wat they say..
the only problem is, i cant stand them for blaming me for getting "low" marks
thanks a lot for replying... i hope i become a gr8 architect too😳

Originally posted by: tukz_REmix

i knw yaar....i hav seen my cusins in exactly dis position n my bro too....hez is vrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry gud student...he gav 12 dis yr too.....but he go 95 in maths.....he says he knew dat he wil get 95 but oders dats d relatives(not all of dem)r too ga-ga ovr dis...n he jst too irritateed....c its liek dis evrywere...so u really cnt hlp dis.....u cnt shout at dem...so its bttr keep quite n b silent....jst do wel in ur cumin xams n yrs....n hsow dem wta u r!dats jst d way 2 react
Congratulations n Best Of luck for ur future life! 😊

wow!! ur bro got 95 in maths!! tats really good!
ya.. i cant talk bak..
thanks a lot😳 i guess i just hav to prove tat my career choice is not at all bad...

if your family is fine with you doing wat you want .. then others shud not hav a problem with your choice or career... if your parents are happy wid you doing archetecture then you shud be happy and do it.. aslong as you have your parents then you dont need the rest... 😊

first o all....congrats....I hope i cud score tht well in 12th!
U noe here, everyone in 12th got real bad marks...the least in 6 yrs {if tht makes u feel better}
but seriously ur marks really good..
but thats how it is..
ppl have expectations frm u all the time..
But u cant always make everyoen happy...
Have u heard the saying ''the ones who matter dont mind
and the ones who midn dont matter''
same thing here...
Do what u want to..
and ur parents also have no problem with it...
Cause now its not just beign a doc thts a big thing...
u have mre Innovative careers...
And here goes another saying : Choose a profession you like and u
wont have to work for a single in your life''..
So right now..do what you want...
Its all abotu chasign your dream {nt others}

p.s>> after all architecture needs creativity
and creativity need courage....
all the best!

Originally posted by: nsheena

hello guys..

Recently, my 12th board exam results were out. I am quite a gud student.. in teh hence tat i've always been one of the toppers in my class.. but this year, i had not been tat well prepared for my boards. My marks are not really all tat bad.. but everyone has been having huge expectations from me. My 80% is very low for everyone!! i really dont have any problem.. nor do my parents... but my uncles and other relatives..🤢
They all dont seem to understand tat this is MY life and i want to pursue a career tat i wud enjoy.. i cant imagine workin at a place tat i hav no interest in!! They all want me to do doctoring or engineering! but i want to do architecture. They keep taunting me indirectly tat i want to do arch only bcoz of my low marks in boards!! tat sux!! i really wanted to do arch rite frm the begining. This really hurts me... my parents dont have any problem with my marks or my choice of degree.. but i feel so bad tat they hav to undergo all the bad-mouthing about me frm my so-called relatives!! this is really SICK!! many of my aunts and uncles, of whom i've never known till now, call asking for my marks and wat i'm gonna do. y do they bother!! if my parents dont have a problem with me doing architecture, wats it to them!!
WHY is it tat all careers barring engineering or doctoring considered unworthy?!! WHY do i have to put up with such ppl?!!! i hate this.. sometimes i feel its all my fault.. tat i dint score well.. but then, i was busy preparing for my arch test.. and i've got a good NATA score and can get into a good architecture college now.. why do ppl luv putting me down so much!! they keep siting examples of their sons/daughters who are engineers cleverly erasing the fact that they got into the so-called good engineering colleges by paying.. ie, literally buying their seats. I got into an architecture coll w/o my parents having to spend extra money.. purely by merit!
This is SSOO SICK!! i so dont deserve this! sometimes i wish i cud just talk bak at them, wacking them on the fact tat their children got in only due to the expensive management seats!!

i just had to let it all out somehow.. I cant stand it now!! i feel miserable wenever any of those ppl come home

do help me..

well u should chose wht u want every one will let go after some time u should do wht u want not wht others want 😊

I am really sorry to hear this that you have to go through this most of the time right. I think you should do what you want to do and another thing even though if your paretns listen to your relatives not you. You stil should do what you like because you don't want to do something for whole life that you don't like. The most important thing is that its your life and you have the rights to what you want to do. You should just ignore everyone else and try to be happy with what you are and what you want to do in future. Let me tell you this story maybe It'll help --- Actually I use to go to work on weekends my boss called my mom one day that I was talking to this boy you know how old indian ladies have negative thinking sometimes. She called my mom and told her that I was talking to some boy at work, talking back, and my mom believed her. After that I had to listen to my mom's lecture everyday When I used come home and then next week I told her -- my boss that next time if you have any peoblem with me don't call my mom just tell me I won't come to work ever again with her. anyways GOOD LUCK to you.

80%? Thats AWESOME..i would never get that high! 😆 Anyways, i know how you feel..Even people we know are aanyoing, they just have to know what other people's children have..I don't mean to sound rude, but you should reply saying "Well do you think you could get 80%? Its very easy to accuse others but you should look into your self first, and see if your good enough for that mark. Seriously don't let anybody put you down, because at the end of the day, you are an independant, its your choice what you want to with life, not theirs, so ignore all these people and just focus on your aim. If your parents are happy, you should be happy too.. If this problem does'nt stop, Tell your parents to talk to your uncles/aunts that they need to back of..