14 Year Old Girl In Trouble...Pls Help... - Page 4

Originally posted by: anon

yep thats true, i agree here.😳 As most people only realise once symptoms are occuring which forces them to act on this and take a test or go to the doctors.😳 So did she go to the doctors on an off chance😳

Even though as soon as you have dine the thing you can pregnant, the chnces are you do not realise until quite a while after😳

she dint plan n e thing!.....she does this monthly check-up thing.....and she went for it alone....and there the doc. told her......

Originally posted by: anon

yeah thats with the mornig after pill, thats all i umm know,😳 Well as in western socities more young girls get pregnant, here in Uk in good schools a lot goes towards educating the young about health, and safe sex for later on in life, they make it clear intetion is to know about it, and that they are not promoting for you to go n have s*x. 😊 So every year we have PSE classes, well i did in the past when i was younger, and one part of this personal social education is teaching about that. When in year 7 they wil just talk to you on puberty etc that changes will happen in your body. As you grow older they teach you more. So ate age 16 they taught on contraceptives, all different kinds and they mentioned the pill also, so i remember lot from their.

See good schools teach on that, for you to be aware. However bad schools here, the kids know nothing, and it was quite shocking for my peers, when new ppl joined our skl n they used to ask all questions n we learned that years ago n they have no clue. 😳

sorry goin slightly off topic, but key here is to educate young ones for later on in life and they are aware of concequences to their actions.

So here at least we can advise others.😳

And yeah all i remember on morning after pill is that it u can only use it 72 hours after the event. However it is used an a emergency contraceptive --not really used as because u simply could not b bothered to use precautions at the time. But yeah too late 4 this pill now. But i am sure the one to abort the foetus works in same way. I am not sure on what procedure is here, for an abortion. I know different procedures happen depending on how far into the pregnancy it is.

If indeed here its a pill then like morning after pill what that does from wht i have been taught is that it basically empties the contents of your stomach out and is like a heavy monthly cycle😳

a pill!??? 72 hrs?........is that like 3 days?.....god! iam clueless!😭

Yeah I agree with Saira.

But if she doesn't want to tell her parents then she should go to an abortion clinic and ask them for the pill and they will tell her how to use it.

BTW does she wants to keep it?

Originally posted by: anon

ok

How to guide her:

Explain to her her options, that she is 14 a kid herself best thing to do is tell her parents.

Ok yeah i know she did not plan this kid, i meant how did she find out, ok by this monthly check up thing. ok so now it is confirmed.

So how many weeks is she pregnant by now??

The pill only works up until 3 days after u have had s*x, but that wont work now, anyways as she is pregnant already.

So best thing to do here and the only thing is to tell her parents anyhow.

B4 it gets too late for her.

They will know what the next steps are for her, and what procedures are. 😳

Theres not much you as a friend can do apart from b there 4 her and help her tell her parents. 😊

oh thankyou thankyou sooooooooo much!😊

this really helped.......

and shes told her parents......her elder sister.........and also the guy.....😊

but she told me this today......she wants 2 keep it!

now what on earth do i say 2 that!😭

Originally posted by: prithvi lover

oh thankyou thankyou sooooooooo much!😊

this really helped....... Thats good to hear.

and shes told her parents......her elder sister.........and also the guy.....😊 Thats a good step taken. What was their reaction?

but she told me this today......she wants 2 keep it! What? She wants to keep the baby. At the age of 14. That is worrying. She too young to do this. You must encourage her that it's not a good idea. You dont understand how diffcuit to have a baby and to grow this precious little kid into this world. She must be at an age to do this. Mostly, when she's finally settled into life, complete with her studies, got herself a job, able to stand on her two feet and whilling to consulate a perfect and solid relationship. She is going to miss the wonderful years of youth and teenagers if she has this baby. Try and explain to her not to. Im telling you, as I know a friend who's also the same age as me and already had 2 kids within the age of 18 but she was married at 16. Which, was a devastrating as I wanted her to succeed in life.

BTW has she told her parents about she wants to keep the baby because, you must tell her parents and they will guide her to the right path. Having a baby at a young age is a diffcuit challenge to do, as she will lose the fun and the baby will be affected.

now what on earth do i say 2 that!😭 My answers are written in lilac.

Originally posted by: prithvi lover

oh dear!......shes not a WEEK pregnant!........shes a MONTH pregnant!.........she went 2 da clinic about an hour ago....and from dere she called me up! .....my god!....and she wants 2 keep it!....she is sooooooooo not working! 😭

Poor girl, I want to be there and give her a mega lecture right now. Tell her not to keep it shes 14 man! Not 30!

Originally posted by: anon

Ok thats goood she has tld her parents, how did they react???

Yeah see , a month pregnant, if she delayed it then months would have gone by.

Look now she has told her parents, i guess it is for them to guide her....you have done the best you can for her but now it is up to her and her parents and the guy.

Yes she is a kid herself so you should explain wht wil happen if she keeps the baby, but at the end of the day her parents are the only ones that can do something.

I agree with you.