Update on my autistic child. - Page 4

So glad to see you both stay positive and patient. I have learned that these two are the key.

I understand why you used to be a little scared. I am not a mom but could still feel how it would feel to a parent if one's child is treated like this. Kids are innocent and learn whatever elders teach them to right? It is sad that elders think this way. It is unfortunate but there are more people in the real world like "Mrs. Gupta" than people with acceptance. Please continue to allow Rish to meet other children as even one acceptance is far batter than 10 rejections.

tvrocks, That was a nice post. ⭐️
We still avoid most noisy and crowded places. I stopped taking my son to the kids' haircut shop because of the loud music, tv, kids crying--it all drove him to screaming, and one time, when the electric razor was buzzing near his face, he went ballistic. A woman near us said very loudly, "God, why don't they do something? He looks too old to be afraid of haircuts!" Her husband replied, "There's something wrong with him. Look at him!"
That really sucked, and after that, I started taking him to my own hairdresser, who is very smart. She made him stand up and she buzzes his hair (faster that way, shorter torture time) with no problem.
He has his favorite places and activities, mostly where there are open spaces for him to run. We got him a wagon and my husband takes him for long walks every evening. When he is tired, he climbs into the wagon and rides like a king.Though he is a mostly silent kid, he is a very energetic and athletic one!
All the small shop owners in our town know him because he sprints up and down the main road with his father. He gets lollipops and candies which end up in his sister's lap.😆😆

Mahika.

Mahika, that's so cute... lucky sis too, she gets all the candy :)!!!

Hi Mahika and Swapna feels so good reading you both!!

Thanks everyone again for your support and good wishes.

You are right, Swapna, we must just focus on our kids and brush off the loonies.

We took the kids swimming this weekend. My daughter swims like a fish, and this was my son's first time in the pool. He LOVED it!!! No fear, just belly laughing and sheer joy. My daughter showed him how to kick by holding his legs, and he picked it up very quickly, with one of us holding him. We will definitely put him in a class, now that we know he is not disturbed by the noise (indoor pool, so there is a lot of echo). He swam twice a day for three days, and slept very deeply at night. Hah!👏

My husband had a pretty funny guy's perspective on Aditya's failed attempts to communicate with Vidya. Every time Aditya emotes, he groans out loud, so I finally said, "Okay, what????" and he said, "OMG, he is just playing his cards too soon. Even if he cheated and has an illegit kid, he is not helping his case by acting like a doormat. Whenever Vidya gives an inch, Aditya jumps in to say Oh, will you be Antara's mother? or Vidya, I love you so, and whatever love she might have been rediscovering for him is squelched flat once again."

I found this very interesting, so I said, "Maybe the producers are trying to portray him as a new age guy, more in tune with his feminine, expressive side." My husband fell off the couch laughing, very much like the emoticon---🤣.....

So oh well, I am forced to conclude that when men and women sit and watch the same exact soap, they still see such different things.

Is your son back to school yet, Swapna? These guys are back. We used a toy school bus to indicate that the bus would be coming, but still he cried when he stepped onto the bus, and the last view I had of him was of him with an upside down mouth😔 and wiping his tears with the heels of his hands. But I saw his teacher after school and she said he was great, and didn't have any tantrums.

Mahika.

How funny Mahika, that's typical guy perspective is'nt it? :)

Okay, scuse me while I vent. It seems I am fated to meet with weirdos who have inappropriate reactions to life with autism.

A few people we know were laughing at us and making derisive comments about our little vacation. Apparently we are silly for doing a local hotel getaway when we could have gone to Niagara or "somewhere more cool."

I explained very patiently that travelling very far with my son is not very easy as yet, and with his food and sensory issues, we would need a kitchen to cook for him, plus separate hotel rooms, which gets expensive, but still we are considered very mock-worthy....I guess they a) don't realize the day to day of living with more severe forms of autism, and b) think we should just stay home and not go anywhere? With no family around to visit, we do the best we can to give the kids a holiday. Gee, sorry if it's not good enough for Joe Schmoe next door....👎🏼

Thanks for letting me vent.

Mahika.

Mahika honey... there's a saying that my husband uses all the time when he encounters such ass***es: "When elephants walk the road, dogs always yap around their feet!!!" I think that one saying sums it up very well... people with small minds thinks in very small ways.

WAHAHA, Swapna! You are too funny. I have chai all over my screen now...😆

I won't even say "Hope you get to experience what we are going through" coz you know what, no autistic child deserves to live with weirdos. snicker

Mahika.