Why the hate? - Page 2

You've raised a nice question... but I agree with starstruckk. Kashaf was freaked out a little bit... & Zaroon shouldn't have insisted her to come on the front seat... & he should have understood her point... because in last episode he said the same thing to his sister Zara... why doesn't this applicable on Kashaf... I feel Zaroon over reacted at that time... Plus he knows that Kashaf doesn't believe him... if he thinks that women should not travel all alone so late at night that should be applicable equally to Kashaf... why he objected to Zara only or for that matter Asmara... he is contradicting himself... the issue is Zaroon's big ego...

Along with the points mentioned above, I also think Kashaf wants to be self reliant. She doesn't want to accept gifts or favours she can't return, especially from the privileged class.

Originally posted by: Star_girl

I mean I get it. Zaroon, for Kashaf symbolizes everything she was not allowed to have. Money, social status, luck, good looks, happiness, everything. But when Zaroon dropped her home tonight, the least she could do was manage a genuine thank you. For whatever reasons, the fact remains that Zaroon did help her in need. He did not have to. Yes, he has his sinister agenda, but he did deserve an acknowledgement from Kashaf tonight.

Which brings me to my question, why does Kashaf hate Zaroon so much? Why does she need to get into arguments with him? Is it merely an extension of her misandry and distrust of men in general, or is it person-specific? Like Zaroon, I too was wondering about the same. Does Kashaf dislike all men, or is her resentment specially reserved for Zaroon?

Would love a discussion on the same.

Guys, sorry for being a little late, but absolutely fabulous points. I really wanted to discuss and understand Kashaf as a person, and all of you brought up some wonderful points.

I find Kashaf to be sensitive , vulnerable but has strong will power and dignity . She is watching this situations in her family from the time her father married again and left them to fend themselves . Her mother brought them up with values and self respect . She has seen her mother struggling . You get fed up with this going on life sometimes when you look at the attitude of your father who never leaves a opportunity to insult her mother . How she can trust a man . I find her very normal girl ,living in these kind of conditions .

Originally posted by: Neerjaa

{ Yes, Kashaf's rudeness is her defence mechanism, her way to avoid getting close to people, but rudeness is not excusable either. It's not about Zaroon, it's about everyone. }

If you look at Kashaf ,s background and struggle of her family , then one can understand her not trusting the man , She sw her father,s behavior who gave damn to them and their mother . Mother is carrying the responsibilities of her daughters . Anyone can be cynical . Kashaf is more sensitive and do not have patience to call spade a spade . Father comes and insults mother which daughter will stand silently and listen t this . Its the circumstances which makes you rude and Jaroon has quite a reputation in the university ,why she has to be friendly with him , Its her choice . Atleast watching the female with self respect and dignity .

Agree with your above line .

Anne,I had the same question in mind. But then again,I can understand whats going on in her mind,partially atleast. Except for the not saying thank you part.

Originally posted by: The.Patthaaka.

Anne,I had the same question in mind. But then again,I can understand whats going on in her mind,partially at least. Except for the not saying thank you part.

According to Freudian theory,if a person is attracted towards another being,it seems to him/her that he needs to seek control of that being(in all honesty,control of himself is more accurate.) when he fails at gaining control of that being(again,more precisely himself),he tends to react negatively towards that being. all in a desperate attempt to gather control of himself.

Kashaf felt threatened by him,as well as by her own emotions.

Although,this still doesn't explain the not saying "thank u" part. Everything else that happened that night is understandable. The way Zaroon kept insisting on coming and sitting beside him must have made Kashaf wonder what's going on in his mind.
Here Jaroon,s reputation proceeds him as all girls are fida on him . Kashaf priority is study and she is from different situation where family is struggling to keep afloat . She does not want to be one in the crowd of Jaroon,s admirers. And naturally she will wonder why he is time and again coming to her .
This insecurity might also be a result of her not understanding males. Not understanding that some of them CAN actually mean well.

As for male she has seen her father and the sufferings of her mother ,so trust matter takes a backseat .

Zaroon of course was mending his ways feeding on his own ego,but not THAT night. He helped her out and she blew it.Period.
The background she is coming from and middle class , people will not stop pointing fingers at her character.And i found her answer to Jaroon was practical about her alone with him . How much she knows Jaroon ?

Whose fault was it.Dont know. Ive been around Zaroon kind of liberal men mostly,so in that case,Zaroon wasn't wrong.Not at all. But knowing how Kashaf's mindset is,I totally get her perspective too.

Man I remember how I was when I had got into a co-ed study atmosphere. I looked at every guy with "shakki nazarein" as though he is trying to get his hands on me 🤣 Its natural.

Its not that if you are in Co.ed institution that you can not have healthy friendship . But here its different with Kashaf , she has to be careful where her father is ready to point finger at her and insult her mother .

No Neerjaa,I dint mean friendly relationships are not possible. I meant,when a girl enters a co-ed atmosphere for the FIRST time,she's bound to feel threatened to a certain extent by the opposite sex.