Yeh Rishtey Hai Pyaar Ke Live Updates/EDT 24 Aug 2020 - Page 19

Originally posted by: Gaurirane366

Ab sab post padane ke baat episode dekhu ya nahi aisha ho raha hai

The best thing for Mishti is to fall on sasuma’s feet to solve the issue. Coz this issue is already out of her hands!
or is the track to make Kuhu believe that Mishti never thought ill about her! Waise bhi, I doubt if Kuhu will believe Mishti even a tiny bit, even if Mishti gives her life for her!

Originally posted by: abhilashasharma

you go and watch. You will have your own viewpoint! When I watch last week 3 episodes together over the weekend. I sort of liked it!

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

My two cents.... *warning this will be long*😵

• Mishti: Proud of her for trying to explain her long built-up frustration, guilt, dilemma and annoyance, in regards to her relationship with Kuhu. She is completely right, in saying that her relationship cannot be mended and fixed overnight. This is not something that will be solved just by forcing, pushing her and Kuhu together. This requires mutual and equal efforts from both parties in the battle, in order to come up with a suitable solution. THAT is what Mishti is trying to explain to Abir; no matter how much, how many or whatever Mishti tries to do and pacify, talk, discuss and make Kuhu understand - it just won't work. For Mishti, trying to explain anything to Kuhu has become like talking to a deaf person/to a brick wall. Kuhu has pushed and tested Mishti's patience way to much and so far that she's now pushed it over her breaking point. Well needed, there is only so much Mishti can put up with, she gains the strength and courage to not take anymore of Kuhu's tantrums because she felt she was safe and well supported by Abir and the rest of her family. And now seeing Abir's mixed reactions and BP emotional speech & Meenu's ultimatum - she's once again at cross roads of guilt vs frustration. We have seen numerous times over the show, when Mishti herself has brushed Kuhu's mistakes under the carpet for the sake of family and respect, but still given Kuhu her own-style of punishment (just scolding her). And each every time that happened, it goes through Kuhu's one ear and out the other - the only thing she holds on to is the fact that Mishti is still fighting with her, rather than remaining quiet. It is not sensible nor practical to expect Mishti to be the only mature one in the relationship, you cannot expect her to resolve the distance and hostility between the sisters one her own, when Kuhu herself doesn't even comprehend what she is doing is wrong and why? Mishti is finally coming to realise that she cannot keep on tolerating Kuhu, nor put up with her tantrums, because it no longer just affects her, but her relationship with Abir as well. It is great to see her have these open conversations (even if they are heated arguments) with Abir about her issues with Kuhu - THIS is a long overdue, given how much she's been hiding about their reality ever since kuku's haldi drama. She needs someone like Abir to be able to get all this off her chest, since she hasn't been able to complain about all this to BM and BP (due to her 'ehsaan' wala pyar). These are the kinds of things that make mishbir's relationship so intriguing, so realistic and so beautiful to watch unfold. Hopefully by the end of all this, either Mishti and Kuhu do find a way to be cordial with one another OR Mishti realises, that is it is better for them not to live under the same roof and is convinced to agree with Abir's long-time wish to stay away from family at least for sometime.
• Abir: Proud of him really trying to get to the bottom of this twisted dark hole, with the help of BM and BP. Like I mentioned a few days back, Abir is not used to handling fights and quarrels of this kind. His arguments with his mother are whole other ball-game - it is based on clash of ideologies and opinions on real issues, such as gender equality, family responsibilities etc. Unlike the sister's fights are solely based on blaming, misunderstandings and annoyance, 'she said this, she did that, how dare she say this, who gives her the right to do that, I didn't do it, she did it' and so on. Abir knows and understands that Mishti and Kuhu cannot be overnight besties, but at least they can remain genuinely cordial (similar to him and Meenu - they have their disagreements, but they do not allow those personal differences to cause rifts in the family, and when it comes to dire circumstances, they stand in support of each other). Yes, it's a practical and sensible expectation, and it's not out of character because that's how he has grown up and understood relationships. However, Abir cannot expect Mishti to keep up this level-headed responsible role, time n time again especially when Kuhu is being so unreasonable and unsporting. This is one of Abir flaws when it comes to relationships - he forgives way too easily, since he is just that innocent and kind-hearted soul. Although Mishti is also easy to forgive and forget, she doesn't let her big-heart be taken advantage for, past a certain limit. Especially when it comes to Kuhu, she has always put her sister back in her place, with solid scolding argument whenever she senses Kuhu crossing her limits. Abir isn't like that, he has never really fought for his own rights and self-respect against his family - except for only 2 occasions: 1. His quest to find Baba the missing piece to his childhood & 2. His fight to complete the missing piece to the rest of his life i.e bringing Mishti back into his life after breaking up with her. Those were the only 2 times he took stance against his family, for himself! Otherwise, he hasn't taken himself seriously at all. That's why Abir's little nautanki drama last week about feeling jealous of Kunal's achievement is such a intriguing topic. Even if he truly doesn't care whether his achievements are recognised and praised - the RV family honestly overlook his hardwork and achievements just because he works at his NGO rather than the family's business. Oops I digress...😆Anyway all I'm trying to say is Abir believes that each human has some goodness in them, which should not be taken away due to their flaws and mistakes. He believes, just because one commits a mistake, doesn't make them a horrible person; if the same person is willing to accept their mistake, seek genuine forgiveness and try to rectify it in the near future, then that's the best quality. There's no need to maintain a grudge on that person. He simply let's his anger go. Abir hasn't had any experience with dealing with someone of Kuhu's nature before - someone who doesn't accept her mistakes easily, and if somehow she does own up to it, she quickly goes back on her words/promises and returns back to her old mistakes. Abir is only now starting to learn about Kuhu's true character - The reasons for why she is quick to blame Mishti, why she doesn't realise the consequences of her deeds/mistakes & why she easily commits the same mistake again and again. He is now able to see and recognise how Kuhu feels the need to blame every small, petty issue on Mishti, he understands that Mishti has become her punching-bag. But Abir still unaware of the degree of hatred Kuhu has for Mishti, right now he still senses it's feeling of frustration, annoyance and jealousy - he is yet to find out about all the nasty insults she has thrown at Mishti's face (in their private fights); calling her a rescued puppy, taunting her she is not valued nor wanted "tu bas hai" and insulting her pyar for Abir. Unfortunately, Abir does not realise how deep-rooted hatred Kuhu has for Mishti, and that's not his fault. How is he supposed to understand the complications of this sister relationship, when Mishti and Kuhu themselves don't even know what it is. That's why he is making these efforts to learn about their childhood with the help of mah family.
• Kuhu & Kunal: Proud of nanko, trying to be the practical, rational yet still compassionate one in this whole fiasco. Kunal as usual is again assuming the role of a mediator between two cIashing horns. He has done a wonderful job of understanding Mishti's plight, but now it is time for him to step up his game as a empathetic husband. Simply being annoyed, and getting angry at Kuhu for her tantrums is not going to help at all. He needs to have more calm discussions with his wife, being a good active listener, by getting her to open up about WHY she feels the way she feels about Mishti.
• I honestly have no idea who will be the ideal person to sit with Kuhu and talk through her issues and sort out her insecurities with Mishti, because frankly anyone who says anything in favour of Mishti, is understood as bias in Kuhu's mind. She immediately feels that that the other person is favouring Mishti whilst, she is left out and misunderstood unfairly. Abir is capable of putting sense in to her head, but it is not his job to do so. Sure he shared a friendly bond with Kuhu, but at the end of the day Abir knows to draw the line at Kuhu is my brother's wife. Whereas Kuhu doesn't draw that line in her mind; for her, Abir is her friend, and so he should support her, but anytime he doesn't support her, he immediately becomes Mishti's husband. Why is that Kuhu forget this important title, when she plans, plots and curses against Mishti? How does she forget that automatic connection between Mishti and Abir as soulmates, if she harms Mishti, she is harming Abir. Abir is right to refuse the role of being a constant referee between the girls. Kunal can be a very important helper in getting Kuhu out of her insecurities and issues, but again we've seen it happen before - ever since Kunal has accepted Mishti whole-heartedly, Kuhu quickly names him as 'devar of the year'. That's why it's important for Kunal to distinguish that for Kuhu, he needs to show Kuhu that he is trying to be good husband by listening and helping her overcome her problem, rather than just siding with his bhabhi. BUT how will Kunal make her understand, when Kuhu herself is yet to understood nor accept that she has a problem. You cannot expect either of the husbands to be make Kuhu understand why she is wrong and how to solve her problem, when they themselves don't know why Kuhu is like this. Whenever someone tries to make her understand where she went wrong she immediately loses control over her rational senses and allows her deep emotions of jelousy and ager to take over. THAT is where the Varsha and Shaurya's parenting has gone wrong. Kuhu has never been taught nor understood the value of taking responsibility for your actions, nor accepting your mistakes or trying to rectify them. Neither has BM or BP called out Varsha for pampering Kuhu too much, nor put a full-stop to Jasmeet's constant Mishti taunts.
• That is why solving (or at least attempting to resolve) the sister's bond has to be done by the maheshwari family only. Only BM, BP and Varsha together can bring the girls together, and if that means the parents have to apologise for their poor parenting, then so be it. Both girls have suffered due to their twisted childhood, it's not fair to push them both away from the house, to sort these issues out like adults, when it actually roots from their childhood. This is where Meenu can be of help (instead of her dhamki), if she gave BM, BP and Varsha a good lesson about raising siblings with proper guidance, values then maybe, just maybe the maheshwari will be able to see why Mishti and Kuhu are not and cannot be like Abir and Kunal.

Okay that's enough for today. Yikes, I'm sorry for rambling on. Hope I made sense somewhere at least

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Nandu 🤗🤗

replying to both post here..

Haan that's true that SNS is much worse than here I visit selective account who are neutral only 😆

this post is just amazing jaan take a bow 👏🤗⭐️

This beautifully brings out where everyone are right n wrong n what is to be done...

Totally now I get why mah family presence is important... The influence the family has on girls is what I feared 😆

But you are right we need Meenu bp clash this time she has every right to talk n make them see where they went wrong... That will be one hell of a show n interesting I so love bp Meenu clash in past they have that authoritative aura..

Absolutely it's unfair to expect from mishti, even we don't like Abir giving in everytime, we have wanted him to become little unforgiving... So mish shouldn't not do that too...

I feel the lack of scene where anyone talking to kuhu is the cause of all this... We haven't seen anyone talking to her.. we have seen only mishbir n bp/bm talking to mishti n also abir will believe kuhu will be taken care of by kunal n others but as we all are seeing the whole picture we know the pressure is only on mishti... I hope kunal talks to her... It's time for him to handle kuhu in a calm way, she has always been there when he need someone to hear him out or be there like when his birth truth came out... It's time he step up n do his husband duties in a calmer way... N also bp/bm need to talk to kuhu but at this point I don't want any private chat let all family sit n talk there are lot of secrets between parents itself n girls ufff that's countless....

And I think only you mentioned that Abir wants mish to open up without fear that anyone will leave her...

Just bcoz she is standing up for self or has a different pov doesn't mean people will leave... He wants her to clear up all the pent up emotions all these years n get over it... over dumping things in heart is not good too... Mishti doesn't need to act for family sake that is what he wants not only from her but both girls... Don't brush it under carpet, face reality see the bigger picture... It's not about the magazine or what happened till now it's about time the girls face reality that is what is expected from them...

Even I said same nandu best agree to abirs long term wish to move out of rjv everyone will have peace... Yaa abir loves his family n she too n they can't live peacefully but the same is not happening now too...

Haan the writing kya hi bolu mai 😆 yaar we only discussed naa in nannu track too there were instance where mish bp bm Meenu abir n everyone said things which were so absurd 😆 even in baba track... It has become a habit now 😆

Originally posted by: abhilashasharma

The best thing for Mishti is to fall on sasuma’s feet to solve the issue. Coz this issue is already out of her hands!
or is the track to make Kuhu believe that Mishti never thought ill about her! Waise bhi, I doubt if Kuhu will believe Mishti even a tiny bit, even if Mishti gives her life for her!

If she falls on sasumaa feet also kuhu kahegi meri aur maa ke beech me anekeliye mishti naatak karrahi he..and will turn her against me..NO USE

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

My two cents.... *warning this will be long*😵

• Mishti: Proud of her for trying to explain her long built-up frustration, guilt, dilemma and annoyance, in regards to her relationship with Kuhu. She is completely right, in saying that her relationship cannot be mended and fixed overnight. This is not something that will be solved just by forcing, pushing her and Kuhu together. This requires mutual and equal efforts from both parties in the battle, in order to come up with a suitable solution. THAT is what Mishti is trying to explain to Abir; no matter how much, how many or whatever Mishti tries to do and pacify, talk, discuss and make Kuhu understand - it just won't work. For Mishti, trying to explain anything to Kuhu has become like talking to a deaf person/to a brick wall. Kuhu has pushed and tested Mishti's patience way to much and so far that she's now pushed it over her breaking point. Well needed, there is only so much Mishti can put up with, she gains the strength and courage to not take anymore of Kuhu's tantrums because she felt she was safe and well supported by Abir and the rest of her family. And now seeing Abir's mixed reactions and BP emotional speech & Meenu's ultimatum - she's once again at cross roads of guilt vs frustration. We have seen numerous times over the show, when Mishti herself has brushed Kuhu's mistakes under the carpet for the sake of family and respect, but still given Kuhu her own-style of punishment (just scolding her). And each every time that happened, it goes through Kuhu's one ear and out the other - the only thing she holds on to is the fact that Mishti is still fighting with her, rather than remaining quiet. It is not sensible nor practical to expect Mishti to be the only mature one in the relationship, you cannot expect her to resolve the distance and hostility between the sisters one her own, when Kuhu herself doesn't even comprehend what she is doing is wrong and why? Mishti is finally coming to realise that she cannot keep on tolerating Kuhu, nor put up with her tantrums, because it no longer just affects her, but her relationship with Abir as well. It is great to see her have these open conversations (even if they are heated arguments) with Abir about her issues with Kuhu - THIS is a long overdue, given how much she's been hiding about their reality ever since kuku's haldi drama. She needs someone like Abir to be able to get all this off her chest, since she hasn't been able to complain about all this to BM and BP (due to her 'ehsaan' wala pyar). These are the kinds of things that make mishbir's relationship so intriguing, so realistic and so beautiful to watch unfold. Hopefully by the end of all this, either Mishti and Kuhu do find a way to be cordial with one another OR Mishti realises, that is it is better for them not to live under the same roof and is convinced to agree with Abir's long-time wish to stay away from family at least for sometime.
• Abir: Proud of him really trying to get to the bottom of this twisted dark hole, with the help of BM and BP. Like I mentioned a few days back, Abir is not used to handling fights and quarrels of this kind. His arguments with his mother are whole other ball-game - it is based on clash of ideologies and opinions on real issues, such as gender equality, family responsibilities etc. Unlike the sister's fights are solely based on blaming, misunderstandings and annoyance, 'she said this, she did that, how dare she say this, who gives her the right to do that, I didn't do it, she did it' and so on. Abir knows and understands that Mishti and Kuhu cannot be overnight besties, but at least they can remain genuinely cordial (similar to him and Meenu - they have their disagreements, but they do not allow those personal differences to cause rifts in the family, and when it comes to dire circumstances, they stand in support of each other). Yes, it's a practical and sensible expectation, and it's not out of character because that's how he has grown up and understood relationships. However, Abir cannot expect Mishti to keep up this level-headed responsible role, time n time again especially when Kuhu is being so unreasonable and unsporting. This is one of Abir flaws when it comes to relationships - he forgives way too easily, since he is just that innocent and kind-hearted soul. Although Mishti is also easy to forgive and forget, she doesn't let her big-heart be taken advantage for, past a certain limit. Especially when it comes to Kuhu, she has always put her sister back in her place, with solid scolding argument whenever she senses Kuhu crossing her limits. Abir isn't like that, he has never really fought for his own rights and self-respect against his family - except for only 2 occasions: 1. His quest to find Baba the missing piece to his childhood & 2. His fight to complete the missing piece to the rest of his life i.e bringing Mishti back into his life after breaking up with her. Those were the only 2 times he took stance against his family, for himself! Otherwise, he hasn't taken himself seriously at all. That's why Abir's little nautanki drama last week about feeling jealous of Kunal's achievement is such a intriguing topic. Even if he truly doesn't care whether his achievements are recognised and praised - the RV family honestly overlook his hardwork and achievements just because he works at his NGO rather than the family's business. Oops I digress...😆Anyway all I'm trying to say is Abir believes that each human has some goodness in them, which should not be taken away due to their flaws and mistakes. He believes, just because one commits a mistake, doesn't make them a horrible person; if the same person is willing to accept their mistake, seek genuine forgiveness and try to rectify it in the near future, then that's the best quality. There's no need to maintain a grudge on that person. He simply let's his anger go. Abir hasn't had any experience with dealing with someone of Kuhu's nature before - someone who doesn't accept her mistakes easily, and if somehow she does own up to it, she quickly goes back on her words/promises and returns back to her old mistakes. Abir is only now starting to learn about Kuhu's true character - The reasons for why she is quick to blame Mishti, why she doesn't realise the consequences of her deeds/mistakes & why she easily commits the same mistake again and again. He is now able to see and recognise how Kuhu feels the need to blame every small, petty issue on Mishti, he understands that Mishti has become her punching-bag. But Abir still unaware of the degree of hatred Kuhu has for Mishti, right now he still senses it's feeling of frustration, annoyance and jealousy - he is yet to find out about all the nasty insults she has thrown at Mishti's face (in their private fights); calling her a rescued puppy, taunting her she is not valued nor wanted "tu bas hai" and insulting her pyar for Abir. Unfortunately, Abir does not realise how deep-rooted hatred Kuhu has for Mishti, and that's not his fault. How is he supposed to understand the complications of this sister relationship, when Mishti and Kuhu themselves don't even know what it is. That's why he is making these efforts to learn about their childhood with the help of mah family.
• Kuhu & Kunal: Proud of nanko, trying to be the practical, rational yet still compassionate one in this whole fiasco. Kunal as usual is again assuming the role of a mediator between two cIashing horns. He has done a wonderful job of understanding Mishti's plight, but now it is time for him to step up his game as a empathetic husband. Simply being annoyed, and getting angry at Kuhu for her tantrums is not going to help at all. He needs to have more calm discussions with his wife, being a good active listener, by getting her to open up about WHY she feels the way she feels about Mishti.
• I honestly have no idea who will be the ideal person to sit with Kuhu and talk through her issues and sort out her insecurities with Mishti, because frankly anyone who says anything in favour of Mishti, is understood as bias in Kuhu's mind. She immediately feels that that the other person is favouring Mishti whilst, she is left out and misunderstood unfairly. Abir is capable of putting sense in to her head, but it is not his job to do so. Sure he shared a friendly bond with Kuhu, but at the end of the day Abir knows to draw the line at Kuhu is my brother's wife. Whereas Kuhu doesn't draw that line in her mind; for her, Abir is her friend, and so he should support her, but anytime he doesn't support her, he immediately becomes Mishti's husband. Why is that Kuhu forget this important title, when she plans, plots and curses against Mishti? How does she forget that automatic connection between Mishti and Abir as soulmates, if she harms Mishti, she is harming Abir. Abir is right to refuse the role of being a constant referee between the girls. Kunal can be a very important helper in getting Kuhu out of her insecurities and issues, but again we've seen it happen before - ever since Kunal has accepted Mishti whole-heartedly, Kuhu quickly names him as 'devar of the year'. That's why it's important for Kunal to distinguish that for Kuhu, he needs to show Kuhu that he is trying to be good husband by listening and helping her overcome her problem, rather than just siding with his bhabhi. BUT how will Kunal make her understand, when Kuhu herself is yet to understood nor accept that she has a problem. You cannot expect either of the husbands to be make Kuhu understand why she is wrong and how to solve her problem, when they themselves don't know why Kuhu is like this. Whenever someone tries to make her understand where she went wrong she immediately loses control over her rational senses and allows her deep emotions of jelousy and ager to take over. THAT is where the Varsha and Shaurya's parenting has gone wrong. Kuhu has never been taught nor understood the value of taking responsibility for your actions, nor accepting your mistakes or trying to rectify them. Neither has BM or BP called out Varsha for pampering Kuhu too much, nor put a full-stop to Jasmeet's constant Mishti taunts.
• That is why solving (or at least attempting to resolve) the sister's bond has to be done by the maheshwari family only. Only BM, BP and Varsha together can bring the girls together, and if that means the parents have to apologise for their poor parenting, then so be it. Both girls have suffered due to their twisted childhood, it's not fair to push them both away from the house, to sort these issues out like adults, when it actually roots from their childhood. This is where Meenu can be of help (instead of her dhamki), if she gave BM, BP and Varsha a good lesson about raising siblings with proper guidance, values then maybe, just maybe the maheshwari will be able to see why Mishti and Kuhu are not and cannot be like Abir and Kunal.

Okay that's enough for today. Yikes, I'm sorry for rambling on. Hope I made sense somewhere at least

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xxx

Making kuhu understand is like - who can tie bell on cats’ neck!

Pushing Mishti over and over again, isn’t going to do any more good! She never exerts her rights on anyone, except Abir that too mostly in private! What more could she do when don’t have any hold any where

Originally posted by: Gaurirane366

article aaye hai .. Aur ganesh aarti ke waqt kaveri ke leg par bandage hai

Originally posted by: Just_Smile

oh okay, so it's good na..we are relieved for this bacha thing for few more episodes😆

Originally posted by: Gaurirane366

injury badi nahi hai sirf foot par bandage hai

Originally posted by: Just_Smile

itni choti injury ke liye sorry and all also too much na. 😆 waise I would prefer mishti in hospital ..bechari ko tension bahut hogaya jab se shaadi ki😭 atleast hospital mein rest milega🤪