Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus
Part 3: Kuhu, Kunal and rishtas
A/N: This is such a complicated relationship, and the couple have dug themselves such a long, deep, dark rabbit hole that it’s going to take an extensively big redemption story, to get them back on the right track and avoid from falling into a grave .There are many layers and backstories to these characters, hence this section is definitely not enough for them.
very true nandu they have lot of layers as an individual n also in their relationship.. cant even guess their redemption..
Back to ep80 – BP questions Kunal [“Kya aap Kuku ko pasandh karte hai?”];Unlike Abir in ep136, Kunal’s answer here is quite vague and cleverly covers up his real intentions. Instead of expressing his feelings about Kuhu and whether he has whole-heartedly accepted her for who she is and ready for the rishta, he simply says [“Haan, uncle.”] then declares he would do the same for Abir, as Kuhu hid her feelings when the rishta changed to Mishti.
i think bade papa guessed the rounded answer either family or single word answer.. maybe thats one of the reason BP didnt give his consent immediately.. even kuhu expressed her love when bp asked her.. kunal was very much silent most of the time..
All that runs in Kunal’s mind before he answers BP, is the fact that Mishti rejected him and now fears that Abir is falling in love with her (falling in to her ‘trap.’), not even one thought or feeling in regards to Kuhu crosses his mind. His entire reason to accept this rishta is on the basis of him ‘protecting’ his brother, and his ‘love’ for Abir. At this stage, Kunal still thinks of Kuhu as friend, although Kuhu is head over heels for Kunal, neither of them know each other well enough to even say they are best friends, let alone companions. Their rishta has been built on severely unstable foundations and pillars of one-sided love and illogical hatred. Over the course of Kuku’s rishta, a multitude of misunderstandings and miscommunications have piled on, which has led to both Kuhu and Kunal’s dark, convoluted and complicated behaviours.
best described nandu...👏👏 you have put it perfectly.... couldnt agree more.. 👍🏼
very true that kunal never once thought of kuhu before answering... even once mishti asked that whether kuhu knew kunal enough to get married to him but kuhu didnt take it seriously... only now she is trying to understand kunal like she herself said..
one thing i want to say... that time abhir n mishti did most of the talking in convincing family... maybe they should've encouraged kuhu n kunal to talk n let them handle it on own n jus supported them..
I know I’m side-tracking a little but, hear me out.. even in the following episode (#81), when Meenu asks Kunal to swear on her, if he has fallen in love with Kuku -> Kunal’s complexity can clearly be seen [“Kuhu buriladki nahi hain..phir bhi main uski saath galat kar raha hu…bas isi baat ke mann me regret hai, guilt hai.] Abir’s Nanko is still living in Kunal here, he even asks Meenakhshi, “why couldn’t they directly ask the Maheswari family to keep Mishti away from Abir. He questions his own mother, [“mein ye shaadi ke drama kyu kar raha hu?...Kuhu ko hurt karne ki kya zararut thi?”] The nanko in ep 81 – still had some control over his mind to be able to realise what he’s doing his wrong and correctly question his mother. But then Kunal himself partly answers his own question with -
[“mein realise kiya ki apne bhai ko Mishti se bachane ke liye, agar mein bura bhi bana padega, tho bhi mein piche nahi hatunga.”]
And this is Kunal/Nanko says the exact same thing to Abir in Mumbai during the brother’s confrontation -
[“Vo ek rishta jis ke liye mein sabse bura ban sakta hu, aur sabse accha ban sakta hu..]”
Kunal has simply not understood the true meaning of love, whether it be between brothers, between friends or between lovers. Instead, Kunal has now attached himself so tightly to his ego and hatred for Mishti, that he isn’t able to see that he is still playing and badly hurting Kuhu’s feelings by acting to fall in love with her – he has lost complete control over his mind to rationally think.
absolutely rite nandu.. all of his thoughts are about abhir only... when meenu asked to swear he didnt hesistate to deny.. and hesaid he did feel guilty n bad for doing this with kuhu.. you perfectly pointed his words then n now regarding this guilt... he cant see anything beyond abhir... really cant understand this obsession...
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Back to episode Ep 136; as we all know was simply all about Abir’s beautiful and thoughtful replies, which were all praiseworthy of Mishti’s unique and pure personality, along with BP/BM righteous parenting.
When it comes to relationships, just like Abir mentions in ep136 –
[“ek rishte ki door un do haathon me hoti hai, jin do haathon me un rishte ki lakhir hoti hai.”]
Similarly, mishti also reminds everyone in ep80 –
[“khabi kahbi families bhi bhul jaate ki, ek rishte sirf do families kebeech nahi hoti par do logon ki beech bhi hota hai.”]
wow never though this parallel nanu... niceeeee 👏👍🏼
Both Mishti and Abir perfectly remind us and their families, that although they fought hard and encouraged to bring Kuhu and Kunal’s rishta together, the families need to remember that ultimately the stability and longevity of the relationship relies in only Kuhu and Kunal’s hands. If Kuhu and Kunal truly love and care for one another, then nothing external even Abir and Mishti’s relationship should shake or break Kuku apart. But as we obviously know, Kuku's relationship was not built on love at all, and frankly neither Kuhu or Kunal are putting genuine efforts to stay together. Obviously because Kunal doesn't like Kuhu. Yes Kuhu claims she loves kunal, yes she claims she is doing everything to save her marriage, or at least for the sake of Kunal, however Kuhu's comprehension of love is also equally if not more distorted. If she spent even half the amount time and effort she took break/ruin mishbir, on trying understand Kunal; maybe she could have made some progress in at least being Kunal's friend, if not a life partner.
very well described nandu... cant think of adding more.. you said everything perfectly... actually their relationship is very complicated and they themselves are have many shades n keep oscillating so its really difficult to analyse them... but you have done pure justice in analyzing them... best yaara... 👏🤗
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Finally done with part 3. Thank you soo much for your support everyone, glad you're liking my writing and opinions . Do continue to comment and share your thoughts. Sorry for rambling a little off-track here - Kunal's character is just so complicated that it cannot be analysed or compared with just one scene or episode. xx
yaar do bring in other episode parts too if needed this makes it more appealing to read and understand.. but you have done ur best nandu... lotzz of love n applauds ❤️❤️👏👏
P.S I have even more immense respect for anyone and everyone who regularly make updates and post special stories here on IF - it truly does take up a lot of time and effort 👏
I will try to update part 4 as soon as I can. Stay tuned xx ❤️
waiting dear...
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