Originally posted by: Solitudelover
We will see that distinction btwn his feelings for Ar and Ru for sure.. Infact Ru has even said before that you have taken stand against family for Ab who is your responsibility when you couldn't take a stand for your love. But whether he can take a stand against his family to actively halt a marriage happening in just 2 days..and effectively leaving Ruhi at mandap.. Not sure whether we have reached that stage..
ya looking back though he really didnt take a stand for anything super major. for her job and education, Abhira almost single handedly fought for it herself. he just offered his silent support and that was enough for Abhira and audience too.
the only person he has really answered back has been Sanjay. multiple times.
there are definitely instances where he spoke up are-
1. when he pointed out that it must be hard for her to eat alone and to let her dine with them but that happened only after he made her apologize to Ruhi first and realized how horrible it was to dine alone
2. when he pointed out that she only spoiled Ruhi's dish to make Manisha Vidya patch up and she also deserves toffee
3. he left his case to go help her resort issue but only after ensuring Manoj could handle it
4. left his case to go look for her when she went missing at night and went to hospital when she got in accident- both of those things seem like just out of zimmedari. it wasnt really an act of defiance.
Rest he has mostly supported her after seeing her speak up for Charu, Krish, Aryan, Kiara etc
She changed the status quo and questioned things and he would see her point and offer support which in the absence of Abhira, he may have either asked cousins to simply adjust or it would have taken him ages to convince Kaveri/elders about.
So the thing is, yes he has changed due to Abhira a little bit but we need to see him properly evolve. he cant change his core obviously but he needs to be a better person, a more evolved person, a happier person.
If he is not at the stage where is able to speak up and dump Ruhi, then thats fair but he should not chase after Abhira then. let her go and let her move on. because he also knows that if he really wants Abhira in his life he either has to convince his family to accept her as she is, or force her to be someone she isnt or sacrifice being with them to live alone with Abhira. and if he is not serious enough about her , he needs to buy time for him to actually evaluate his feelings. but he cant buy time at the cost of leading Abhira or Ruhi on. that has to just be a way of him introspecting and deciding what he wants.
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