I'm confused, why is what Akshara doing bad?

Sorry, I might get some hate for asking this but I'm genuinely curious. She sees somebody going through the same pain as her and is trying to make it better.

When Akshara was going through this pain, she would have killed for someone to arrange an outing where everyone can be together a bit longer. She was not allowed even small moments of meeting Abhir with Manjari. She also had to endure Abhir's hate for the stupid stunt she pulled with him. I think she is doing what anyone who is empathetic would do, is to try to help Abhi see his son still loves him and not rip the banaid off so suddenly by doing an outing. She also wouldn't stop Abhi from seeing his son as much as possible. I just don't understand how the outing is like rubbing salt in his wounds.s

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Everyone's different! You can't measure everyone's pain in your pain ka tarazu and bring out solutions. Abhi needs and wants space he clearly told her. Yesterday also when he got drunk and thought he was hallucinating Abhir he said Mumma Papa ko kyu laaye ho sapne me toh akele aao. This clearly shows he doesn't want to see her and her husband and there's nothing in wanting space when you're heartbroken.

And until yesterday she was bashing Abhi's existence left right and centre and all of a sudden now she is like tum baap ho. And what's her issue it's not her place to say or do anything for Abhi. It's not like she has realised or acknowledged the reason for his pain is her stupid decision. She should learn to stay away and give him space!

She wanted to meet Abhir because she knew he loved her and needed her. Also she didn't sacrifice Abhir she was forced to give up. However in AB's case he wants space because his son calls someone else Papa and he knows he's not needed in his son's life and he sacrificed his rights because his son wanted so.

Akshara did not go through the same pain as Abhi. Period. Her son did not call her Jam waali aunty after she lost custody for ONE WEEK. In the one week, she met him every single day minus the actual day she was supposed to meet him, which is over the weekend. She pulled a stunt on Monday that led to the visitation rights getting cancelled and she was going through fever/abhir running away drama for the next two days. We are again in weekend now before which Abhir has told he doesn’t wanna live with his docman/dada and prefers his mom and stepdad. So no, Akshara and Abhinav did not go through the same pain as Abhimanyu. Trying to pacify him on that basis will not work…! Abhi has time and again proved that he needs space to grieve losses. Giving him the space is important as not everyone processes loss the same way. Crowding him with unwanted obligations and crying foul when things don’t go Akshara’s way has been happening for a while now.

She sees somebody going through the same pain as her and is trying to make it better.

How is her pain the same as Abhi’s? Abhi didn’t know his son existed for over 6 years. When he got to know, he wasn’t allowed to tell him. Akshara didn’t even acknowledge him as the father. And when Abhir got to know the truth, he refused to accept Abhi as his father. Abhir, even though was away from Akshara, still called her his mother. So how exactly are their pains the same?

Someone in the show commented that the outing is like rubbing salt in his wounds... how exactly?

Abhi needs time and space to cope with his heartbreak. He shouldn’t have to face Abhir enjoying with his happy family which would only remind him of Abhir not wanting to be with him, not wanting to accept him as his father. Also, the outing wasn’t specifically FOR Abhi as we will be seeing Abhinav’s birthday being celebrated. Abhi should not have to be put through this.

When Akshara was going through this pain, she would have killed for someone to arrange an outing where everyone can be together a bit longer. She was not allowed even small moments of meeting Abhir with Manjari.

Akshara was allowed to meet Abhir on weekends with Abhi’s permission. But she barged into BH almost everyday. And ended up insulting Abhi each time. Yes, she didn’t come with the intention of meeting Abhir. But Abhir did feel her presence, which made Manjari think that Abhir at this rate would never adjust to his new environment. Abhimanyu went one step ahead and made opportunities for Abhir to meet Akshara. Like the school interview and Akshara’s celebration after she cleared her law exams. He even decided to take Abhir to Kasauli when he heard that she was unwell. Abhi didn’t have to do that, but he did, because his intention was never to separate Abhir from his mother. I agree, what Manjari did with the revocation of visitation rights was ridiculous. But Abhi did not entertain that, he decided to file a petition to cancel it.

She also had to endure Abhir's hate for the stupid stunt she pulled with him.

This is called karma.

I think she is doing what anyone who is empathetic would do, is to try to help Abhi see his son still loves him and not rip the banaid off so suddenly by doing an outing. She also wouldn't stop Abhi from seeing his son as much as possible.

She is not empathetic. She cannot be unless she is put in a similar situation. What she is saying now seems very fake to me because if she felt this way, she would have never invalidated Abhi as Abhir’s father. She repeatedly told Abhi that that can never be Abhir’s father. And now all of a sudden, without any remorse, she started calling him as the father? If she is so concerned for his pain, she would begin by sitting down with Abhir and explaining to him that Abhi is your biological father who loves you, you may not accept it now but you should start to see him that way cause he loves you a lot. If she is so concerned, she would arrange for some sort of a joint custody so that Abhi will always be part of Abhir’s life and that way, he can also slowly start accepting Abhi as his father.

Bad.

No it's much more deep.

Akshara invited Birlas to a resort in order to cheer up Abhi. Nope

she had a dual purpose

to celebrate Abhinav's birthday, declare eternal love.

She did the same during Khera track

killed two birds with one stone

went for a year to Mauritius and also took Kairav along

good or bad depends on the intention

Akshara's always has her own intent

Having empathy is not what Akshara is doing right now. A part of empathy is knowing someone is hurt - which she does yes. The other part is understanding when to talk about it and when to give space - this is where Akshara always fails! Abhimanyu has told her a couple episodes back too that he needs time and will be okay! If she were empathetic as she believes herself to be - she would understand it and respect his request for space.

But all she is doing is trying to ease her own guilt about seeing him in pain - as she also admitted to him - that she only wanted Abhir with herself and thats why she was fighting him. Today also, she wants Abhimanyu to get over his pain so that she and Sharmas can be truly happy!

If she were being empathetic- she would tell him to seek help - she would inform him that he had been hallucinating when drunk - and should go to a professional - and they can talk about Abhir’s acceptance of him once he is better and comfortable to talk about it. Anyone can look after others only when he/she is himself doing well- which at the moment he is not and should not be burdened with thinking of others happiness when he is hurting himself!!

And she should explain to Abhir too - that sometimes we hurt people without wanting to but give them time and once they get over the pain - they will understand your reasons too and you shouldn’t feel guilty for speaking whats in your heart! And no matter what his Docman will continue to love him always..

If she did anything remotely like that with either of them I would have accepted that she is being empathetic. But she clearly isn’t in my opinion.

Originally posted by: PhoenixRising

Having empathy is not what Akshara is doing right now. A part of empathy is knowing someone is hurt - which she does yes. The other part is understanding when to talk about it and when to give space - this is where Akshara always fails! Abhimanyu has told her a couple episodes back too that he needs time and will be okay! If she were empathetic as she believes herself to be - she would understand it and respect his request for space.

But all she is doing is trying to ease her own guilt about seeing him in pain - as she also admitted to him - that she only wanted Abhir with herself and thats why she was fighting him. Today also, she wants Abhimanyu to get over his pain so that she and Sharmas can be truly happy!

If she were being empathetic- she would tell him to seek help - she would inform him that he had been hallucinating when drunk - and should go to a professional - and they can talk about Abhir’s acceptance of him once he is better and comfortable to talk about it. Anyone can look after others only when he/she is himself doing well- which at the moment he is not and should not be burdened with thinking of others happiness when he is hurting himself!!

And she should explain to Abhir too - that sometimes we hurt people without wanting to but give them time and once they get over the pain - they will understand your reasons too and you shouldn’t feel guilty for speaking whats in your heart! And no matter what his Docman will continue to love him always..

If she did anything remotely like that with either of them I would have accepted that she is being empathetic. But she clearly isn’t in my opinion.

Exactly this!! Instead of enforcing her way and bulldozing Abhi, she should have talked to Abhir and given them both some space and time.

I am sure their bond would have organically grown stronger, just like when they first met. Abhir didn’t like Abhi initially but he started trusting and loving him eventually without even knowing their real connection and inspite of Ak trying hard to keep both of them apart.

And I am sure in today’s episode, Abhi will keep his emotions and hurt aside and talk to Abhir so that Abhir doesn’t feel guilty for Abhi’s pain. However I think this was Akshara’s job to do, which obviously she won’t realise!!

She wants Abhi fight, to loose his self respect, barge in Goenka house and scream like AK and get insulted by Goenkas.

Ak is quite incapable of having any empathy and that is why her words feel so empty.

There can not be any empathy from a woman who tried her very best to hide Abhirs ID from Abhi.

Besides as people have pointed out she is Abhis ex, she should just move out of Abhis life and focus on Abhir and Abhinav.

If she cannot do that, then she should simply put some sense in Abhir because at this point of time, Abhi does not AKs stunts, he needs time to bond with his son.

Akshara being empathetic towards Abhi makes her bad. Akshara not caring about Abhi’s emotions makes her bad. Akshara breathing the same air as Abhi makes her bad.

But once Akshara remarries Abhi, she’ll be the best human (after Abhi of course).

Originally posted by: Noorain13

Akshara being empathetic towards Abhi makes her bad. Akshara not caring about Abhi’s emotions makes her bad. Akshara breathing the same air as Abhi makes her bad.

But once Akshara remarries Abhi, she’ll be the best human (after Abhi of course).

If she didn't care and went on a picnic with goenkas alone then too she would be a worse human who didnt show any empathy for a wailing human.. and now worst bec she brought abhim along 😆

When she didn't want abhim near abhir then too she was worse now she is worst bec she wants the same. I mean she wants abhir to acknowledge him and grow close to him.

everyone knew a 6 yr old can't live without his parents except abhim and his mummy. So why this reaction? Over their failure to make abhir Comfortable in bh or abhirs obvious choice ? Before the case all that he wanted was abhir to know he is the bio father..now why is he crying when he was ready for visitation rights earlier ?

Abhimanyus is absorbed in his pity party , it's infuriating to watch ..this is not the end of the world. He is abhirs father and he has a lifetime to bond with abhir , he has ruhi, his beloved mother , he is rich , famous doctor , anyone would swap their life with him but all he wants to focus is on what he doesn't have ..if today seems dark tomorrow will be better , a person can think positively also. Akshara behaving in the same manner doesn't excuse him and vice versa.

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