do akshara and abhimanyu really have a traumatic childhood/past? - Page 8

Originally posted by: vismaya

May I know what efforts did Aarohi put into this marriage?

Everything was served to her ready in a plate and madam on her wedding day ran away from her marriage to give exam.Imagine if the exam wasn't a scam and she wrote the exam and would be late to the venue and hence the wedding would be cancelled,then wouldn't the families hardwork and money be wasted?Would you still not blame Aarohi?

Okay she knew Abhi didn't love her and hoped,rather was confident that he will love her in the future,but how?Did she take atleast a step to impress him,or atleast talk to him or win him?I know he was not even seeing her,but if she claimed she loved him,shouldn't she be putting some efforts to win him?

Every ritual,I repeat each and every ritual has happened with Akshu and the bride herself was least bothered about anything related to Amy ritual or her wedding in general:

1.Aarohi herself asked Akshu to try out her jewelry and clothes.I mean which bride does that?It's your wedding,the shagun has come for you and you are asking your sister to wear them?

2.The card pooja was done in Akshu's name and not Aarohi.

3.Ganesh sthapna was done by Akshu and Abhi not Aarohi.

4.The engagement was not properly done.

5.Mehendi was applied on Akshu's hand and bride did not even have Mehndi on her hand and Aarohi was least bothered about it.

6.Haldi was applied to Akshu before Aarohi.

All of them literally happened in front of her eyes and she was like be cool everything is alright and normal...

Originally posted by: _charu_

Now I know why arohi and harsh are loved so much .😆 Wonder why same behavior from abhimanyu is criticized 🥱 anyways..the context in which I said what I said is as follows.

Yes , we must not.leave our goodness for bad people. Akshara and manjari are waiting for arohi and harshs acceptance . Ek Din aayega when we will see their transformation . Bec this is a serial and dhadkan is a movie , they will have a eureka moment ...akshay Kumar tolerated their nonsense but when they questioned his wife's character, he kicked them out..this is exactly what I like in any character ....but such a moment may never come in real life. The husbands who abuse their wives on daily basis , the mil who mentally abuses her dil, so on and so forth , they must quietly take it bec one day the abuser may realize something ? Are we supporting abuse here or we wanna encourage the weak to stop being a doormat ? Stop bullshitting themselves.

Yes it's my personal choice , I will pick a badtameez abhimanyu and a badtameez naira over characters like akshu ...somebody who can speak their mind and call a spade a spade....I admire akshu and manjaris pertinence but I have seen people around me, suffering ..people like akshu and manjari are made to believe that they are wrong .are we normalizing stockholm syndrome? may I ask if abhimanyu treats akshu the same way after marriage as arohi treats her , she should be nice to him and wait for him to love her ?

@bold. I guess that's what the topic is all about. Abhimanyus undignified and unclassy behavior stems from his traumatic childhood, how he has seen his father ..his helplessness that he is unable to stop his father from interfering in his life , bec his father is connected to him through his mom and his mom loves his father inspite of all the abuse....he can't leave them, ideally he should...abir of yrhpk used to run away and live in camps bec he was fed up of his mom(she was like harsh btw) ..abhimanyu is not doing it but he smartly.keeps an upper hand .

Harsh and Arohis undignified and unclassy behavior stems from their selfishness and superiority complex. That's why I like abhimanyu over them

Was it only Abhimanyu's marriage?Wasn't it Aarohi's as well?

Why is only Abhi expected to carry on 'responsibility with his would be wife?Did Aarohi make any effort?

Did Aarohi apologize to Akshu for what she is doing from childhood?

Did Aarohi apologize to Abhi for lying to him multiple times?

Why should only Abhi apologize,when both are having fair share of their mistake?

Trauma can't and should not be weighed...what's silly for you might be as traumatic for me and vice-versa.Trauma need not be only seeing death in front of our eyes. Whether Abhi has seen his father with other another woman or it's only the way Harsh treats Manjri, in either cases,it is trauma triggering incidents for a child.

Originally posted by: Indira1211

ok. I don’t think Abhimanyu had any traumatic childhood. But we can wait and see what they are going to show. I

Harsh may be forced to marry but what's with these constant insults ?he is a grown up adult , didn't he hear about divorces? Free the woman and choose a happy life..who knows manjari brought him loads of money and the hospital was also gifted to him by manjaris father so he couldn't let go off her..he used her also , insults her , treats her like doormat and doesn't let her go free ki maid toh hai . She is of some use to him.

No I don't think abhi saw harsh with another woman but he Def knows that there was another woman and Neil might be his illegitimate son . But that's another topic ..he has seen his father abusing his mother everyday , isn't it traumatic for a child to witness shouting screaming insulting his mother everyday? It does affect their behavior..if by the statistics of the topic maker , 70% of arranged marriages in india are like that ,means it's quite prevalent, harshs behavior is still not justified. Everyone is doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do..

There was a paki show , in which the son abuses his wife the same way his father abused his mother ..he developed a dual personality ..his wife divorced him bec he thought its normal to slap the woman to control her. His beating caused her miscarriage , woh ladke ko phir bhi samajh nai aaya where he is wrong. I hope abhimanyu realizes this one day , what he was doing with arohi was so wrong, still I believe he wouldn't be as bad as his father .coz he has his mother to guide him ..

Infact arohi never had a traumatic childhood, she made akshus life traumatic.. .arohi witnessed her mother's death thats it...she was pampered by the family and thy supported her through and through ..Even ignored akshu for her.. she wouldn't be a doctor without the support of goenkas.

Originally posted by: vismaya

Was it only Abhimanyu's marriage?Wasn't it Aarohi's as well?

Why is only Abhi expected to carry on 'responsibility with his would be wife?Did Aarohi make any effort?

Did Aarohi apologize to Akshu for what she is doing from childhood?

Did Aarohi apologize to Abhi for lying to him multiple times?

Why should only Abhi apologize,when both are having fair share of their mistake?

Originally posted by: _charu_

Harsh may be forced to marry but what's with these constant insults ?he is a grown up adult , didn't he hear about divorces? Free the woman and choose a happy life..who knows manjari brought him loads of money and the hospital was also gifted to him by manjaris father so he couldn't let go off her..he used her also , insults her , treats her like doormat and doesn't let her go free ki maid toh hai . She is of some use to him.

No I don't think abhi saw harsh with another woman but he Def knows that there was another woman and Neil might be his illegitimate son . But that's another topic ..he has seen his father abusing his mother everyday , isn't it traumatic for a child to witness shouting screaming insulting his mother everyday? It does affect their behavior..if by the statistics of the topic maker , 70% of arranged marriages in india are like that ,means it's quite prevalent, harshs behavior is still not justified. Everyone is doing it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do..

There was a paki show , in which the son abuses his wife the same way his father abused his mother ..he developed a dual personality ..his wife divorced him bec he thought its normal to slap the woman to control her. His beating caused her miscarriage , woh ladke ko phir bhi samajh nai aaya where he is wrong. I hope abhimanyu realizes this one day , what he was doing with arohi was so wrong, still I believe he wouldn't be as bad as his father .coz he has his mother to guide him ..

Infact arohi never had a traumatic childhood, she made akshus life traumatic.. .arohi witnessed her mother's death thats it...she was pampered by the family and thy supported her through and through ..Even ignored akshu for her.. she wouldn't be a doctor without the support of goenkas.

The whole Birla family are toxic

We can never judge trauma. Someone with lots pf finances can be broken n Someone with not even one time meal can be the happiest. Yes serials do exaggerate but traumas especially childhood ones are very real I can say that from my 5 years of psychology studies.

As adults what we see as minor might have scarred our innocent minds had we witnessed that as a kid.

Originally posted by: Indira1211

the rituals happened by the way…and it happened because this is itv and they are trying to show that the leads belong together..and when we say the abhimanyu must apologize to Arohi..we mean just that…he must sincerely say he’s sorry ...we don’t mean he should have married her…because obviously he should not as he is in love with her sister,,,Gosh..all I’m saying is that he could have been a better person by sincerely apologizing to a girl he went to and asked to marry.she did not chase him or force him..he proposed to her.. now this is my opinion..so please respect it and let it be ..🤷🏻‍♀️

Isn't it in the temple Abhi apologized to Arohi and Goenkas telling that tum dulhan ki tarah taiyar hoke ayi, tumhari barat saj rahi hai aur mein piche hat raha hun..I am sorry...