do akshara and abhimanyu really have a traumatic childhood/past?

I feel even akshara belongs to a privileged section of society when it is financially...she always got what she needed. She does nothing apart from play guitar. She could have been shown like naira to be doing family business along side. Aarohi on the other hand, is very hardworking but has been made a joke of by everyone because cvs want to serve the same good vs bad sister.

But if you consider in terms of akshara, abhimanyu and Aarohi, we can say akshara and Aarohi have a traumatic past as they both lost their parents. There is no loss bigger than loss of your parents. That void is always there. What did abhimanyu go through? Had the luxury of everything. He left the mandap, yet nobody has the guts to speak up to him and already has family supporting him for his marriage with akshara.

I don't understand this exaggeration of childhood trauma. Didn't we all go through childhood trauma in some way or other? Don't we all have problems in life? I can see much bigger problems than Abhimanyu's in my life. As far as the equation between his mother and father is considered, that is literally the fate of majority of arrange marriages in India where marriage is more of a formality and emotional attachment is not there. However, that shouldn't allow the children to disrespect their parents.

It was looking so funny when abhi said dad disrespects mom( because of his own issues with her), Neil and akshu for her singing so i want to leave the hospital after gaining years of experience from here. It's my dad who funded my education and supported my dreams of becoming a doctor and I'm so against him that I humilate him publically and don't even care if he is falling ill

I liked the point someone brought up in other thread (indira1211) that how abhimanyu is ignoring Aarohi's existence because he doesn't want to get married to her. That way harsh too must have been forced to marry manjari and he could never find the connect with her. Disrespecting manjari is wrong but abhi blaming him that he didn't love his mom, so he is evil is also not appropriate. Majority of arrange marriage in India it's like that only husband wife are together under one roof, they take care of their responsibility but never connect with each other at a deeper level.

I think they're going to show harsh having an Ema and domestic violence on manjari. It's Abhimanyu's suppressed guilt that he couldn't save his mom from domestic violence and the extra marital affair of his dad.

But you know I think even if abrohi happened, aarohi might have shared a similar fate. Knowing how deep akshara is into abhimanyu and he already said it by his own mouth that he is going to keep loving akshara till the end. The marriage with Aarohi is only going to be name sake. So basically both father and son are same. Marriage with someone and some other women in mind all the time. The only difference would be harsh probably got physical with the other women which abhimanyu wouldn't have if he married aarohi.

But his way of talking to aarohi is quite disrespectful in the functions which proves he is totally his dad's son. His dad also treats his mom very formally and shouts at her when she offers care.

Remember in engagement scene, when Aarohi offered abhimanyu band aid when he hurt his ring finger to not get engaged to aarohi how rudely he talked to her ? "Dr aarohi! I know better"

If they actually brought the traumatic past angle that should have been handled like dev Dixit in kuch rang pyaar ke bhi. That guy studied when they were in immensed poverty and took responsibility of 3 sisters at a very young age. He became mature very quickly because he had no other option but here, abhimanyu has had all privileges since childhood and becoming a doctor was his dream. He got his dream fulfilled so why is he suddenly cribbing about growing up too early ? Ain't doctors suppose to be mature ? What's wrong with it if he became mature early? Or is he implying I should have had more fun in life instead of medical books 😆

On the other hand, Neil is such a happy character in the show despite being subject to harsh's taunt and orphan tag. He said in ichcha kund "sab kuch toh mila hai mujhe, itni achi family mili hai, itna acha bro mila hai!" .Yes, he would obviously be grateful that despite being an orphan he got such a good life but there is no complaint from his side unlike abhimanyu regarding family members

You may add your comment to this thread. We can come back to this thread when abhimanyu is actually discussed to know whether we discussed is right or not. Maybe there is more in picture to his past.

I think they're going to show harsh having an Ema and domestic violence on manjari. It's Abhimanyu's suppressed guilt that he couldn't save his mom from domestic violence and the extra marital affair of his dad.

But you know I think even if abrohi happened, aarohi might have shared a similar fate. Knowing how deep akshara is into abhimanyu and he already said it by his own mouth that he is going to keep loving akshara till the end. The marriage with Aarohi is only going to be name sake. So basically both father and son are same. Marriage with someone and some other women in mind all the time. The only difference would be harsh probably got physical with the other women which abhimanyu wouldn't have if he married aarohi.

But his way of talking to aarohi is quite disrespectful in the functions which proves he is totally his dad's son. His dad also treats his mom very formally and shouts at her when she offers care.

Remember in engagement scene, when Aarohi offered abhimanyu band aid when he hurt his ring finger to not get engaged to aarohi 😆 how rudely je talked to her ? "Dr aarohi! I know better" 🤣

Yes Abhimanyu does not respect his father.

He came into this world because his parents had to perform the duty of producing a legal heir. His father is in a loveless, no strings attached relationship. He went in search of greener pastures and Neil is the result.

Abhi witnessed mental abuse. Manjiri has the money but no peace of mind. Ideally she should hage opted for a divorce.

The father son duo, husband and wife relationship is toxic.

Harshavadhan loves his son. Is it without conditions no!! Abhimanyu has achieved everything what he could not. Name and fame. The selfless love comes with certain rules and regulations. Has he ever spoken to Parth Or Nishta?

Good he is not at home the whole time. I cannot stand people who nag, snap, insult or dominate their own loved ones.

Such personality manipulate and use others to their benefits.

Yes, he is worried about Abhimanyu. There is a reason behind the worry..Ie his dignity and self respect.

Words are like swords, they make or break a person.

What is Abhi's age ? Suppose he understood that his parents are sharing a strained relationship at the age of 5. Won't that child end up hating his father. His father stopped his mom from persuing her dreams. Why she cant walk out

Simple, fear. .

Abhimanyu thinks that his father and mother consummated their marriage for the sake of society. Otherwise there is no binding between husband and wife. It is eating him.

This is the reason he ran after a voice. He is finding solace and leaning on to Akshara to extinguish his own demons.

He proposed to Aarohi because his mother had a nervous breakdown. Such kids when they become adults are so attached to the ones showering love on them that they are willing to anything.

That is why Abhi messed every relationship

The same goes for Akshara, Aarohi sent her on a a guilt trip to the moon.

The Goenka's did not correct Aarohi and in the Birla Household, no one really cared to check the mental status of Abhimanyu and Manjiri Birla

When kids are brought up in a toxic environment, either they retreat into a shell or develop violent tendencies.

Has the father tried to mend his ways, habits. Harsh cannot change.

Aarohi too won't recover from rejection.

I think the Extra marital affair will definitely come up in future.

And my opinion would be about what I think of Abhimanyu and Harsh.. not about abhimanyu and arohi..

While Harshvardhan might have been forced to get married but he seems to be a pretty pathetic person. He has a superiority complex and he thinks disrespecting anyone and everyone he believes is beneath him is ok.. which isn't..

Obviously there are bigger traumas in life than bickering unhappy parents but you imbibe based on what you see..

And childhood traumas do end up scarring people and that are somehow the foundation of how you lead your life or make major decisions..

Abhimanyu insulting Harshvardhan might look bad and rude but some people deserve that. Even if they are your parents..

I watched a few episodes of this show of HC, bepanaah.

There too he is this disturbed, angry person and his family is all scared of his reactions. There too the trauma was that his father had cheated on his mother

Loveless and toxic marriage in India is common where as it shouldn’t be.

We don’t know backstory of Harsh and Manjiri yet. But from what we know harsh abused her mentally if not physically. I don’t think anyone from Birla family stood up for her. This is something Abhimanyu has grown up seeing - toxic marriage ! He said all the marriages he has seen are same i.e toxic. His father loves with but with conditions as Salutethearmy said. His father wants him for his Hospital. What if abhi wasn’t a doctor? Would he get same treatment? No one has courage to say anything to him is either because he is right / justified where he comes from or everyone is just scared of him 😂 (there is no denying - everyone is really scared of Abhimanyu)

Where as for Akshara, she lived a good life surrounded by family and had a big sister role to play since she started to understand. She never could be the baby of the family. Because aarohi was there to play that role. Akshara had to grow literally overnight. She always prioritized Aarohi over her. One fine day she came to know she lost her mother when she was a baby and the one she thought was her mother - wasn’t her mother. She was a kid who was unknowingly worried to lose her mother who she loved so much. Off course she lost her mother and father. So did aarohi. But aarohi didn’t face prior trauma. Aarohi was still baby of the family but akshara was the one who had to go through guilt trip her entire life post that. Because she was older. Family didn’t intervene and just sent her away. No one thought what she was going through. You said she doesn’t do anything but plays guitar- we cannot make fun of anyones profession. She studied and became a music therapist. That’s her passion how medicine is aarohi’s. Just because someone is a doctor and other isn’t - that doesn’t make her less in any form.

Sometimes, money and luxury isn’t something a child needs. A child needs secure childhood filled with love. Even homeless people have happy kids. The morals, the love, the values we learn in childhood is something we carry for our entire life.

Everyone in Birla house is scared of Abbimanyu only now ...When he was a child he is helpless ..He couldn't take a stand for her mother against his shouting father ....Helpless child went more introvert relieving in music ...

Akshara is Music Therapist not learn only guitar ...Respect her profession..Don't demean like Arohi always do in the show...Arohi is a cunning fellow who knows how to talk and win for her own selfish purpose...ok not coming there...

Abbimanyu just said hi hello in the initial episodes and madam delusional said that Abhimanyu loves her... ...Thats why he shown indifference towards her ... Whatever angle u can post to whitewash Arohi but truth is she is wrong ...She can manipulate everyone by her cunning speech and lies but truth is such person thinks they achieve everything in life but at the end they will loose ...Because only good triumph...

Neil 8s always supported and protected by Abhi and he is not so emotional like Abhi ...Abhi once in his childhood sure craved for his father's unconditional love ...Here Neil got all live from Manjiri and Abhi ...That's the truth...Everyone is unique...Neil more practical Abhi more emotional...

I find it unfair to compare childhood traumas. Because each situation and circumstances are unique and how deep that influences or scars that person is really dependent on the person's own personality and they way they see and view life.

This is why we sometimes see people who have the biggest smiles have the most tragic past. These people do not allow those memories to control the way they live their life. They are able to rise above it. Well others have trouble and struggle through life battling those demons and tragic memories and it manifests itself in self destructive behavior or poor choices.

This is across all race, class, and genders. Just because you come from a rich family does not make it less of a struggle from someone who is not as financially well off. Yes on surface level someone with more money can have access to more things but mentally they are in the same boat. This why we have sayings like "Money can't buy happiness."

Happiness is really being satisfied with yourself and your own life. No amount of money, things, or even people in your life can bring that to you.

But the right people in your life can help you see a different persepctive and open your world view about things. This in turn allows you to be open to growth and be more positive.

Sometimes we cannot change the circumstances or situations happen beyond our control. The only control we have is how we respond to them.

Kairav lost his father, his mother, and his step mother. He witnessed his mother falling off a cliff.

Akshara never got to be with her biological mother and lost her father and step mother. She witnessed her step mother rolling down the stairs to her death.

Arohi lost her father and mother. She witnessed her mother rolling down the stairs to her death.

Abhimanyu has witnessed toxic family dynamics. Potentially extra martial affair of father and physical violence against his mother. He witnessed emotional abuse against his mother. He has witnessed emotional abuse against his brother Neil. He has seen taunts from his aunt against his mother, Parth, and even his father. He has seen his uncle disrespect his aunt in a professional setting. Obviously there is more that probably has not yet been revealed so I don't think we can give a proper response regarding Abhimanyu and his issues until we see more of the Birla family.

Akshara not only plays guitar but other instruments too. She can also sing very well. She was shown as someone who is interested in music since childhood. Not everyone can play music instruments and sing very well! Learning music need lots of hardwork, patience and practice. And good thing is she wants to cure people with this art. Her intentions are very pure.

I think an EMA is likely but as far as domestic violence, I presume the furthest he'll go is a slap because Anand and Mahima wouldn't let it get any worse (I HOPE). But Abhimanyu isn't better than his father. In many ways, he is Harsh's reflection and I think he knows that too.