do akshara and abhimanyu really have a traumatic childhood/past? - Page 2

Originally posted by: borntorule12

You may add your comment to this thread. We can come back to this thread when abhimanyu is actually discussed to know whether we discussed is right or not. Maybe there is more in picture to his past.

I think they're going to show harsh having an Ema and domestic violence on manjari. It's Abhimanyu's suppressed guilt that he couldn't save his mom from domestic violence and the extra marital affair of his dad.

But you know I think even if abrohi happened, aarohi might have shared a similar fate. Knowing how deep akshara is into abhimanyu and he already said it by his own mouth that he is going to keep loving akshara till the end. The marriage with Aarohi is only going to be name sake. So basically both father and son are same. Marriage with someone and some other women in mind all the time. The only difference would be harsh probably got physical with the other women which abhimanyu wouldn't have if he married aarohi.

But his way of talking to aarohi is quite disrespectful in the functions which proves he is totally his dad's son. His dad also treats his mom very formally and shouts at her when she offers care.

Remember in engagement scene, when Aarohi offered abhimanyu band aid when he hurt his ring finger to not get engaged to aarohi 😆 how rudely je talked to her ? "Dr aarohi! I know better" 🤣

Originally posted by: Indira1211

exactly, and even today when she wanted to make peace and shake hands ,.he carried on like a jerk..I mean you asked the girl to marry you and then you ran away with her sister right before the wedding , you didn’t even apologize to her sincerely and now she’s making peace with you yet you are still being so rude ..Abhimanyu could have been a bigger person. His behaviour is very ugly at times..he thinks he’s always right and the only thing that matters to him is akshara ..so the only reason he shows any sort of cordial behavior to the goenkas is because they are his path to getting akshara..That’s how it appears.. because he gets angry and irritated so Easily..he has like so limited control over his emotions 🤦🏻‍♀️

Aarohi manipulated everything and everyone to get married to Abhimanyu. Why will he respect her after knowing all these? Even after knowing Akshara and Abhimanyu love each other she tried to snatch him. She is running after power. Abhi has put her in right place.

Originally posted by: Vaish.5

Aarohi manipulated everything and everyone to get married to Abhimanyu. Why will he respect her after knowing all these? Even after knowing Akshara and Abhimanyu love each other she tried to snatch him. She is running after power. Abhi has put her in right place.

I apologise in advance if this becomes too long, but I do hope you all give it a read.

How do we know what really is childhood trauma? Is there a fixed definition for it? Maybe if I pour through the textbooks, I might find a description, DSM 5 might classify an extreme version, but if you speak to any expert, or in fact, any one of us here, can you really tell what is childhood trauma? The impact of one incident, an adult in the family or something said can be so significant that we may never understand it unless we experience it. And, it is extremely unfair to compare. It is not a measure of who has had it worse. You went through it, and that is enough. Trauma cannot be quantified, ever.

And privilege xD Privilege can never be a defence for trauma. Just because they grew up in money, does it guarantee that nothing wrong could happen to them? Since when? I agree, money is a big factor in life. It assures comfort, education, the freedom to make choices and yet, it comes with a price xD If you respect it, you never take it for granted. And it does not act as a shield against trauma. it does not.

Also, please don't say that what else does she do except play the guitar. I agree the show has not explored her professional side much, but she is a clinical psychologist (therapist) who uses music as a method in therapy. Just because they don't harp about it, does not mean it's nothing. And I am in the same profession as Aarohi, I never had a problem with her being a career oriented person. Everyone should be, and they have a right to fight for it. And yet, I know that's she's also wrong in a lot of ways, and to not have the ability to accept your flaws, that..that is what I'm bothered by. Anyway, that's a discussion for another day.

Aarohi, Akshara and Abhimanyu, they all have faced trauma. Two stories have been explored, one still has a lot left to be told. We cannot compare them. We have no right to say but you have so much, then what? Because that's exactly what anyone suffering from issues feels each and every day when they wanna speak out. That thought holds so many back, that what if they're being ungrateful. No. What you have is not a justification or payment for what you went through.

Abhimanyu's father may have financed his education, but he didn't study for him. He didn't pour over books and memorised insane facts for him. He didn't pass the exams for him. Abhi did it by himself. He did it because he put in the hard work and dedication. That cannot be taken away. And when it comes to leaving the hospital, he's not ungrateful about it. As he explained, it hurts him so much. But sometimes, you have to remove yourself from a situation that doesn't help your mental health. So be it.

If a relationship is transactional, then may it not exist, atleast till we can handle it in some other way. And doctors are mature, but they're human too.

He did apologize in the temple...agree that Abhi shouldn't have proposed her for marriage but he did it for his mom.But Aarohi was keeping high expectations from him even after he told that he did,does and always love her sister.Which sane person with an ounce of self respect accepts this?

And she lied and lied and lied and also did a fraud,and insulted the love of his life in the temple and you tell she should be respected by Abhi?

Actually she doesn't even deserve a look from Abhi..he is tolerating her only because she is Akshu's sister...otherwise we all know what he would have done to her for her behavior

I totally agree with u. We still don't know the real reason behind Abhimanyu's hatred for his father. Maybe he had an ema, maybe he cheated on his wife and if that's the case, his anger is justified but then why is he living in that house? Why is he working in his father's hospital? In this case Parth seems better. He refused to accept the profession his parents have chosen for him so he rather sits at home doing nothing than taking up the job he is not happy and satisfied.

If Abhimanyu is so interested in his job, he can work in some other hospital or open up a clinic somewhere. He is indeed behaving like, jis thaali mein khaya ussi mein ched kiya types. Yes, if Abhimanyu had got married to Aarohi their relationship too would have been kinda like Harsh-Manjiri though the only difference would have been Aarohi would have never given her 100% to the marriage the way Manjiri gives because she was marrying him for Birla bahu status. Their marriage would have been worst than Harsh-Manjiri marriage.

I don't find the whole Sirat ma ko tumne maara drama believable. I didn't watch S2 and my only reference to this event is the flashbacks that are shown and the recent discussion that happened between Abhimanyu and Kairav. Did it have to take all these years for someone to tell Akshu that it wasn't her fault? The reason for the enmity between the two sisters is too flimsy and Aarohi constantly shouting ki sirat ma ko tumne maara and Akshu saying don't say like that is not powerful enough to justify everything that has happened and the way Akshu has turned out.

Kairav has suffered more. I know that different people deal with trauma differently and it's not a competition but I don't feel compelled to feel for Akshu.

In case of Abhimanyu, maybe Harsh had an extra marital affair and Manjari suffered because of that. Maybe Abhimanyu hates him because of it. I don't know. But whatever be the case, what we've seen so far is that Harsh is proud of Abhi and he loves him. The whole family loves Abhi even Anand and Mahima have genuine feelings for him. He's a reputed doctor and is working in the field that he loves. He comes from a well to do family just like Akshu. I don't understand what's the sob story here? Yeah he spent a lot of time at the hospital when he was kid but I still don't get what was so traumatic in his past?

Even Harsh is not that bad. He agreed to get him married to Akshu if she agreed. Akshu backed out and the whole mess happened. So, it's difficult to buy the whole traumatic past that is being pushed on to us. Maybe they're doing it convince us to like Abhi and Akshu or they're doing it build a connection with the audience because sad stories always win hearts but the problem is that in either case the story is not sad enough 😆

Originally posted by: sidnilove

I don't find the whole Sirat ma ko tumne maara drama believable. I didn't watch S2 and my only reference to this event is the flashbacks that are shown and the recent discussion that happened between Abhimanyu and Kairav. Did it have to take all these years for someone to tell Akshu that it wasn't her fault? The reason for the enmity between the two sisters is too flimsy and Aarohi constantly shouting ki sirat ma ko tumne maara and Akshu saying don't say like that is not powerful enough to justify everything that has happened and the way Akshu has turned out.

Kairav has suffered more. I know that different people deal with trauma differently and it's not a competition but I don't feel compelled to feel for Akshu.

In case of Abhimanyu, maybe Harsh had an extra marital affair and Manjari suffered because of that. Maybe Abhimanyu hates him because of it. I don't know. But whatever be the case, what we've seen so far is that Harsh is proud of Abhi and he loves him. The whole family loves Abhi even Anand and Mahima have genuine feelings for him. He's a reputed doctor and is working in the field that he loves. He comes from a well to do family just like Akshu. I don't understand what's the sob story here? Yeah he spent a lot of time at the hospital when he was kid but I still don't get what was so traumatic in his past?

Even Harsh is not that bad. He agreed to get him married to Akshu if she agreed. Akshu backed out and the whole mess happened. So, it's difficult to buy the whole traumatic past that is being pushed on to us. Maybe they're doing it convince us to like Abhi and Akshu or they're doing it build a connection with the audience because sad stories always win hearts but the problem is that in either case the story is not sad enough 😆

And all of akshara sacrificing abhimanyu because she was bound by sirat's ma promise is the most bullshit thing ever. As if sirat died telling her ,don't choose your happiness in life or marry the guy you like just because aarohi also likes him. She simply told her to take care of her sister which any normal parent does ask elder one to take care of younger one. If she is that dumb and self sacrificing that because of this promise to keep younger one happy, you will become her doormat and give in to her bratty demands. Even give up the love of your life for her then it's your fault, not childhood trauma's. I haven't seen a childhood trauma like this that when you know a case was an accident, you will still blame yourself for it . They just needed a forceful sirat angle for the love triangle to go ahead. Else akshara rejecting abhimanyu didn't make any sense in the first place.

Abhimanyu has mentioned that he lives in that house only because of his mother.If not for her,he would have left the house long ago.There is no one to support her,except Abhi,not even her sister.

And Abhi works in his father's hospital,doesn't mean that he has to bear all the bullshit he speaks about Manjri,Akshu or Neil.As someone already said,ppl like Harsh only understand the language that Abhi used in yesterday's episode.

Originally posted by: vismaya

He did apologize in the temple...agree that Abhi shouldn't have proposed her for marriage but he did it for his mom.But Aarohi was keeping high expectations from him even after he told that he did,does and always love her sister.Which sane person with an ounce of self respect accepts this?

And she lied and lied and lied and also did a fraud,and insulted the love of his life in the temple and you tell she should be respected by Abhi?

Actually she doesn't even deserve a look from Abhi..he is tolerating her only because she is Akshu's sister...otherwise we all know what he would have done to her for her behavior