Where is Akshara's deep love for Arohi coming from? - Page 7

When the initial leap happened it was established that Arohi was obnoxious but still very close to her sister (when they were 8-9). She was competitive but she and Akshara got along just fine. Then they found out Akshara wasn't Sirat's daughter and Arohi's first reaction was well what does it matter? Akshu's crying for nothing. Our father's still the same. Then a series of events happened simultaneously. She saw Sirat hugging Akshu and telling her how she's more x than Arohi and her favorite. (It's been some time since I saw this scene so cannot confirm the dialogues for sure but Sirat's said something that made Arohi feel like she was giving Akshu preference over her).

Then Manish did the same and Arohi overheard. Then she met her maternal grandmom who'd been insulted and ousted from the Goenka house and she filled Arohi's ears with how she'll always be secretly loathed like her and how Akshara will always be preferred over her because Akshara's royalty -- Naira's beti. That set a subconscious shift in Arohi's thinking patterns.

Then Arohi grew even more possessive of Sirat. It's here she started hating Akshara for being who she was -- an empath. It was established that Arohi was 'mu-phat' or 'outspoken' and so obviously she must have been reprimanded quite often. Akshara on the other hand was the quintessential good kid who did everything right. It's possible, and most likely, that Arohi began to hate her for these very qualities as Arohi's personality was being compared to her Nani who was considered inferior and evil by the Goenkas (the woman was a piece of work but Arohi didn't know that).

Kartik was away and they all believed the moment he returns he'll sort this out between the girls because 'only' he could handle them and set this straight. But Kartik died in a plane crash before returning home.

Arohi had already started taking subtle digs at Akshara by this point. She didn't fully hate her but I think once that subtle subconscious shift happens everything the other person does somehow becomes evidence aiding the hypothesis you've constructed in your head. Cognitive bias.

Akshara was told point-blank by Manish and others that she was their favorite. I think Surekha was covertly hostile to Sirat and she made quite a few remarks about Arohi taking after her Nani. Both Akshara and Arohi noticed these things. Arohi even noticed her mom being reprimanded by Manish and didn't take it lightly.

All of this just added to Akshara's guilt. Every time Arohi acted out Sirat told Akshara that she was 'na-samajh' and Akshara was mature and she needed to forgive Arohi. Then Sirat died and Arohi blamed her. So, yes there's a lot of conditioning here. Akshara still thinks Arohi is 'na-samajh'. She's an empath and so every time Arohi blames her for getting preferential treatment I think Akshara acknowledges there's a smidgen of truth to it even if that's not the case anymore. She sees it as her responsibility to help Arohi find happiness and stability because 1) this was Sirat's dying wish and 2) because she knows Arohi is hurting and burning up inside.

And the icing on the cake -- Akshu's basic mental model -- is to put family above everything else. So to her there's no cutting off Arohi from her life. Forgiveness comes easy to her and the guilt she's racked up over all these years drives her relationship with Arohi.

Obviously, her mental models are toxic and unsustainable but this is ITV so IDK how this is going to be dealt with.

Originally posted by: HahaHeheHuhu9

Thank you! 🤗

Arohi triggers Akshara's trauma every other day and unfairly blames her for their mother's death. Their mother. Akshara had to point out that Sirat was her mother too. Right from when she was 1 year old, Sirat was Akshu's mother. She grew up believing that Sirat was her real mother and got to know the step mom truth later on.

Despite this, Arohi conveniently gaslights and tortures Akshara about their mother's accident, just to get something done out of Akshara. That's what a bully does. I don't think the sister's issues can ever be sorted out. Akshara is better off keeping a huge distance away from Arohi for her own sanity and peace.

Exactly, man. Arohi acts like she's the only one who has had to suffer in life. Like everyone else has been enjoying themselves while she's been crying the whole time. Like she's the only one who has lost a mother. I'm so done with her crap.

Bold - I don't even want them to be sorted out. Akshara doesn't deserve a sister like Arohi and Arohi doesn't deserve a sister like Akshara.

But Akshara will not keep a huge distance. Now again at home, she'll just be saying sorry sorry sorry the whole time, and keep kissing her ass. and to some extent, it's okay, because Akshara did run away with Arohi's fiance, but we all know Akshara will overdo it, because of the Sirat Ma promise bullshit, and then again, Arohi will start yelling at Akshara. It's just a circle. Goes round and round.

Originally posted by: FleetingWishes.

When the initial leap happened it was established that Arohi was obnoxious but still very close to her sister (when they were 8-9). She was competitive but she and Akshara got along just fine. Then they found out Akshara wasn't Sirat's daughter and Arohi's first reaction was well what does it matter? Akshu's crying for nothing. Our father's still the same. Then a series of events happened simultaneously. She saw Sirat hugging Akshu and telling her how she's more x than Arohi and her favorite. (It's been some time since I saw this scene so cannot confirm the dialogues for sure but Sirat's said something that made Arohi feel like she was giving Akshu preference over her).

Then Manish did the same and Arohi overheard. Then she met her maternal grandmom who'd been insulted and ousted from the Goenka house and she filled Arohi's ears with how she'll always be secretly loathed like her and how Akshara will always be preferred over her because Akshara's royalty -- Naira's beti. That set a subconscious shift in Arohi's thinking patterns.

Then Arohi grew even more possessive of Sirat. It's here she started hating Akshara for being who she was -- an empath. It was established that Arohi was 'mu-phat' or 'outspoken' and so obviously she must have been reprimanded quite often. Akshara on the other hand was the quintessential good kid who did everything right. It's possible, and most likely, that Arohi began to hate her for these very qualities as Arohi's personality was being compared to her Nani who was considered inferior and evil by the Goenkas (the woman was a piece of work but Arohi didn't know that).

Kartik was away and they all believed the moment he returns he'll sort this out between the girls because 'only' he could handle them and set this straight. But Kartik died in a plane crash before returning home.

Arohi had already started taking subtle digs at Akshara by this point. She didn't fully hate her but I think once that subtle subconscious shift happens everything the other person does somehow becomes evidence aiding the hypothesis you've constructed in your head. Cognitive bias.

Akshara was told point-blank by Manish and others that she was their favorite. I think Surekha was covertly hostile to Sirat and she made quite a few remarks about Arohi taking after her Nani. Both Akshara and Arohi noticed these things. Arohi even noticed her mom being reprimanded by Manish and didn't take it lightly.

All of this just added to Akshara's guilt. Every time Arohi acted out Sirat told Akshara that she was 'na-samajh' and Akshara was mature and she needed to forgive Arohi. Then Sirat died and Arohi blamed her. So, yes there's a lot of conditioning here. Akshara still thinks Arohi is 'na-samajh'. She's an empath and so every time Arohi blames her for getting preferential treatment I think Akshara acknowledges there's a smidgen of truth to it even if that's not the case anymore. She sees it as her responsibility to help Arohi find happiness and stability because 1) this was Sirat's dying wish and 2) because she knows Arohi is hurting and burning up inside.

And the icing on the cake -- Akshu's basic mental model -- is to put family above everything else. So to her there's no cutting off Arohi from her life. Forgiveness comes easy to her and the guilt she's racked up over all these years drives her relationship with Arohi.

Obviously, her mental models are toxic and unsustainable but this is ITV so IDK how this is going to be dealt with.

👏👏👏

This is so comprehensive...everything I'd been trying to articulate but couldn't. That aarohi and akshu did have some form of affection despite their personalities being pole opposites.. That sirat did subtly give preference to akshu bcz a) she had lost her mum and sirat took her responsibility towards her step children super seriously and b) bcz akshu was the goody good child whom everyone loves. Aarohi never needed any looking after whereas akshu did so sirat mostly focused on her. And it is also not true that akshu's musical abilities were ignored or not appreciated. She got as much accolades for her artistic talents as aarohi for her academic brilliance. That the hate on aarohi's side is not completely without basis and just bcz she's inherently mean. Manish, Surekha, Sheila and sometimes Sirat and Akshu too tho unintentionally and in general circumstances sort of gave her grounds to build that hatred. And with kartik and sirat dying just when all the upheaval was happening and Sheila being on hand cooked the whole thingup to perfection.

The writers needed to make the Iche Nodee story so just made a lot of twists in order to make aarohi into a vamp. Whereas initially her character was not like that. They killed off the parents just for this purpose too. Effectively these girls and their personalities and those of the rest of the goenkas including kairav have absolutely no connection to the previous generation.

Whatever the sisters had or not between them, Abhimanyu is definitely guilty of pouring oil. His way of handling akshara is insensitive and selfish in the extreme, that's why I said his love is sadak chaap. And aarohi running after this guy is beyond disgusting but the way abhi and akshu have been carrying on is even more so. What the great dr did with aarohi is the nastiest piece of unmanliness and it doesn't matter if aarohi deserved it. Abhi being celebrated for his greatness, his tameez, his sanskaar, his respect for women and how enlightened he is about pyaar shouldn't have done what all he did. The fact that he did do all that proves that he is worthless.

Originally posted by: Dreamygal301

So, coming to this late and there might be many posts already answering this.

My thought is it all comes down to nurture v nature. This is applicable to both real life and fictional.

Of course here it is all about storytelling and the formation of characters as the writers see them, so many use ennagram types to develop characters (look them if anyone is interested). To ensure each characters merge, clash and provide the necessary conflict to sustain the structure of a story. Abhie, Akshu and Arohi are well balanced in that respect.

Everyone falls into categories that are set in childhood - caretaker, people pleaser, humorist, the black sheep, leader and etc. Akshara turned out to a be a people pleaser with aspect of caretaker, IMHO. Unfortunately that was then turned to parentification and then you add a layer of guilt - over her 'killing Sirat'. All that created layer upon layer on her personalities until they solidified to make her the Akshara you see on screen.

Nurture - what little I saw of the S2 end she was made to look out for Arohi, forgive her because she was the little sister. Family showed immense pride in Arohi's academic achievement but I think Akshara's arts/dramatic achievement not so much due to the temper of Arohi so that everyone rushed to console her till Akshara suppressed herself (going back to her people pleaser personality) felt they didn't matter as much. Arohi was also indulgent by the family when really they should have reprimanded her. I mean in real life these two sisters should be in therapy now.🤓😃 Then you have the Goenka's. Reality is they would be in their 60's....bad mix for raising children and etc not only in terms of parenting style but in keeping up with how the world is. Of course on screen we see them ageless. As the children grew up, Goenka's got older and sat back thinking 'our parenting is done'. Not really.

Where Akshara's deep love came from?

Akshara never knew her own mother well. I know Karthik was around when she was baby but not much when she grew up? (by that point I had stopped watching). Sirat was all she had known and from what little I saw Sirat loved her as well. So she would take Sirat's words to heart, remember them throughout her life. We all do btw, in real life, when parents tell us something. Then as a child she was made to believe she had killed her 'Mum'. I don't think anyone made her believe otherwise in ways that matter - taking her to therapy, having a heart to heart talk, making sure to watch her, show her that accidents happen and it's part and parcel of life. So little Akshara has this layer of guilt of being responsible for killing her mum. She would do anything to ensure this does not happen again, that no one dies because of her. The scene in the Mandir is a mirror moment to Sirat's death. I had mentioned elsewhere that good writers would utilise that - visual story telling to show how that one moment in her childhood defined Akshara to this day. Arohi had accused her repeatedly in front of all that she had killed her mum/snatched her away. Without words everyone was made to see that Akshara would give her own life to ensure history never repeats itself. (As aside, I think someone in the Birla family would use that information against Akshara at some point). In the famous word of Dr Abhimanyu Birla Akshu had been conditioned (to give her life for Arohi so finally her guilt over Sirat's death can be eased). She had inadvertently snatched something priceless and ever since that day, her love for Arohi is really a way of seeking ways to give it back, to make it up. The writers of this season briefly mentioned it in one scene - Abhi is the only priceless gift in her life and recognising that, and Arohi's want, Akshara made sure to give it to her. But she forgot that this priceless gift is a living breathing person with his own wants, desires and needs. And he oh so needed his Akshu because she complemented him and fit his soul like no other.

(Not sure if anyone realised it yet but there is a difference between Akshara and Akshu and Abhi had seen it hence why he calls her Akshu and not just as an endearment).

Really remains to be seen whether the three's conflicts, trauma and fatal flaws will be utilised properly. I know in YRHPK RS did the first act of Mishti and Abir's romance arc brilliantly, a first I had seen on indian TV serial tbh. Then it sort of went downhill all in the name of pleasing the masses.

Then the writers laid the foundation of Ichche Nodee during Sirat's track. Yrkkh lost its identity within 8 to 9 months after retaining it's essence for 12 yrs. The abrupt changes were done to save the show and adhere to a certain hot headed channel's whims and fancies.

The Bengali OG had a very talented cast but the story is full of drama. I hope RS takes it up as challenge ands gives every character a grap.

In Yrhpk it was Mishbir's organic love story that got them fans. It did not survive when the story shifted to Kuhu. It is very important to strike a balance.

Originally posted by: FleetingWishes.

When the initial leap happened it was established that Arohi was obnoxious but still very close to her sister (when they were 8-9). She was competitive but she and Akshara got along just fine. Then they found out Akshara wasn't Sirat's daughter and Arohi's first reaction was well what does it matter? Akshu's crying for nothing. Our father's still the same. Then a series of events happened simultaneously. She saw Sirat hugging Akshu and telling her how she's more x than Arohi and her favorite. (It's been some time since I saw this scene so cannot confirm the dialogues for sure but Sirat's said something that made Arohi feel like she was giving Akshu preference over her).

Then Manish did the same and Arohi overheard. Then she met her maternal grandmom who'd been insulted and ousted from the Goenka house and she filled Arohi's ears with how she'll always be secretly loathed like her and how Akshara will always be preferred over her because Akshara's royalty -- Naira's beti. That set a subconscious shift in Arohi's thinking patterns.

Then Arohi grew even more possessive of Sirat. It's here she started hating Akshara for being who she was -- an empath. It was established that Arohi was 'mu-phat' or 'outspoken' and so obviously she must have been reprimanded quite often. Akshara on the other hand was the quintessential good kid who did everything right. It's possible, and most likely, that Arohi began to hate her for these very qualities as Arohi's personality was being compared to her Nani who was considered inferior and evil by the Goenkas (the woman was a piece of work but Arohi didn't know that).

Kartik was away and they all believed the moment he returns he'll sort this out between the girls because 'only' he could handle them and set this straight. But Kartik died in a plane crash before returning home.

Arohi had already started taking subtle digs at Akshara by this point. She didn't fully hate her but I think once that subtle subconscious shift happens everything the other person does somehow becomes evidence aiding the hypothesis you've constructed in your head. Cognitive bias.

Akshara was told point-blank by Manish and others that she was their favorite. I think Surekha was covertly hostile to Sirat and she made quite a few remarks about Arohi taking after her Nani. Both Akshara and Arohi noticed these things. Arohi even noticed her mom being reprimanded by Manish and didn't take it lightly.

All of this just added to Akshara's guilt. Every time Arohi acted out Sirat told Akshara that she was 'na-samajh' and Akshara was mature and she needed to forgive Arohi. Then Sirat died and Arohi blamed her. So, yes there's a lot of conditioning here. Akshara still thinks Arohi is 'na-samajh'. She's an empath and so every time Arohi blames her for getting preferential treatment I think Akshara acknowledges there's a smidgen of truth to it even if that's not the case anymore. She sees it as her responsibility to help Arohi find happiness and stability because 1) this was Sirat's dying wish and 2) because she knows Arohi is hurting and burning up inside.

And the icing on the cake -- Akshu's basic mental model -- is to put family above everything else. So to her there's no cutting off Arohi from her life. Forgiveness comes easy to her and the guilt she's racked up over all these years drives her relationship with Arohi.

Obviously, her mental models are toxic and unsustainable but this is ITV so IDK how this is going to be dealt with.

Thank you for this post. I had no idea that Arohi actually ever had a sort of playful relationship with Akshu. I only ever saw this clip on Instagram where Aarohi calls Akshara a common girl and herself a princess, and like you said, that made me think that arohi is obnoxious, arrogant and already thinks she's better than Akshu even without a Dr. attached to her name.

Kids are really impressionable. I can imagine all that talk from her Nani set the base for her insecurities. And wow, the Goenkas are really shit parents. Who says this kid is the favourite kid in front of the kids? Or at all, for that matter?

I always thought that Arohi's insecurities used to stem from the fact that she was just jealous that Akshara was given the same love that Arohi was given by Sirat, even though Sirat was the step mom

I didn't know much about the backstory, but this will help me understand Arohi better.

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

Yeah. Very possible. Unlike I thought earlier, Akshara has no personality whatsoever. Whoever has access to her can program her the way they want. Sirat did it first and she has been doing that all this while. Now Abhimanyu broke through Sirat's hold. Now it's his turn. Akshara is such a codependent I feel. That she has to latch on to someone to have some meaning in life..

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

👏👏👏

This is so comprehensive...everything I'd been trying to articulate but couldn't. That aarohi and akshu did have some form of affection despite their personalities being pole opposites.. That sirat did subtly give preference to akshu bcz a) she had lost her mum and sirat took her responsibility towards her step children super seriously and b) bcz akshu was the goody good child whom everyone loves. Aarohi never needed any looking after whereas akshu did so sirat mostly focused on her. And it is also not true that akshu's musical abilities were ignored or not appreciated. She got as much accolades for her artistic talents as aarohi for her academic brilliance. That the hate on aarohi's side is not completely without basis and just bcz she's inherently mean. Manish, Surekha, Sheila and sometimes Sirat and Akshu too tho unintentionally and in general circumstances sort of gave her grounds to build that hatred. And with kartik and sirat dying just when all the upheaval was happening and Sheila being on hand cooked the whole thingup to perfection.

The writers needed to make the Iche Nodee story so just made a lot of twists in order to make aarohi into a vamp. Whereas initially her character was not like that. They killed off the parents just for this purpose too. Effectively these girls and their personalities and those of the rest of the goenkas including kairav have absolutely no connection to the previous generation.

Of course circumstances and all led Arohi to dislike Akshara and hate her in childhood.

But what does she do after becoming a highly educated, grown up woman after 15 years? That too a doctor? She still spews venom unnecessarily on Akshara, bullies and harasses her every opportunity she gets, abuses, insults and demeans her, and treats Akshara like an object that's only meant to keep her happy.

The moment Akshara does anything that slightly displeases Arohi, she starts bullying and gaslighting Akshara. She has now reached a point where she doesn't care one bit about Akshara and doesn't have any empathy about Akshara's emotions and feelings. If she cared at all, she wouldn't have manipulated, blackmailed and cunningly forced Akshara to give up on her love. Right now, she's become fully apathetic and cares only about herself, unless Akshara is on the death bed.

In the mandir scene, however much you may want to trash Abhimanyu, he was still able to see, realize, honestly acknowledge, and openly apologize to Arohi for the mistake he did.

But did Arohi even try to think about the sufferings and problems that other people were also facing there? Did she even spare 1 thought for her sister Akshara's miserable situation that she blackmailed her into? Arohi blatantly refused to even try to see her own mistakes in this whole mess, and conveniently blamed everyone else, including Mahima! Let alone understanding that others have feelings too which have been hurt in this scenario.

She says that she bribed for the exam seat because Mahima provoked her. So she'll commit crimes if someone says something that hurts her ego. And goes on to justify her lies and deception by blaming everyone around. That's how Arohi is - can't think beyond herself. What a poor bechari. Enough said!

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

Whatever the sisters had or not between them, Abhimanyu is definitely guilty of pouring oil. His way of handling akshara is insensitive and selfish in the extreme, that's why I said his love is sadak chaap. And aarohi running after this guy is beyond disgusting but the way abhi and akshu have been carrying on is even more so. What the great dr did with aarohi is the nastiest piece of unmanliness and it doesn't matter if aarohi deserved it. Abhi being celebrated for his greatness, his tameez, his sanskaar, his respect for women and how enlightened he is about pyaar shouldn't have done what all he did. The fact that he did do all that proves that he is worthless.

Sorry, I strongly and completely disagree.

It's obvious that Arohi is the one who is worthless, insensitive, selfish and psychopathic here. She's disgusting and vile and that's what sadak chaap is. Nastiest piece of inhumanity is what Arohi does with Akshara every single day.

Just so that people want to hate on the ML and defend a bratty bully, Abhimanyu will not become the reason why oil has been poured between the sisters. Both Akshara and Arohi and their families nature is such that their problems were bound to get worse with them living in the same roof - even if Abhimanyu wasn't in the picture.

And just to remind you, Akshara was also involved equally in what happened to Arohi. Please also don't keep saying "what the sisters had or not between them". That's normalizing abuse and brushing aside the harassment Arohi has been systematically meting out to Akshara. I've clearly explained what the girls actually have between them, which is Stockholm syndrome.

I've given so many detailed explanations/ real reasons and pointed out plenty of instances and examples to prove all my points about Arohi, while you just baselessly keep blaming Abhimanyu without giving any solid grounds for your claims. Carry on. I'm out of this toxic thread where people can't see a bully for a bully, and will blame a random stranger for a harasser's faults and for the girls' childhood psychological issues.

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

Wow so her stepmother guilt-tripped Akshara into putting her own child first over herself huh? That's some Ramayan Kaikei (spelling?) move right there!

Yep and that's why I've absolutely despised Sirat (many more reasons) for putting such a burden on a child.