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Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh
Shanta, unfortunatly I have been thinking about some of these things myself....I guess there is no right or wrong answer here and I could have argued either ways on this one...but the more I think of this, I think Akshara was wrong...agreed that we are talking about the age-old battle of the heart vs the mind here, but the bottomline is that every situation is unique and we must play by the day...
in this case I feel Akshara is a fault coz she just listened to her heart and supported Nandini selflessly for the sake of her love...she genuinely wanted Nandu to be happy and hence went leaps and bounds to make sure that she gets her true love and not compromise for the sake of the family honor & happiness...but this is where she faltered...Nandini's situation is unique with her disability and not being married for so long and the family having just one goal to get her married etc...so she should have been extra careful and first of all tried to stay out of this...unfortunately she got involved but when Nandu and Mohit asked her not to tell Naitik, she should have been firm that she will tell him and explained the benefits of it rather than mutely saying yes to them and taking these big risks later....how can she hide such a huge thing from her husband...ok Nandu gave her promise but didnt she break that promise when she was trying to tell Naitik the nite he slept off???and moreover she is the NEW DIL of the house...she should know her limits especially in such sensitive matters!!!so to answer some of ur Q, I dont think Akshara was even thinking for a second how much risk she is taking by getting involved in this...she has no time & is also not that smart or matured to think about the sasural risks...so in a way she is stupid....and about the breach of trust in the marriage, my personal opinion is that yes it was a breach of trust coz shadi ke baad we should be open with our hubbys as much as possible...she should have refused to hide this from him from the begining....especially after going through one incident of hiding the job interview thing from Naitik and how hurt he was...and also for the fact that maybe if he had enough time, he could have understood and maybe even supported their love....atleast there wouldnt be fireworks on the day a prospecive suitor is supossed to come home!!! what can we expect anyone to do then??? so I think Akshara acted dumb and stupid in this situation and Naitik is fully justified in his outburst.....
Ritu
you bring up valid points...and you are right in your prospective...i originally felt the same way...but the more i am thinking the more I am leaning toward the other way...
Akshara is the new DIL of the house and she should know her limits...but its not in her nature to turn a blind eye, especially dealing with matter's of the heart....Maybe she didnt realize the risks of dealing with matter's of the sasural...but she would have done what she did 4 nandu's happiness regardless...knowing full well the risks involved...
Nandu's situation is different..because of her medical issues..she has always been treated differently...she hated that.....most ppl ...including her family made her feel like she was lacking something....and their behavior (although not intentional) made her feel like she was a burden....her mother always whining about her marriage...as if thats the only thing that was holding her back in life...and then then all jumping with glee that some1 wanted 2 marry her...C'mon they agreed 2 marry her off 2 some1 twice her age...that would initially make the family happy...but when they would have seen how miserable nandini was that would have made them feel worse, that what they are going to be feeling now...Mohit is the only one that understood and accepted her 4 who she is...he encourages her ambitions, he values her thoughts and he makes her feel like she has NO limitations....Initially no 1 will see or agree ..but what akshara did was right 4 all party's involved....even if nandini married the doctor she would never have been happy neither would he...
You are absolutely right.....Akshara should never have agreed to keep this from her husband...that deal should have been taken off the table....she should have said it plain and simple I will not keep anything from my husband! akshara should have told naitik everything from the very beginning....instead of playing fiddle with the truth....that is where she showed immaturity...
what akshara did was not wrong but how she did was wrong....the timing was really bad....but akshi is not 2 be blamed 4 that....she tried to stop things b4 they got out of hand...she spoke up about not making a jalbazi decison with this.....and she asked them to talk to nandini...no1 considered listening 2 her opinion or that she might be justified with her feelings.........Naitik even shushed her up...and basically told her to shut up and accept what was going on...he didnt even notice the sadness in nadu's eye...because deep down he didnt want to accept that akshi might have been right....it is Nandini that screwed things up not akshara...
Naitik was absolutely justified with his outburst....he was blindsighted by 3 of the closest ppl in his life...
but akshara is not to be blamed 4 the way things blew up and the timing of things....her mistake was not telling her husband...
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