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Originally posted by: nandinisharma6

Ya u r exactly right........It is a rare quality in which she is happy if her family members r so.......... She is not selfish ......... It is not stupidity.......... it is her goodness .She dont think of her first but she thinks of others ....... this helping nature ...... one r the other day come to presence....... will be noticed. i do agree she was not wrong. Pyaar kisi ko kehe kar thodi aata hai. Naithik should understand this.hope he do so [B][/B] 😔

Originally posted by: nandinisharma6

Ya u r exactly right........It is a rare quality in which she is happy if her family members r so.......... She is not selfish ......... It is not stupidity.......... it is her goodness .She dont think of her first but she thinks of others ....... this helping nature ...... one r the other day come to presence....... will be noticed. i do agree she was not wrong. Pyaar kisi ko kehe kar thodi aata hai. Naithik should understand this.hope he do so [B][/B] 😔

Originally posted by: aksharanaitik

<font color="#cc0066">hey guys... the recent track has been unnerving me...it is raising questions in my mind about judgment and the thin line between right and wrong......... i was wondering what your opinions were...<br><br>Akshara is sticking her neck out 4 nandu's happiness...knowing full well she is throwing herself under the bus...

Shanta, that's exactly what she's unaware of...not once did she think of the consequences...usually we balance our relationships but if we measure, she has done everything for nandini's happiness ONLY and on the other side, her family(the in laws), her husband , the honour & reputation of the family was TOTALLY ignored ! i dun have a problem with what she did but what is surprising is that NOT ONCE did she think abt the family angle ??? she's feeling elated tht nandini has decided to be with mohit but she isn't thinking that back home the ladke wale r about to arrive and how will they handle this situation? she's not even worried?????? this is not practical !

she is risking all the relationships in her sasural for the sake of one's happiness...Is she dumb or is she selfless?


for sure, this is dumbness the root cause of which is her selflessness....i'll not blame her tht she cud not balance the relationships, it's very difficult for any girl to do it , it takes a lot of effort n knowing each other..i'm glad she was not shown to be a superhuman who can handle everything on her own....i wonder if anybody can be as selfless as akshara and even if there r they must be suffering alone in some corner of their houses like akshara is ! if u wanna keep others happy (which is in a way acting selfless , u keep others happiness on priority than ur own) then u have keep yourself happy


She thinks with her heart first and her mind last....is that a rare quality or is it sheer stupidity...


i think Shanta, all of of us, specially girls think frm their heart first and then their heads bec. we're emotional by nature...someone told me the first voice tht comes frm within u is the voice of God, the voice of ur conscience and after tht, whichever thoughts come in ur mind is the devil's voice inside u...this toh akshara also knows very well that she should have told naitik the very first day bec. everytime her conscience was telling her tht she must tell naitik...when she knew abt nandini and mohit, fine , it's her POV tht nandini should follow her heart, she supported their relationship, therez nothing wrong in tht....(and she will have to face the heat for this prolly)

.<br><br>The fact that she didnt tell naitik from the beginning ....is that a breach of trust in the marriage...?<br><br>Which kasam should have held more importance the one to her husband or the one to her nanand?<br><br><br><font color="#3300ff">As i was thinking about this whole situation that akshara has gotten herself into...at first i was sitting and thinking how stupid can this girl be 2 put herself in that situation...the more i thought about it ...the more i found myself relating and siding with akshara..<br><br>Akshara still holds a rare quality in my opinion...the fact that she lives 4 others happiness.....she would put her happiness on the line to bring a smile some1 else's face..... the way she handled the situation may have been wrong....but i dont think what she did was wrong....she didnt want nandu 2 be miserable 4 the rest of her life...so she encouraged her 2 choose her happiness over her responsibility...

i said so much abt this earlier , now i dun wanna repeat myself :( Shanta dear, she doesn't want a miserable life for nandini but whatz the guarantee tht nandini will have a comfortable life with mohit? on what basis did she encourage nandini? tht's exactly why she should have told naitik earlier or at least try to find out abt mohit's background n family first..did mohit tell her or nandini that HIS parents are also against this rishta? since naitik is the one closest to mohit, he knows him frm childhood days, he was the best judge whether or not mohit is suitable for nandini....i think if the doctor is good natured n his family is good, his age can be ignored bec. he and his family are willing to take nandini as their DIL knowing about her disability ! ALSO , NAndini's parents were happy with the rishta... this was a much better scenario than nandini marrying mohit who doesn't have a good financial background & whoz family (specially his monster mom) has made it clear that "langdi" nandini will never become their bahu ! will akshara not feel guilty to see Nandini in this pathetic state after marriage? so at least she should be knowing what she's doing...she was playing a BLIND GAME...


<br><br>The fact that she didnt tell naitik was wrong...but her intentions weren't </font></font><font color="#cc0066">(in her defense she did attempt 2 tell him)</font><font color="#3300ff">...she shouldnt have gone in as deep as she did without her husbands knowledge....<br><br>The kasam she gave to her husband should always hold more importance....but my moral dilemma comes in at this thought...part of the kasams she has given to her husband was that his family is now her's as well....and she would always ensure their happiness....so wasnt what she was doing 4 nandini part of what she promised him she would do???<br></font><font color="#cc0066"><br></font>

Shanta, in a joint family, and since Aksh belonged to a joint family she must be knowing it better, it's very important tht the girl blends in the family..she was told from day 1, when she stepped in the house, that the DIL has to be very careful at every step bec. it takes 1 sec. for ppl. to pull her down..logon ko baatein banane ka mauka nahi dena chahiye (tht's what Gayitri told her) ...time n again she was reminded that for them the family honour is above everything..then howcome she risked the reputation of her in laws this way? as a DIL it was her duty to think about EVERYBODY's happiness and not just one person..the decision of marriage is to be taken by elders, doesn't she know that? nandini's happiness is not only with mohit but she wants her parents blessings ALSO, doesn't akshara know this? didn't she know that her conservative in laws will have an objection to this mismatch jodi??? doesn't she know daddaji is dead against the idea of love marriage?? Naitik complained to her many times that she overrides his wishes for the family's sake, he's the last in her priority list and aksh just proved him right :((( she miscalculated Naitik's reaction, although i always said tht he will never support any kind of relation b/w mohit and any of his sisters...Aksh thought tht naitik will support them once he'll come to know but i'm glad at least he is more practical n logical...

Originally posted by: aksharanaitik

hey guys... the recent track has been unnerving me...it is raising questions in my mind about judgment and the thin line between right and wrong......... i was wondering what your opinions were...

Akshara is sticking her neck out 4 nandu's happiness...knowing full well she is throwing herself under the bus...she is risking all the relationships in her sasural for the sake of one's happiness...Is she dumb or is she selfless? She thinks with her heart first and her mind last....is that a rare quality or is it sheer stupidity....

The fact that she didnt tell naitik from the beginning ....is that a breach of trust in the marriage...?

Which kasam should have held more importance the one to her husband or the one to her nanand?


As i was thinking about this whole situation that akshara has gotten herself into...at first i was sitting and thinking how stupid can this girl be 2 put herself in that situation...the more i thought about it ...the more i found myself relating and siding with akshara..

Akshara still holds a rare quality in my opinion...the fact that she lives 4 others happiness.....she would put her happiness on the line to bring a smile some1 else's face..... the way she handled the situation may have been wrong....but i dont think what she did was wrong....she didnt want nandu 2 be miserable 4 the rest of her life...so she encouraged her 2 choose her happiness over her responsibility...

The fact that she didnt tell naitik was wrong...but her intentions weren't (in her defense she did attempt 2 tell him--)...she shouldnt have gone in as deep as she did without her husbands knowledge....

The kasam she gave to her husband should always hold more importance....but my moral dilemma comes in at this thought...part of the kasams she has given to her husband was that his family is now her's as well....and she would always ensure their happiness....so wasnt what she was doing 4 nandini part of what she promised him she would do???

Originally posted by: beautiful16

Rifat.. i agree wid ur post... being myself mayb i wont let my happiness suffer coz of others.. m too selfish..but lookng at my mom.. she did evrythng to make her inlaws happy.. sumtimes i thnk y is she soo dumb ( get really angry at her)but thn i understnd tat her happiness lies in tat... forget inlaws i've seen her doin so wid neighbours & frnz as well.. she got a earful from my dad many a times..but her nature is tat way.. & now i understnd thru akshara... she is same as my mom.. selfless... but i want her to b otherwise coz ths will only hurt her & her relationships... I hope naitik understand her (it will take time) but once he starts doin soo, his respect & love for her will b double... m sure.