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sadhna1

@sadhna1

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Posted: 16 years ago

#31

Has anyone's MIL would do like this

if you are working in Kitchen and she will come their to see what you are doing.... She would make excuses like to drink water or put something aways mine does all the time.........and i hate when she does that she sits there at dinner table to watch what i am doing so now a days i got my radio on my cooking table........and as soon as i enter in kitchen i put high volume so i dont hear her at all ;)

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CookMySock

@CookMySock

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Posted: 16 years ago

#32

OMG
I actually haven't read a really positive response at all...I wonder what my MIL will be like. Reading this when I get married I'll probably end up checking the MIL first rather than the guy!

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sadhna1

@sadhna1

Inactive

Posted: 16 years ago

#33

StarryEyedGyal

I think that is good Idea.... I wish i would have done the same thing but too late it was not possible............for me because I am in US and She was in India....................Anyways Good Luck

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MysticNights

@MysticNights

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: StarryEyedGyal
OMG
I actually haven't read a really positive response at all...I wonder what my MIL will be like. Reading this when I get married I'll probably end up checking the MIL first rather than the guy!

🤣 even i wonder the same 😆

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Janki75

@Janki75

Inactive

Posted: 16 years ago

#35

Yes, mine does everything mentioned

If I am cooking- she has watch and tell me how to do this, do that, don't put this in, put this in

You see only she knows how to cook and clean and do laundry - and if you don't do it exactly like her, then you are doing it wrong.

If my family comes over, she has a headache and must go lie down ( and amazingly it is cured when my family leaves) or she will leave the house when she knows they are coming.

If my husband and I are going out- she will surely injure herself so she can be hurt so that husband will find her crying when she comes home- the most recent and dramatic- she fell going down the stairs and busted her lip

I work long hours during the week and weekends are the two days I have off, in those 2 days I have to grocery shop, clean and do all my errands- and try to relax a little bit

She does not work- and it is only on weekends that she will have projects ready to do and ends up involving me and husband- I am talking clean outside, plant flowers, clean gutters etc

She is home 7 days a week, why not do one thing a day?

Did I mention she is up at 4:30am every day- and stays awake until we go to sleep, even if it is after 10pm or 11pm

I swear she is lazy beyond belief and pretends to doing everything infront of her son - I am sure when we are out, she lies on the couch watching tv or sleeping

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MysticNights

@MysticNights

Sparkler

+ 5

Posted: 16 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: Janki75
Yes, mine does everything mentioned

If I am cooking- she has watch and tell me how to do this, do that, don't put this in, put this in

You see only she knows how to cook and clean and do laundry - and if you don't do it exactly like her, then you are doing it wrong.

If my family comes over, she has a headache and must go lie down ( and amazingly it is cured when my family leaves) or she will leave the house when she knows they are coming.

If my husband and I are going out- she will surely injure herself so she can be hurt so that husband will find her crying when she comes home- the most recent and dramatic- she fell going down the stairs and busted her lip

I work long hours during the week and weekends are the two days I have off, in those 2 days I have to grocery shop, clean and do all my errands- and try to relax a little bit

She does not work- and it is only on weekends that she will have projects ready to do and ends up involving me and husband- I am talking clean outside, plant flowers, clean gutters etc

She is home 7 days a week, why not do one thing a day?

Did I mention she is up at 4:30am every day- and stays awake until we go to sleep, even if it is after 10pm or 11pm

I swear she is lazy beyond belief and pretends to doing everything infront of her son - I am sure when we are out, she lies on the couch watching tv or sleeping

🤣 janki di, i wish u had dream on the song jhumme raat. ur MIL will take paresh rawal's place omg i can't but laugh 🤣🤣🤣

serious note..have hidden camera in house 🤣🤣 will MIL will get caught..or warna mIl ko line pe aana hoga..yaar. ur in india ya usa? baap re its seems like lots to deal with.😭

🤗 for all bahu's who deal with MIL

Edited by sportskp - 16 years ago

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Kavita

@Pallavi_2013

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

#37

Every one of u criticizing ur MILs.I don't think all MILs are bad. After all they r also human beings and a human being can be bad or good or is the title MIL so effective that every one who gets into the role of MIL becomes bad. I wonder. 🤔 Now u ppl are saying that u go out on job and u have so much work to do then excuse me for asking but then how do u get time to be a regular visitor of IF and one more thing u r criticizing ur MIL but tell me how many of u r DILs like Varsha, Akshara, Ragini n Sadhna and how many of u r like Malti.

I ask my mom that she never criticizes her MIL whereas most of the DILs do. Then my mom says that her MIL is a v.simple n sweet lady and there is nothing to criticize. So I was just wondering that my grandma can't be the only unique piece in the world.

Iam also married as I had an early marriage and although I have said so much in support of MILs but ironically and truthfully speaking my MIL is also no good and she criticizes her MIL 😆. She luvs her daughter's daughter more than her elder DILs sons. When the elder DILs sons get better result than her daughter's daughter then she becomes envious and both the mother and daughter then put pressure on my father-in-law that your elder DIL teaches her children so much that they will spoil their health so my Father - in- laws keeps saying this to my elder SIL that don't teach ur children so much. But on other hand they keep telling their daughter's daughter to study hard. I can see that my elder SIL gets irritated by all this but can't say anything because her hussy wont here any thing against his parents and he is a full Papa's boy so whatever his Papa says is right and both the ladies have instilled this fear in the minds of both father and son that if their DIL will make her children work hard then their health will be spoilt whereas I have seen my SIL that she manages a balance between their studies n playing hrs. But even if the children have been studying for half an hour both the mother and daughter start making noise.

But I will say one thing my younger SIL is v.sweet. Once I took out fruits from the refrigerator and started eating then my MIL came and said that u shuldn' t eat fruits u shuld give them to ur hussy. Then b4 I culd give her an answer my younger SIL who is about my age said,"why mamma, why can't bhabhi eat the fruits". 😊

Edited by kavita_1987 - 16 years ago

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sandhyahr

@sandhyahr

Beginner

Posted: 16 years ago

#38

hi
Y these MIL are like tht ???😕
y can't they treat us like a real mother...???

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Charu

@Krinya

Trailblazer

+ 8

Team Critics

Posted: 16 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: 5cents

MIL & DIL relationship is kabhi pyar kabhi takraar.......kabhi pyar kabhi jealousy.......use some Hatiyar......saab theek ho jayega. 😆😆 Everybody has probs kuch kam kuch jayada. My prob is too much love....lol😉😆 She suffocates me with love & affection. She really pampers me.........My mom was stricter than her but you call it insecurity or what she does not like me talking to my mom on phone or visiting her for more than a week . If I worship my ILS 24/7 MIL / SIL/ hubby jaab then saab theek hai. I mostly do that to keep peace at home. After whole day in the office I don't want any racket at home. Just be bit diplomatic sab theek hoga. 😉

If your MIL thinks that u r a machine then your hubby shd support you &say u r working equally hard. He shd take care of the baby in the evening if u r cooking. You need to fix your hubby first. I have figured that if hubby is very caring & loving MIL can't do much.😃

I'll visit this topic again......now i need to hit the bed.😃
Just added......

Remember!! God can not go everywhere so he made mother and Devil also can not go everywhere so he made mother in law!!!!😆😆 just a pj

Just to balance things. MILs and DILs are both human. Some people have problem personalities. We all have quirks. If you expect too much from one another you will always be disappointed. It could have been a bad relationship for me too but I decided to make a friend of her and got to know her and love her. I communicate with her & let my displeasure known. I generally don't take the via route(through hubby) direct var on her if she comes into my territory.

Finding the common ground where the two of you can coexist may be a difficult undertaking, but the peace it brings to your life thorough understanding and love is worth the effort. It is not always possible to become buddies, but you do not have to be enemies either.

Your husband is your ally, but never make him choose between his mothoer and yourself just my 5cents

100 baat ki ek baat...MIL's can't do much if ur husband is supportive..but in that case, you have a bigger responsibility on ur shoulders IF you want peace at home !

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Charu

@Krinya

Trailblazer

+ 8

Team Critics

Posted: 16 years ago

#40

OMG such a lenghty discussion on MIL's ! kabhi yrkkh bhi itna discuss kiya hai? 🤣

loved all ur comments dears and i didn't know that so many members here are married and we have the same problems ! :D

my problem with my MIL is that we are completely opposite..our choices, our thinking is completely different from each other..strangely, my hubby and i have a good level of understanding..we have similar likes and dislikes....and that's why my hubby and my MIL don't get along with each other ! they keep fighting or arguing most of the time..and i become the sandwich bec. i'm always blamed for it (i don't understand by what logic) 🤣 i've told my hubby clearly tht plz don't fight with ur mom bec. she always thinks tht i'm gossiping against her (and the truth is that i and my hubby NEVER talk abt our families..i hate to gossip..may be tht's why till date i manged to maintain peace back home :))

My MIL expects me to do everything but she never says it..i don't know why..... thts why therez a communication gap between us.. so i do whatever i feel right..now sometimes some problem crops up but it's ok....i took a long time to understand her and adjust with her but now touchwood, all's well ! kabhi khushi kabhi gham laga rehta hai...but life is not tht difficult which it seemed when i was newly married..

someone told me one thing n i registered it in my mind..and that was..your MIL can NEVER take your mother's place so it's useless to look for ur mother in ur MIL...Next, YOU can never become your MIL's daughter so never even try ! MIL, DIL, mother, daughter, each relation has it's own place and importance ! so accept the reality ...things will be easy...

I've seen bad MILs, DIL's, I've seen the best MIL's , DIL's in my family! but yes, SOME MIL's are really incurable 👎🏼 so it's better if u apply "tit for tat" tactics there..n if it doesn't work , talk to your husband, n if that doesn't work, find a solution yaar..therez a solution to every problem in this world ! :)

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