Monther In law and Daughther In law - Page 6

What I don't understand is why does the cycle continue? I mean DIL go through a lot of bakwas and then they turn around and do the same thing when they become MIL.

Now some might say that well in those days women didnt have a career so their life revolved around children and children alone (+ husband here and there ) but today they are doing something , busy so it wont happen.

I do not think so that feelings emerge no matter how big of a career you got.

Originally posted by: _charu_

OMG such a lenghty discussion on MIL's ! kabhi yrkkh bhi itna discuss kiya hai? 🤣

loved all ur comments dears and i didn't know that so many members here are married and we have the same problems ! :D

my problem with my MIL is that we are completely opposite..our choices, our thinking is completely different from each other..strangely, my hubby and i have a good level of understanding..we have similar likes and dislikes....and that's why my hubby and my MIL don't get along with each other ! they keep fighting or arguing most of the time..and i become the sandwich bec. i'm always blamed for it (i don't understand by what logic) 🤣 i've told my hubby clearly tht plz don't fight with ur mom bec. she always thinks tht i'm gossiping against her (and the truth is that i and my hubby NEVER talk abt our families..i hate to gossip..may be tht's why till date i manged to maintain peace back home :))

My MIL expects me to do everything but she never says it..i don't know why..... thts why therez a communication gap between us.. so i do whatever i feel right..now sometimes some problem crops up but it's ok....i took a long time to understand her and adjust with her but now touchwood, all's well ! kabhi khushi kabhi gham laga rehta hai...but life is not tht difficult which it seemed when i was newly married..

someone told me one thing n i registered it in my mind..and that was..your MIL can NEVER take your mother's place so it's useless to look for ur mother in ur MIL...Next, YOU can never become your MIL's daughter so never even try ! MIL, DIL, mother, daughter, each relation has it's own place and importance ! so accept the reality ...things will be easy...

I've seen bad MILs, DIL's, I've seen the best MIL's , DIL's in my family! but yes, SOME MIL's are really incurable 👎🏼 so it's better if u apply "tit for tat" tactics there..n if it doesn't work , talk to your husband, n if that doesn't work, find a solution yaar..therez a solution to every problem in this world ! :)

😆 That's exactly my situation also .....my hubs doesn't gel well with his parents on certain issues.... he loves them par soch bahut different hai....so the longer they stay together they start arguing. about small small things...but in my case i'am not blamed everytime coz they accept that their son's thinking is quite different from them 😃

Plus i think to an extent MIl feel insecure coz it(home) has been their territory since they got married and now someone else comes to share it so all these things come up....if we try on our part to give them respect of their seniority things wouldn't be that bad.....
afterall kissa kursi ka sirf national politics main hi nahin hota ghar ki politics main bhi hota hai....😉

Gr8 Rajanji's show , pahle log apni MIL ki buri relatives aur neighbours se karte the ab log apni mother in law ki buari internet par karne lage hai....... Jaisa aapne apni MIL ke baare mei likha hai agar vo bhi aisa likhe aapke baare mei ya aapki bhabi likhe aapki mom ke baare mei how will you all feel.........try to understand these realtions.......inko time dena padta hai, jaise har sas achi nahi vaise hi har bahu bhi achi nahi.........please o not discuss personal matters here it a bad sighn fo sosialism n its credit goes to rajanji

Originally posted by: ritu_iluvyrkkh

I think the saas-bahu serials corrupt the MILs mind even more!!

same has happened with my mil...when ever she will see these stories she will tell this to create misunder between me & my hubby dear....thank god they r in india & i am here happ with my hubby..but whenever i go to india i stay there....my god...i feel like running back here...

Originally posted by: remosalsa

same has happened with my mil...when ever she will see these stories she will tell this to create misunder between me & my hubby dear....thank god they r in india & i am here happ with my hubby..but whenever i go to india i stay there....my god...i feel like running back here...

it was like a hell for me there...whenever i used to go out..she would question us to come back on time & all...ops when these mil starts interfeering ur lives..u just can't tolerate it..

Originally posted by: surfgal

tell u this is great show which realistically potrays the real life situations not like Ekta's shows

I think u cant just blame MILs ...to some extent it depends on husbands also as to how they put a balancing act...like if hubbys are able to show support to wives then MILs cant do much and will be scared a abit but once they know that their son is mamas boy then the problems become more for DILs....so if hubbys are to play their part well then problems will be lesser for DIls

Originally posted by: suchitra_1

What I don't understand is why does the cycle continue? I mean DIL go through a lot of bakwas and then they turn around and do the same thing when they become MIL.

Now some might say that well in those days women didnt have a career so their life revolved around children and children alone (+ husband here and there ) but today they are doing something , busy so it wont happen.

I do not think so that feelings emerge no matter how big of a career you got.

that happens bec. our definition of "bakwas" is different from our MIL's def. of bakwas and it'll be different frm the new gen's def. of bakwas...what is bakwas for us may not be bakwas for our in laws...this happens bec. of the generation gap..the amount of freedom which we want, our children will demand much more than that......with time, the world is changing and it's new for the older gen but it's a way of life for the current generation...and that will happen in future also..i'm not saying we'll repeat the same mistakes but we can make some new mistakes , tht's human nature.. afterall nobody is perfect.

true true... Charu Di
choti moti batain happens in all relationships.. MIL DIL or Husband and Wife..

Just have to balance it out... and that comes with experience..

But ofcourse there is choti moti batain and then there is drama lol

I saw some examples of those in this thread already.. I was like 😲

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Originally posted by: _charu_

that happens bec. our definition of "bakwas" is different from our MIL's def. of bakwas and it'll be different frm the new gen's def. of bakwas...what is bakwas for us may not be bakwas for our in laws...this happens bec. of the generation gap..the amount of freedom which we want, our children will demand much more than that......with time, the world is changing and it's new for the older gen but it's a way of life for the current generation...and that will happen in future also..i'm not saying we'll repeat the same mistakes but we can make some new mistakes , tht's human nature.. afterall nobody is perfect.