I see lot has been written on this, I feel like spending my cents on this.......According to me love does not lessen after marriage. It may change its form u may not look into each others eyes for hours or hold hands the whole day but Love is intact.
Love is not a desire or a feeling of give and take,Instead it is a pool of all emotions where you just need to give without expectation of returns(thoda high funda ho gaya per believe me it is possible!)
Love for me is Strength & Power to forge ahead in life. Love is deep, and cannot be compared with anything. The more you love, the more you lose a part of yourself, yet you don't become less of who you are; you end up being complete with your loved one (this is exactly what has happened to me in real life).
Unconditional Love, that is what I believe in & have been trying to convey but I think the logical people believe in conditional love. This might seem like a strange statement, but not everybody is ready to love unconditionally. Some people want to hang on to their judgments, their blame, their anger, and their resentment. Some people want to continue feeling like a victim to their lives and to others instead of taking responsibility for their lives. Some people don't feel happy unless they are complaining about others and/or about the events and circumstances of their lives. And it's generally easier to blame someone or something else.
But, as I have found out………..If we don't change our perspectives on things, nothing in our lives changes either.
On the other hand…………When we change our perspectives then we learn how to love unconditionally--everything around us changes, as if by magic!
Charu, reading abt your experience i felt that.....U did get hurt but you had your hubby by your side that helped u at you ILS place.
Surely, marriage is a journey of wounding, healing & loving.......and worth pursuing.....just my 5cents
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