DOTW-Does-Life changes after marriage?

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Posted: 16 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: _charu_

Sarah, I'm married n I have a lovely daughter too..she's 3 and half yrs old 😊

did u learn frm me? 😊 i'm honoured...actually it's easier said than done but i keep trying...

Sarah, it's upto you to decide whether you want love or arranged marriage......don't think the marriage is arranged or love, just think and rethink whether or not you're happy about it...u should be very sure of your decision .....if it's arranged marriage, don't hesitate in meeting him twice or thrice till u make up ur mind........In my case, I knew my marriage wud be arranged only bec. i don't trust my choice....i think my parents made the best decision for me....and i fell in love with the person who was destined for me 😊 just like yrkkh....and because we loved each other so much before marriage, it became easy for me to adjust in the family after marriage....to change myself for the sake of the person who i loved..........Sarah, you love one person and marry one person but u have to LIVE with his family ...you end up spending more time with his family rather than him 😃 n it was not easy for me like i said...

problems? Sarah, problems keep coming and going..what is important is tht ur bond must be strong enuf to survive all kinds of tests of destiny...i'll tell u where my marriage stands today...we love each other , it never changed after marriage, we're there for each other, we care for each other, we know each other inside out, we know each other's limitations, habits, nature.....our day starts with i love you and ends with i love you........i can say tht my husband knows me more than nyone in this world (just like my mom..i keep telling him u've taken my mom's place) , even if i don't say anything, he comes to know what's in my mind BUT we don't have time for each other...We hardly meet for 30 mins in a day.....earlier we used to talk for hours at a length, now we hardly talk for 3 mins on the phone ! after tht i'm thinking n he's thinking what more to say 😆 but i'm living with this fact now....and yrkkh has helped me change...bec. of this serial, i'm happy and when i'm happy, i manage to keep everyone happy ! 😊

U can say tht my problem is similar to Shaurya and Varsha's problem...only difference is tht i felt it after so many yrs of my marriage and they realized it on their honeymoon itself 😆

aww thank u so much Charu!🤗🤗🤗

i did learn from u!

and im exactly like u in some ways i think my parents will choose a better guy than i would

and i would meet that guy alot of times until i felt comfortable with him.

its b/c i want to work after marriage. I mean im going to be a doctor. But some in-laws allow that right? But i dont really want to stay with my in-laws that much i mean after i get money i can by my own house.

why didnt u work after marriage?

really u have a daughter! wats her name?😃

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Posted: 16 years ago

#12

I think life does change but it in a good way!!

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Do all couples face the problem which Shaurya & Varsha are facing? that husband and wife don't have time for each other & hence they feel the love between them has faded away? If yes then how should we tackle this problem? (of course not Shaurya's way)

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: sarah112

aww thank u so much Charu!🤗🤗🤗

i did learn from u!

and im exactly like u in some ways i think my parents will choose a better guy than i would

and i would meet that guy alot of times until i felt comfortable with him.

its b/c i want to work after marriage. I mean im going to be a doctor. But some in-laws allow that right? But i dont really want to stay with my in-laws that much i mean after i get money i can by my own house.

why didnt u work after marriage?

really u have a daughter! wats her name?😃

Education alone gives you the confidence to make choices in your life......to decide the best for yourself.....just believe in what you're doing...😊

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Mages

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Posted: 16 years ago

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well according to me yes after marriage life will change in the way that we have more responsiblities in our shoulders....example before marriage we did have responsiblities towards our parents and siblings but then at times we take for granted like we are depended on our parents for money and personal stuff....but once we get married all that pampering needs to vanish away and becomes matured so that we not only take care of our husbands but also his families....so in that way life changes what we were in our parents house life will not be the same in husband's house....as there is more responsibilities in our shoulders....life changes in that way

as far as love concern between husband and wife and like akshara says beqaraari can never end....if you trust...understand and have faith in your husband than this jouney of love between husband-wife will never change at all.....love is something can never describe nor will change its only how you portray your love towards your husband....this one feeling that can never change after marriage even at times it fades alittle bit(misunderstanding and small fights)still the love remains fresh in the hearts of all husband and wife....

akshara needs to learn that......she should stop taking advices and just listen to her heart and it will show the way and answer all her questions

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Charu

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Originally posted by: Mages
well according to me yes after marriage life will change in the way that we have more responsiblities in our shoulders....example before marriage we did have responsiblities towards our parents and siblings but then at times we take for granted like we are depended on our parents for money and personal stuff....but once we get married all that pampering needs to vanish away and becomes matured so that we not only take care of our husbands but also his families....so in that way life changes what we were in our parents house life will not be the same in husband's house....as there is more responsibilities in our shoulders....life changes in that way

as far as love concern between husband and wife and like akshara says beqaraari can never end....if you trust...understand and have faith in your husband than this jouney of love between husband-wife will never change at all.....love is something can never describe nor will change its only how you portray your love towards your husband....this one feeling that can never change after marriage even at times it fades alittle bit(misunderstanding and small fights)still the love remains fresh in the hearts of all husband and wife....

akshara needs to learn that......she should stop taking advices and just listen to her heart and it will show the way and answer all her questions

I think with time, love changes it's form....it never fades away, it's there but in a different form...After marriage if Naitik doesn't support Akshara in her studies, does that mean his love has changed for her?

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Posted: 16 years ago

#17

OMG i never knew that so many people are married in our forum.....

Well i think life really changes after marriage...
I can't comment more as i dont know about it coz i am not married yet.

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Siham

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Posted: 16 years ago

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People do change after marriage, priorities change but that does not mean that the love changes....with marriage, more adjustments are made for the person we love and they do the same for us...it may not be said all the time, but the love is there.

Akshara beleived everything that her "nutty, inexperienced" friends told her and even ignored Naitik's call...she forgot how many times she made him wait for her. I find this Naitik to be very a sensible guy. Someone should tell Akshara how much they had to do for Daddaji to agree to her continuing her studies...and all that he did only for her, becoz she wanted to.

So I find even Varsha very immature...she decided that Shaurya didnt understand her, etc just becoz of an argument that she started.

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Charu

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Today i read something very interesting in the newspaper..there was an article about love....It said

"Is marriage really the end of romantic love, taking away all the thrill? If so why weren't we all embittered souls with lacklusture eyes and a depressed outlook? Howcome we still dreamt, still desired and still were happy , each in our own individual way? May be because though we may not be in love , we still loved and were loved back iin return?"

"What does love mean to me? Love is a stringing together of happy shared memories, moments in time spent happily together. It is something that builds up with time and grows and increases. Is it physical? Is it romantic? Sure it is, but those are just phases and maybe manifestations of the real thing that lasts. The state of being in love cannot and does not last; love does ! "

"Romance comes with an expiry date and whether or not the couple marries, whether or not they are in close proximity, it is bound to end. Being IN LOVE is a state you grow out of and should; what makes a marriage or relationship is love. When romance ends, it transcends to love if there is something beyond the frivolous and the physical in a relationship. On the other hand it fizzles into nothingness if the relationship was never built on a solid basis and a deep understanding."

(Article from Times Life)

PS i liked the views of this writer specially "romance comes with an expiry date" , hence i thot of sharing it with u all...

Edited by _charu_ - 16 years ago