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Originally posted by: paagalbandar
I feel like why is it that anyone has to prove their love...male/female...it should not be that way...Also we can not expect men to behave like women...men are men; and women are women...whether we like to accept it or not...I feel not just Naina, Sameer also has right to express how he feels...because he is a man, he will express it differently than Naina...Can you imagine, Sameer crying like Naina, and going Naina tum ne yeh kya kiya, tumne mere bare mein ek baar bhi nahin socha...no its not possible...yes men are aggressive, and they are bullheads at times...but I feel they do have feelings too...It is just that the way they express their emotions are different than girls...I remember I talked to my hubby about this...and he said, you girls can talk to each other...you can go and tell your parents if something is bothering you...but for us men, we have no way of showing our emotions because men are expected to be strong, macho, the bread earner of the house etc...he said, "if a women doesn't work, its okay right?" imagine a men who doesn't earn and feed his wife...imagine what kind of taunts he has to face...He says only way we have learned to express our feelings from childhood is by being either irritated, or being angry...we are not allowed to express like you girls even if we wanted tooo...we will be called sissys's or nithala, nikama etc...so we bottle up our emotions and we just burst everytime we face something difficult...it doesn't mean we don't love people in our life, but that is how we are raised to think...and I do agree, society is as cruel to men as it is to women...women try to justify their life and hardships they face, and men try to do the same for men...however, no one tries to understand the other side, and this is life...I think how Sam behaved was justified...he did not think before he spoke, quite normal for an angry person...even I don't think when I speak when I am angry...and I think it goes for all of us...but at the end of the day, he did go to get her...so no I don't think he is wrong...and no matter love or arranged marriage, every person in a new situation or new household, has to expect some adjustments...I did and so did my hubby, and we had love marriage...just because one gets love marriage, doesn't mean you can expect your hubby to hover around you at all times...he also has responsibilities, and things to do...We all promise each other prior to marriage...why?? because responsibilities have not hit us yet...but when you actually get married, you realize that you are responsible for each other, and that changes things...for naina to expect to Sam to be there for her on first day of marriage, I think its a bit too filmy...it doesn't happen in real life...so along with Sam, Naina has lot of growing up to do as well...both are immature...
Exactly what adjustment do you think Sameer did apart from apologizing for getting up in afternoon...
They are couple since 5 years who talk and share there issues, feelings with each other and know each other in and out... then why this difference?
My husband always supported me for everything from the moment I stepped in.
I used to ask him for help and he reached out to his mom/sis because among so many relatives it was not possible for me to ask inlaws for help finding anything or draping a saree
My father and husband both believe that its girl who leaves her home and enters a new territory and initially she is on scale so she needs all the support... its much easier for men as in shaadi they are pampered from both the families...
I would have never forgotten if my hubby told to not enter the house or stay at parents place in any circumstance or anger...
According to me Sameer needs to realize he is married and the house belongs to Naina too... There is a line which should never be crossed even in anger
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