A personal take on Sameer's current demeanor

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Posted: 6 years ago
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How strange this world is, every mistake of a boy is pardoned as a childish mistake, but every girl is to be held accountable for even the most minute mistakes. One mistake, and people start questioning her upbringing. A girl has to grow up always, is this the reason why girls are more mature than boys of the same age?

Every mistake of Sameer, be it using Sunaina as a rebound, staying silent to Naina's humiliation in Friday episode , is pardoned stating the same reason, he is like a child.

Today, Sameer saying he won't take Naina home till her hairs become alright. The cvs and viewers might've found it amusing, but imagine yourself for once at Naina's place , you'll be pretty much heartbroken.

I being an average looking girl, who has been time and again reminded of the difficulty of getting a groom(which is considered to be the most important thing in a girl's life by the society) coz of my ordinary looks, can feel Naina's pain deeply. If the same words are ever uttered by whosoever will be my lover turned husband, I may forgive him, but not forget it.

It's time Sameer realises the consequences of his actions. Isn't it strange, that every time Naina has to shed tears for Sameer to realise his mistakes? Is that why God has given women the weapon of tears? Is it b because mostt men haven't been given the capability to realise the hurt they cause to their women till they cry?

Sameer is definitely 1000 times better and more understanding than most other men. But there are some basic things that perhaps are common to all . Perhaps, with time , he'll learn, but for the time being some things hurt pretty bad.

Ps- No negativity intended, just poured out things roaming in my mind for long. Feel free to share your view on this 😊

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Posted: 6 years ago
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I was shocked and very upset with Sameer's declaration that "Naina will not enter her own house until her hair ar fixed and will stay in Chachaji's House"
I could feel the pain for Naina in that very instance...

All those promises, declarations that its Naina house are forgotten in one silly physical appearance...

And until he saw Naina breaking down he could not see how he will hurting the beautiful soul in his ego

Hope this gives Sameer some sense of maturity 🤔
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Great post! Finally my wish is granted! Naina's outburst!! I really wanted her to say about her insecurities.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I myself am totally disappointed with this statement of Sameer and can't get over it at all.
I was ranting about it in the LU itself today. But how can he even mention such a thing even to Mundit .

It reminded me of the statement ' Ladkiyon ke maayke hote hain, ladkiyon ke sasural hote hai par ladkiyon ke ghar nahi hote ' .

Just how can he deny Naina entry into her own house even in his dreams. If my husband has even so much as thought something like this I would have thrown him out of the house. I am feeling so bad for poor Naina .
The girl had to go through so much just in one day and then Sameer was stretching the hair issue a lot.
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Men and words , don't go hand in hand...either they are short of it and there is too much of it... 😆 If you really want to judge a man , concentrate on his action. Action speaks louder than words.

He loves her tremendously and he doesn't like to see her like this as he thinks she has destroyed her looks.. that's the whole point . Please don't think I am trying to justify his words. Let me give you an example . If a bottle of ink falls on our fav dress, book or sofa...do we feel angry , frustrated and upset. These are just materials . They can be bought again. In this case Naina is his life. His everything , he cannot see her this way. He is very happy with that simple Naina. He didn't want her to do any of this. He just wants his Naina the one whom he loves dearly . His anger , frustration is because he cant understand why she had to do this...

Her outburst did throw some ...I would again say "SOME" light into her thoughts. She has always acted strong . He never thought she had insecurities. Now one by one will come out of her when she is frustrated /angry etc...

So , yes sounded very rude but that's the hard reality ...men sometime use harsh words...and the only two people will tolerate their verbal nonsense...One is mother , the other is wife. They know and its only with they use it also... 😆

PS : Not aiming at anyone in particular...what I wrote is based on general observation on family mem and friends...people might be diff and exception can be there ..
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: myprimechicago

I was shocked and very upset with Sameer's declaration that "Naina will not enter her own house until her hair ar fixed and will stay in Chachaji's House"

I could feel the pain for Naina in that very instance...

All those promises, declarations that its Naina house are forgotten in one silly physical appearance...

And until he saw Naina breaking down he could not see how he will hurting the beautiful soul in his ego

Hope this gives Sameer some sense of maturity 🤔


Lets Pray he becomes more mature after this. On a lighter note, in case he doesn't , Naina should learn to use the weapon of tears more frequently😆. Bas, problems wahi solved. 😆

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Rph09

Great post! Finally my wish is granted! Naina's outburst!! I really wanted her to say about her insecurities.


Same here😊 Going by past treatment of Naina's pain by cvs, I am glad she finally expressed than bottling it all up meaninglessly. 😊
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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Nikkie_1

I myself am totally disappointed with this statement of Sameer and can't get over it at all.

I was ranting about it in the LU itself today. But how can he even mention such a thing even to Mundit .

It reminded me of the statement ' Ladkiyon ke maayke hote hain, ladkiyon ke sasural hote hai par ladkiyon ke ghar nahi hote ' .

Just how can he deny Naina entry into her own house even in his dreams. If my husband has even so much as thought something like this I would have thrown him out of the house. I am feeling so bad for poor Naina .
The girl had to go through so much just in one day and then Sameer was stretching the hair issue a lot.


This very statement I too had thought of while writing this post. It's so true.. that's the reason today so much emphasis is laid on a girl being financially independent so that she doesn't need to bend to the whims and fancies of anyone 😊


I literally cried at the outburst of Naina at the end. I so wish that cvs show a proper scene where Sameer realises well how hurt Naina is , let's see if we get a scene on this, or it'll be merely pacifying Naina for the time being . Realization to the depth is needed for him to grow out of it . 😊
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Posted: 6 years ago
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I feel like why is it that anyone has to prove their love...male/female...it should not be that way...Also we can not expect men to behave like women...men are men; and women are women...whether we like to accept it or not...I feel not just Naina, Sameer also has right to express how he feels...because he is a man, he will express it differently than Naina...Can you imagine, Sameer crying like Naina, and going Naina tum ne yeh kya kiya, tumne mere bare mein ek baar bhi nahin socha...no its not possible...yes men are aggressive, and they are bullheads at times...but I feel they do have feelings too...It is just that the way they express their emotions are different than girls...I remember I talked to my hubby about this...and he said, you girls can talk to each other...you can go and tell your parents if something is bothering you...but for us men, we have no way of showing our emotions because men are expected to be strong, macho, the bread earner of the house etc...he said, "if a women doesn't work, its okay right?" imagine a men who doesn't earn and feed his wife...imagine what kind of taunts he has to face...He says only way we have learned to express our feelings from childhood is by being either irritated, or being angry...we are not allowed to express like you girls even if we wanted tooo...we will be called sissys's or nithala, nikama etc...so we bottle up our emotions and we just burst everytime we face something difficult...it doesn't mean we don't love people in our life, but that is how we are raised to think...and I do agree, society is as cruel to men as it is to women...women try to justify their life and hardships they face, and men try to do the same for men...however, no one tries to understand the other side, and this is life...

I think how Sam behaved was justified...he did not think before he spoke, quite normal for an angry person...even I don't think when I speak when I am angry...and I think it goes for all of us...but at the end of the day, he did go to get her...so no I don't think he is wrong...and no matter love or arranged marriage, every person in a new situation or new household, has to expect some adjustments...I did and so did my hubby, and we had love marriage...just because one gets love marriage, doesn't mean you can expect your hubby to hover around you at all times...he also has responsibilities, and things to do...

We all promise each other prior to marriage...why?? because responsibilities have not hit us yet...but when you actually get married, you realize that you are responsible for each other, and that changes things...for naina to expect Sam to be there for her on first day of marriage, I think its a bit too filmy...it doesn't happen in real life...so along with Sam, Naina has lot of growing up to do as well...both are immature...
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Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

Men and words , don't go hand in hand...either they are short of it and there is too much of it... 😆 If you really want to judge a man , concentrate on his action. Action speaks louder than words.

He loves her tremendously and he doesn't like to see her like this as he thinks she has destroyed her looks.. that's the whole point . Please don't think I am trying to justify his words. Let me give you an example . If a bottle of ink falls on our fav dress, book or sofa...do we feel angry , frustrated and upset. These are just materials . They can be bought again. In this case Naina is his life. His everything , he cannot see her this way. He is very happy with that simple Naina. He didn't want her to do any of this. He just wants his Naina the one whom he loves dearly . His anger , frustration is because he cant understand why she had to do this...

Her outburst did throw some ...I would again say "SOME" light into her thoughts. She has always acted strong . He never thought she had insecurities. Now one by one will come out of her when she is frustrated /angry etc...

So , yes sounded very rude but that's the hard reality ...men sometime use harsh words...and the only two people will tolerate their verbal nonsense...One is mother , the other is wife. They know and its only with they use it also... 😆

PS : Not aiming at anyone in particular...what I wrote is based on general observation on family mem and friends...people might be diff and exception can be there ..



Thats no problem, after all everyone has different experiences in life and will have a different take to things😊


Well, coming to words, Well the fact that men have the liberty to hurt someone with their words indicate the fact that theyre pardoned easily. It's true that actions are more important than words, but isn't it important to take care to not hirt your loved ones even with words? Specially at the person's weakest point? A child is forgiven for his/her words coz he/she is too small to realise the implications of it, but adults? After one point, it becomes a habit, which we've accepted as the harsh reality.

Like one of Naina's weak point is being called ugly since childhood , Sameer hurt her exactly there. And he veey well knew this, he has seen taiji and others taunting her. It hurts when I remember that Sameer who fought with everyone for this marriage and then this Sameer who walked away leaving Naina to face humiliation and talks of not taking her back home.

He didn't realise, rather didn't feel the need to realise her insecurities becayse Naina has mostly bottled up her hurt . I just hope from now on Naina expresses herself and Sameer too realises .

Ps- You may find me biased towards Naina here , which is infact true considering the fact that she too has had her fair share of hurting Sameer. But talking of the current scenario and putting myself in place of Naina, everything is really very upsetting( Also effects of crushing on Sameer😆. When that goody goody image breaks dard to hona hi hai😛 )

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