witness of about someone on verge of rape - Page 3

Hey Dhruvi,

Originally posted by: angelic567

Hugs to you dhruvi... First of all i salute your braveness.

What you have witnessed is horrifying and i can understand the trauma... I remember once, my friends told me that while on their way to school a man showed his genitals to them... They got terrified and ran away... They both were disgusted to the core. Now these kind of things are a common scenario in our country.

Day to day we get to hear about something or the other happening with women... As i said before, most of us have been subjected to some kind of abuse or eve teasing as women... And i'm nt ashamed to say that me too.. Be it bus, train, road, or anywhere... I've felt disgusted many times hearing lewd remarks from men on my body... I know how it feels when u r touched without ur permission... Its luke a nightmare and can't be forgotten.

Eve teasing is not a small thing to take it lightly... We simply can't ignore it like other mistakes... Its a big thing... I know cvs won't be able to do justice to such heavy themes... Bt at least they could have refrained from showing eve teasing.. Could have conveniently avoided this part and show him doing alk the other things. Or as u said they could have taken some creative liberty and showed sam standing up to eve teasing.

Everything else can be forgiven... Smoking, drinking, playing cards, po*n magazines... Bt eve teasing cant be taken lightly... It will be an insult to all those women who had to go through this atleast once in their lives.

It pains me to see a character so well developed stooping so low... He had 1000 faults in the past too... Bt he did respect women... That one quality made him special... The sameer who rejected kamya's advances, he literally escaped from her saying he loves someone else... The same sameer who was uncomfortable kissing swati's hand even for a play... It hurts to see him hangingnout with eve teasing gang even if he doesn't do it himself.

Ps,. Thanks for sharing ur experience with us dhruvi.. Happy to know that your made is welk and fine.

Originally posted by: Hearttalks_90s

@Viollete - i have taken counselling and it has helped but again somethings still haunt u. more than the incident the thing that haunts me if i had not reached there on time?

i m engaged in many activities in Melbourne as well as in India... taking sessions on bad touch and good touch even before it got famous... mostly i go to slumps where women r subject to these things everyday...

i talk to gals as well as boys (boys getting raped are also getting prevalent)... inculcating in both genders that we need to stand for each other, to make out what is right what is wrong at young age, making their parents understand that listen to your child wen they come to you instead of thinking they are making stories, know their friends, make education of utmost important, not discriminate between gals n boys... taking sessions for teaching self defence since everyone cant afford to learn martial arts or something else...

i used to go to orphanage every week twice to teach kids... i m doing as much as i can so that i can do a bit whatever it is...

i know small things dont make bigger impact... but like my mom always says boond boond se hi sagar bharta hai...

so i m contributing to my part...

Wow hats off to u girl.. really proud to know u! 👏 👏 ⭐️

things have come a long way for u.. and I appreciate u doing so much..

Now I understand ur concern abt asking the girls on this forum to take eve teasing e.t.c seriously.. 😳

But asking from a unrealistic world and a completely different madeup world is a bit too much.. at the end of the day thy r just telling a story.. so I don't mix the two worlds..

but many ppl esp young girls don't realize the difference betn real and virtual unrealistic world.. thy need to understand tht there is a basic difference.. and that is what will make them take what is real and harsh in life with chin up.. in stead of weaving a fantasy story of a cute good looking boy and worrying about his transgressions..😆

This is the fundamental difference that my mon taught me early in the day.. coz I was a tv buff.. a romantic buff.. and often mixed two worlds..

but TV shows r not those moral stories that we read and followed while growing up..

hence I never idolize hero heroines.. I appreciate them for their hard work and acting but there characters cannot b our role models..😳

and I have never completely approved of Sam.. 😆 jst bcoz he was so vella.. had equally vella friends and I knew sooner or later he was bound to do such thing.. I had jst hoped tht Naina would drill some sense in his mind.. 😆

but tht was not to happen.. 😆

But I will still not judge him for what he has done, I will judge him for the good that he is capable of doing..

U c I m utterly hopelessly hopeful person.. 😆

And I believe in inherent goodness of mankind.. 😳

I may not able to forget but I believe in forgiving, moving on and giving second chances..

Do I forgive rapists? Well that is different topic to discuss.. some other time..

but I do have an interesting topic at hand taking this further on.. but some other time.. when Sameer descends to a level down further perhaps.. 😉 😆

take care.. bye..

Originally posted by: PrincessLeah

Eve teasing is NEVER OK

Even if whn done by loving Sameer.Being a fav dosent mean we shld justify his stupid n wrong actions.

He did wrong...period.

Loneliness dosent justify crime ! So ppl defending him get a life !

Originally posted by: Hearttalks_90s

Simi we both r saying things which cud bring something good to society had CV shown that... but here we are termed as people who spread negativity... this makes me wonder that what is shown on tv doesnt make people feel its negative? so wen a rape happens all these people also try to think for even once that oh what might hv happened back of the mind of rapist? or do people think that? if they do then probably we are few exceptions who dont... and i know this statement wud be felt as far fetched that how come looking at gals/eve teasing them is being compared to rape??

Bold: I would b shocked if ppl here r still not grown up enuf to think that harassing a girl or any person, physically, mentally or otherwise is equivalent to robbing him/her off their dignity, pride and self-esteem.. thn sadly we as humans have lot to learn in terms of compassion and humanity..

Dear Druvi, you were such a brave and selfless girl and you saved the little's girls life and that is commendable even though you didn't understand what was happening. My heart goes out to you. I really hope with all the help you get that you will eventually be okay. Take care.

Originally posted by: Samaina_1990

That's a horrible incident to witness as a child n moreover for the innocent girl who was just saved from being a victim of child rape...only because of you. But then nothing happened to the man right. As always. You are very right in saying that lecherous men like him think that they have right over any woman. And yes, I'm fully agreeing here with you- Sameer Maheshwari did stoop to a level last night, from where redemption is not possible. Being silent to a crime of this level (given his moral compass was all right like a week back) n defending the same men- makes him a party to the crime. It's a betrayal towards Naina...who once again decided to trust him and love him with all his heart. It is a betrayal to the loving audience, who enjoyed Sameer's journey of transformation and penance as the show's summary states and came to adore and worship the man he became. Only to be let down. And I really do not buy the arguments about him being young (he's not a kid). Or him having a disturbed childhood (in which case he should have been extremely spoilt by now). Our Sameer knew how to respect women. Our Sameer never let down the people who trusted him like his Nanu, Mundit n Naina...but this is someone else. I'm sure Mundit are going to have a shock of their lives. I hope they tell Naina to forget him. Kitna bhi acha redemption ho...har baar galti ki maafi nahi milti. Aur Sameer pehle bhi galti nahi gunah kar raha hai. I'm doubtful if he really loves Naina now ya sirf uski care n affection ke aage behek gaya tha. Isse acha to wo chalu type, swag wala Sameer tha. Uspe se when he said kal ki Naina ajooba thi...aakhir saccha pyaar karne walon ko ajooba hi kahenge na. Matlab Sameer ne saccha pyaar nahi kiya? Sorry to sound negative yaar, but itne negative episodes dikhayenge to feedback bhi negative hi hoga na

Originally posted by: Komalp1391

Dhruvi di first of all salute to u for what u did for that girl and ur maid also

Sameer our favourite character who fought with boys when tgey said something against his mom who helped a girl who complained him

He took the blame to save a girl from her father slapping him

He was the one who praised her in front of her taiji

He was the one who denied kamyas proposal politely

He was the one who dint touched his love his dreams

He was the one who got angry while seeing some boys lusting over photos of other girls and got angry after knowing his girl got a photo clicked in studio

He was the one who brought candyfloss for his sis when he saw her returning sadly

But now what is he

He is a boy who smokes with his friends who plays cards who along with his friend is a mute inspectator of eve teasing who did nt stopped his so called friends from misbehaving with girls he said sorry to man whom he hit for his friends but he dint asked sorry to girls who were teased

Even if he has not teased the girls he is an equal partner in crime

If something happens with our sis mother gf wife we start fighting but what about others whom u see being silent i think the person who watches all this silently is also equally involved in that shameful act

This is just my pov i do not want to spread negativity

Originally posted by: mehraan

Dhruvi...Jus had tears in my eyes cos can very well understand wat is it all about when i hve closely suffered it ...Till upto date i m scared in stepping in lifts alone ..Sme memories wound u 4 a lifetime n its even more worst wen u had noone to share n open about it...Nothing to add more but Hats off to ur bravery!!

Originally posted by: RaDev_Fan1

Hey Dhruvi,

I have no words to describe ur horror and bravery. Respect to you for taking up a cause and working for it. Don't consider this as small, it's huge. Lot of us talk about things that are wrong but not many have that conviction to bring in a change. Lots of love to you!!

-Priyanka