Very normal Response by Sameer - Page 4

hey it was such a wonderful post... i have never had any boyfriend or neither i am getting married soon so all these things for me is like yeah it could happen... but yes since childhood i was a sports girl n used to play cricket, football table tennis amongst many other sports with guys... i had more guy friends than girl friend... so yeah they r generally very protective of their friends also be it a boy or girl... i remember once playing football against another team n dt guy said u wont play as attacker even though i was good with attacking than defensive... i was like tum pagal ho gaye ho... he said u wont understand nd its final... almost all guys agreed to his decision n we girls were like yeh sab bhang peekar aye hain aaj? after many years when we were bit matured n all i asked him abt dt incident he said uss team ke ladke kuch theek nhn the... infact wen i recalled d incident i remembered they hardly let us play only boys were playing amongst themselves... also one time when a guy was flirting with me (though i had no idea dt he was) my bestie (a guy) came n literally stood next to me n started answering on my behalf... i was like wt d hell s he doing... then later upon asking he said u r very naive he was flirting with u n i was like no... he said i hv a girlfriend i hv an experience of flirting so i can understand it... at dt time had he said its men instinct i would hv continued fighting rather agreeing...

Originally posted by: youth_showsfan

hey it was such a wonderful post... i have never had any boyfriend or neither i am getting married soon so all these things for me is like yeah it could happen... but yes since childhood i was a sports girl n used to play cricket, football table tennis amongst many other sports with guys... i had more guy friends than girl friend... so yeah they r generally very protective of their friends also be it a boy or girl... i remember once playing football against another team n dt guy said u wont play as attacker even though i was good with attacking than defensive... i was like tum pagal ho gaye ho... he said u wont understand nd its final... almost all guys agreed to his decision n we girls were like yeh sab bhang peekar aye hain aaj? after many years when we were bit matured n all i asked him abt dt incident he said uss team ke ladke kuch theek nhn the... infact wen i recalled d incident i remembered they hardly let us play only boys were playing amongst themselves... also one time when a guy was flirting with me (though i had no idea dt he was) my bestie (a guy) came n literally stood next to me n started answering on my behalf... i was like wt d hell s he doing... then later upon asking he said u r very naive he was flirting with u n i was like no... he said i hv a girlfriend i hv an experience of flirting so i can understand it... at dt time had he said its men instinct i would hv continued fighting rather agreeing...

so yeah guys r protective for friend who s a girl also let alone their life partners or girlfriends... n i agree boys know exactly wt their partner is doing... i hv heard them talking... over d years i can safely say i hv understood guys to sm extent now hopefully future main kaam aye🤣

lol girl ditto...my guy friends were freakin crazy I thought lol...And honestly I couldn't tell that someone was flirting with me until someone pointed it out. And still don't most of the times😆. I think oh they are just being nice and talking to me. And than my guy friend came and goes girl you are stupid, how can you let him flirt with you. So yes I know exactly what you feel. And now that I have my Sam, damn its hard for me to understand still how guys think. His approach is man approach, his thinking is man thinking obviously. And I am like that can't be and he is like you don't know guys. I am like I have guy friends. he goes its not the same. So yes, Men are possessive in all roles. But especially possessive when they are angry young man and they are your man (ie. hubby/bf) lol😆

Agree wit ur post completely..Sameers anger cin the photo is justified..He was always possesive of her ,but we rarely got to c tat side of him..We did c but not to an extreme extent like todays..Remember pinnin her dress,he didnt shy away from tellin her he wil pin her dress coz he didnt want any1 to c her like tat whn she goes out..He wasnt tied up wit any emotional baggage from his family,so he conveyed tat he wil pin her dress in a very softer tone..But today hes in a lot of emotional stress..Cin tat pose any guy wud get angry..And Sameer has been bottlin up his anger since he has been in Delhi,n Nainas pic made him burst..Im sure he didnt even realise wat he did tat moment..The hair cut,Naina sayin the same thing his mom said tat the hair wil grow back again etc pushed his anger altogether on another level..She has always been his Haq,and today he behaved typical husband kinds..Even in Mt Abu,he was so angry and felt she didnt feel his pain whn he burnt his hand..The way he taunted her as if he had a right on her though he didnt start to realize his feelings for her then..He has always been tat way wit her..As per his VO,he did change aft he fell in luv wit her but stayin away from her in delhi wit unknown ppl made him back to the same angry Sameer..At present his emotions r rulin his mind n we cant blame him too,coz hes all alone..He doesnt have munna ,Pandit n Naina to guide him .

Originally posted by: anjalii123

Agree wit ur post completely..Sameers anger cin the photo is justified..He was always possesive of her ,but we rarely got to c tat side of him..We did c but not to an extreme extent like todays..Remember pinnin her dress,he didnt shy away from tellin her he wil pin her dress coz he didnt want any1 to c her like tat whn she goes out..He wasnt tied up wit any emotional baggage from his family,so he conveyed tat he wil pin her dress in a very softer tone..But today hes in a lot of emotional stress..Cin tat pose any guy wud get angry..And Sameer has been bottlin up his anger since he has been in Delhi,n Nainas pic made him burst..Im sure he didnt even realise wat he did tat moment..The hair cut,Naina sayin the same thing his mom said tat the hair wil grow back again etc pushed his anger altogether on another level..She has always been his Haq,and today he behaved typical husband kinds..Even in Mt Abu,he was so angry and felt she didnt feel his pain whn he burnt his hand..The way he taunted her as if he had a right on her though he didnt start to realize his feelings for her then..He has always been tat way wit her..As per his VO,he did change aft he fell in luv wit her but stayin away from her in delhi wit unknown ppl made him back to the same angry Sameer..At present his emotions r rulin his mind n we cant blame him too,coz hes all alone..He doesnt have munna ,Pandit n Naina to guide him .

I jus hope he realizes his mistake himself n not thru Amrita or Munna or any1..He needs to realize b4 even leavin to Delhi mayb on his way back..

But the best part which stood out to me was how Naina received his anger..Shes not mad at him at all,but is still jus tryin to figure out why he was angry..Like Sameers VO once mentioned shes the only one who can get him to think n b normal

It was actually cute reading abt ur Sameer,and nice to know u r todays Naina :)))

Thank you dear. Yes agreed. And yes Naina did the right thing by not misunderstanding him. Though she was confused, like I said I was in my case too lol😆 But not firing back is the best thing to do when your man is angry hahahaha😆 No matter what you say will not help them understand their mistake. Only when he calms down, either he will realize on his own, or maybe you can point it out to them. 😆 The biggest thing you can do as a woman of an angry young man, is to not fire back at him, or try to make him understand your point of view when he is angry 😆

Originally posted by: paagalbandar

lol girl ditto...my guy friends were freakin crazy I thought lol...And honestly I couldn't tell that someone was flirting with me until someone pointed it out. And still don't most of the times😆. I think oh they are just being nice and talking to me. And than my guy friend came and goes girl you are stupid, how can you let him flirt with you. So yes I know exactly what you feel. And now that I have my Sam, damn its hard for me to understand still how guys think. His approach is man approach, his thinking is man thinking obviously. And I am like that can't be and he is like you don't know guys. I am like I have guy friends. he goes its not the same. So yes, Men are possessive in all roles. But especially possessive when they are angry young man and they are your man (ie. hubby/bf) lol😆

I don't understand how Guys promote themselves as Loving BFs/Husbands while flirting with other Girls being in a serious relationship? Whatever weird stuff they do, girls should be ok kya? This is weird & on top of it, they blame good girls who have not done any mistakes.

We see in Real World also these kinds of Guys who say they are in a Serious Relationship & flirt with their Friends Gfs/wives. They do all sorts of vulgar stuff and show, then GF/Wife should be ok? Is this what they want and expect ? Real Girls who value Relationships can also be like Sameer right? Why can't they walk away when their BFs cheat on them?
😊

Originally posted by: youth_showsfan

same i still cant figure out who is flirting with me n who not... last yr only i completed my masters so i did it frm diff city than delhi so none of my friends were there... so when they used to call me i used to tell them dt this this happened... n first thing my bestie said "tu vahan sabko bol tera boyfriend hai" i was like wt why should i lie... he said u r still very naive u r not in school grow up know d diff between normal talking n flirting, none of us r there to save u... they even cooked up a story n planned who will become my boyfriend i was like chill 😆 i dont hv any sam as of now so yeah i'll keep these things in mind for future... this forum s quite a learning place as well as an entertaining place😳

Originally posted by: MadhuriKanak

I don't understand how Guys promote themselves as Loving BFs/Husbands while flirting with other Girls being in a serious relationship? Whatever weird stuff they do, girls should be ok kya? This is weird & on top of it, they blame good girls who have not done any mistakes.

We see in Real World also these kinds of Guys who say they are in a Serious Relationship & flirt with their Friends Gfs/wives. They do all sorts of vulgar stuff and show, then GF/Wife should be ok? Is this what they want and expect ? Real Girls who value Relationships can also be like Sameer right? Why can't they walk away when their BFs cheat on them?
😊

NO girl, what you are describing is completely out of the line😆 What we are describing is slight possessiveness or rather protectiveness that a man feels towards the women they love. These are two different things 😆😆 Their way of expressing love is different than female expression of love. What you are describing is cheating literally, and if a man loves and respects you, he will never stoop that low. A little bit of possessiveness does exist in both genders. However man show possessiveness as anger. But anger is not extreme like beating the wife/gf, that anger is like kid's anger...like throwing tantrum, or like being angry and cribbing lol...pls don't think to that extreme😆

Originally posted by: PrincessLeah

No this behavior is not at all normal for males or anyone.

By normalized such behavior we encourage male aaggression n violance.

Teenagers boys start thinking that they own their gf n can get away with anything.

If my hubby behaved like that I would slapped him.

Girl you are thinking extreme lol. Little bit of possessiveness exists in all of us. The way a female expresses it is different than the way male expresses it. And to me, Sameer's expression was preety normal for his age, and his gender. He will grow and than he will learn as his experience grows about how to control his hormones and how to control his anger. All of us go through this phase. Even girls do.

I remember when I was in highschool, girls and boys in our class were fascinated with experimenting things and indulging in high risk behavior. For that age it was normal psychology. To their brain and from their experiences, they had not learned how to control their emotions, how to express them, and how to put forward their feeling in different way. And boys though they grow up, are a little child like even as adult when it comes to expression of their feelings. Not just in India, its across the world. A little bit of possessiveness is normal. As long as it doesn't turn into physical violence or hurting people they love, its normal. If it turns into extremes like you guys are talking about, than its abnormal. Remember not all five fingers in your hand are the same, just like that not everyone in this world can express their emotions the same way😆 And please don't say you will slap someone, if it is not okay for a man to hit a woman, its also not okay for a woman to hit a man. Tali ek haath se nahin bajti...sorry no offense.😆