Extremely sorry for the delay ...I had to rewatch and rework the comments and few more thoughts poured into my mind...and here it goes...
Its night
Amma has informed raman about the days happenings...he's at iyers house an decides to talk to shagun as she's already started creating troubles..eh..did i hear right?..amma stops him and says she's your samdhan now..and has to be handled carefully...and asks him to be with ishita and help her.This guy seriously asks what now? i mean he couldn't see it ?...anyways
Amma says she's going through a rough time now...adi is married..there's someone else in his life now to take care of him..for a mother, son is more important..but after marriage wife takes that part...so moms feels that she's not needed in her sons life anymore, she's no longer important...it doesn't happen that way..but women are very sensitive when it comes to their kids..it matters to us the most ..so Ishu needs help with balancing the relationship..
Raman agrees and says I cannot change shagun but i can at least change / correct ishita..raman babu get this into your thick skull..shagun is NOT your responsibility or your priority, or your wife ..let go of her...And leaves.
Ishra scene
So ishu is sitting in their room and looking at the family pic..and raman enters and says you're angry at your son and dil..why are you punishing me?..why don't we go out somewhere?..its been a while since we went out...he is trying to divert her..understandable...but talk to her too..and find out what's eating her..let her talk ..listen to her...be patient...be in her shoes..look from her perspective her angle only then you will understand...for you it's not a bit deal..but for her it's everything..her whole world is turning upside down...she just want family to be frank with her and nit hide it from there..that's the problem she's having..it's their actions that's hurting her.
Ishu..you're asking me? But why? Why should people ask me or need me here anyways? What's the need?..she's having symptoms of mild depression now..feeling of worthlessness, withdrawal, unwanted...a hindrance, unwelcome and the fear of being forgotten/ importance
It's ok raman..everybody can take their own decisions..and you decide where and what you want to do..just let me know once you decide...I'll do it..
By now he's tired of her talks
R..ishita stop it yaar?..think about the kids..may be adi was scared so he didn't disclose it to you..so he supports adi...she's scared as she didn't to fall from your expectations? So now he too feels ishita has high expectations!..really?..she follows You and idealizes you, you're the ideal bahu, maa, ideal biwi..she wants to be like you and is trying very hard..so maybe she gets it from you .
She had tiredness and hurt on her face
I..leave aaliya..adi..he never hides it..leave it..and tries to move away ..he holds her hands and says
Raman.. listen..adi didn't do it on purpose either. Really raman...he didn't want to disclose to ishita as she will ruin the plan...but informed shagun..he booked a table..they are kids..they just got married and want to spend time with each other..they will learn only by committing mistakes..even we learnt it that way..let it go..let them go..forgive them..really raman have you learnt anything at all? Do you even know your wife..I mean ishita?...
I...youre not understanding..adi never hides anything or lies ..but now he's begun ..why the change why /what is he scared of? What is there to be scared of?adi says everything to me..and yesterdays precap plays...its ok if he doesn't want to share..its fine..but aaliya lied to me..she wanted to go out somewhere ..i never stopped her..but why lie?..she couldn't take the lying part..she want them to be as transparent as possible, if they want to go on a date am i going to stop them? No.
R..kids have grown up..let them go...forgive them...he's not our son anymore..he's aaliyas husband...give them the space ..don't interfere and suffocate them..
I..i will not suffocate them anymore..i try to take care..but people feel it otherwise..its ok..I will not interfere anymore..i will stay away..aaliya can take care of the whole family..let people do what ever they want to do...I will concentrate on my job..let them do what ever they want..why should I waste my time and energy on people who feel I'm interfering and suffocating them..
Raman...hope i have a mute button to silence her..this was insensitive of him..
So theres no solution or a middle ground?
I..i have a solution..I will concentrate on my job..dr. Bhatra opened A new clinic..i denied working there..now i will..and she makes the call...now that's the spirit..way to go..Raman says something..i think he says he should've gone with aadiliya
So he is also frustrated with her...
So aadiliya in the car..she is upset and adi consoles her and she says...amma and daadi were upset..its her first social gathering and she ruined it..so she's guilty..Adi asks her to forget everything and smile...and they have golgappe...
Its morning
Toshiji is miffed...aaliya comes there with lassi...and toshiji is still miffed...and finally after much coaxing she gives in and forgives her..and asks her to talk to ishita . Raman comes there...and says the same and then says she's in Niruparoy mode..this guy doesn't and will never get how sensitive the issue is..all this guy knows is to mock and taunt people....so after some nok jhok among them...the newly weds go to talk to ishita..with lassi and she says she doesn't drink lassi but coffee..and adi too says aaliya makes good coffee..so ishu says its not needed...as she's already had it and says your dad made me realize that I'm a very possessive and interfering person ..so I don't want to be that way..so I've decided to do my work and you do your work...and aadiliya are down and shares this with raman...just then ishu comes there..and raman asks her to pack his lunch ..curd rice..aaliya offers to do it for him..he denies saying his wife will do it. ishu asks neelu to get curry leaves..aaliya offers help..ishu says its a simple recipe and doesn't need any help...raman leaves...none got her hurt .
So amma is there she's bought a tons of vegetables it seems priests gave it to her at malai mandir..and asks her to make Sodhi..a dish native to thirunelvelli...so aaliya offers to help as she knows the recipe.. ishu agrees..and amma says her to make it with care and concentration as is a prassad and will be distributed at the temple that evening...ishu stays aloof..
So raman at office
The client has come to meet adi..but he's a bit late..so raman offers to discuss the project with him..but the cient insists discussing only with adi...so now they are trying to show raman going thru the same thing but focusing more on young vs old...mainly the clients youth and young hit ramans nerve, And says adis thoughts are young, and fresh which he cannot compete...oohh that hurts..
So ishu in the clinic and busy treating her young client..
But still she's unable to let go..and feels she should've stayed back to help Aliya..but
concentrates on her work. So aaliya is busy making Sodhi...
But ishu is preoccupied and feels she should've helped her as amma might be angry if the Sodhi didn't turn out well as Its prasad...so ishu want's to make her mom happy ...
So aaliya receives a text from her friend and aaliya is busy on phone..
So ishu tries to contact aaliya but can't as aaliya's phone is busy and decides to discuss the case with Dr.Bhatra.
So aaliya is busy chit chatting with her friend...and the dish is burnt..so she's panicking and calls herself irresponsible and calls neelu..but she's not at home...so a the other members..can't ask Mrs iyer for help..so she decides to call ishita...but then refrains as she will get upset..decides to ask for help from adi..
So raman at the clinic..and the girls drool on him..fit and smart..so ishita overhears it..and decides not to share this as he will fly high...can we get a similar scene.. Puttar overhearing biwi is da bomb..will puttar be proud and happy to have such a gorgeous wife or miffed / jealous that only he has the copyright...that will be some visual treat...kp will nail it..
So adi feels great after everyone praises his presentation and wishes if dad was here...and he receives call form aaliya...and shares it with aaliya...so she decides not to share it with him..and says he will come home early...adn their convo is interrupted,..and road trip for one on one with consumer and their likes.
Precap
Raman asks ishita not to leave him and go away...and says only she likes the way he is..and shares that people want to work with adi and not him..as his ideas are old and the youth may not like his ideas...
Overall nice...watch it you will like it...
Raman is shown exactly like Steve Martin from Father of the Bride part 2...
To stay young the things Steve Martin does will be hilarious...which will lead to his wife Nina's pregnancy...oh boy what a laughter riot that movie was. Divan will nail that role...the track will be damm good...it has tremendous potential.
Raman still has not understood the enormity of ishita's hurt...he might eventually but to what extent ...no idea..he needs to be very patient and try to explain it to her from her pov ..instead of asking her not to interfere as it might suffocate them...that's where he's making the mistake. Raman didn't quite understand what Amma was trying to tell him ..if he did he would've been sensitive with ishita...that mute button dialogue would've have come...he had no empathy either. He ran to ishita when someone pointed out his thoughts might not appeal to the younger crowd, his ego was hurt ...so he couldn't take it ..his son overshadowing him...
Lo behold..amma understood Ishita...well well well ain't that the mother of all wonders on the earth?!
Liked ishita staying away...let her become successful and open her own clinic...give presentations and be felicitated...it's possible now...she can concentrate completely on her career...her husband...nothing more...glad you took that step. when the women drooled on her hubby she was actually enjoying it
So lassi is the solution for the bhallas...man they are really dumb...again they didn't get it at all..they think it's nothing serious ...
Precap...she understood his situation and the pep talk...you are the best CEO...that encouragement helped him...that's the difference between she handles the situation vs Raman...
Men and women handle situations differently ...it's more emotional for women vs take it easy and remaining aloof for men...it's a daily routine for women which is important for them vs mundane for men...men know how to engage and disengage themselves from situations...not women...that's the problem ..just my pov..no offense meant...
Shagun free episode
DT was gorgeous
Anupamaa
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