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Seven years ago Raman said some terrible, terrible things. And these words effectively ended up, or so he thought, killing the love of his life. He imploded. He blew up that day. A man who spent months and months trying to make his wife feel secure about the fact she can't conceive then throws it in her face. Uses it as a loaded gun in his sheer grief and pain of losing his daughter. In ensuing chaos, the Ruhi that effectively lead to his own resurrection leads to him digging his very own grave. He ensures he is the one to send his wife away, rather than her walking out on him. A thought that always terrified Raman.
I love Raman as a character most of the time. And I love Ishita and Raman. I'm an ishra fan. I'm also in real life very observant, and in all honestly, the way they are, and Raman specifically, people do act like that. In arguments we say the most horrible things when grief and pain consume us, because we want to hurt the other just as much as we are hurting. And that is why, despite the fact that Raman said terrible things seven years ago, and then spent seven years regretting it every second of every minute of every day, he repeats those words.
Because we hurt those we love the most. Because Raman wants the hell he has been living in to open up and consume Ishita too. He's hell bent on after all these years, at least sharing their suffering together. After being apart for years and years, at least they can suffer together.
What Raman says, his accusations. They are difficult to hear. And heartbreaking to think what Raman has come to. But the truth is, Raman and Ishita are toxic. They are. Raman's madness is stemming from the agony that Ishita never came back to him. But wasn't he the one to make sure of that? That he sent her away. Because that is what he effectively did when he said those words seven years ago. Was he testing her?
The sheer cruelty of what he says just doesn't seem like Raman to most people. But most people are forgetting we are dealing with a loss of a child. And yes that's no excuse dictates logic. But logic doesn't work when your child is ripped away from you. And I've struggled a lot with what he said to her then, and more what he says to her now. And the more I thought about it, the more I thought Raman just relived that day.
Today, with Ishita standing in front of him, he relived that day. De ja vu. Well then, most people would be asking at this point, shouldn't he have handled things differently now? Logic dictates that.
But logic cannot dictate the sheer agony that has always seemed to get the better of Raman. In matters of the heart Raman consistently behaves illogically and out of some overwhelming emotion. Today, those emotions were those felt seven years ago, refreshed, the smell of that day like a house burning down right in front of Raman and he got consumed by the flames.
And today, Ishita was going to burn with him. It's callous, cruel. It's Raman scorned.
The love of his life left him. And once again he questioned everything Ishita was, is and always will be. A mother. Because if he is now going to burn in hell after seven years of being drenched in pain and guilt, Ishita had some catching up to do. Once again, Raman lashes out at the one person he loves the most, and therefore knows how to hurt the most.
It's dark. And sadistic. It's cruel. And yes, this Raman seems to a Raman that we didn't see at the beginning. But that Raman didn't know the sheer agony of true love. That Raman wasn't a man who had been consumed by Ishita. So this dark Raman we are seeing, is a man who feels like he wants to hurt the woman he loves madly, because he is the one who can hurt her the most. Because he loves her the most.what he first did as self preservation, he repeats to introduce Ishita to his own hell.
Unity in pain at least he thinks.
Events change people. Life changes. People evolve. Sometimes for the better, sometimes worse. Raman too had evolved. Changed. He's darker right now, because Ishita and Ruhi were his light. I'm not talking beauty and the beast. He isn't a beast. She isn't a beauty. This isn't a fairytale. They lost a child. And people are ripped apart in crisis. I'm not of the idea that Ishita transformed Raman. I think she nurtured him to reveal his true self. The resurrection of Raman Bhalla was nurtured. And he has to be nurtured again.
Ps this in now advocates that I approve of what Raman and Ishita do. But people spend their lives making mistakes, some make grave mistakes. And these are heavily flawed, scarred characters. Yes Ishita is an Indian serial bahu, and Raman the male lead but they are still more realistic than most other characters. Like most on the forum, I too share a love hate relationship with the couple, but I will choose to stay positive
Feel free to disagree, or call me crazy, or both. Healthy debate is fun 😊
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