Software Symphonies 20 Color my shadow on 100 - Page 90

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

Yes mistake hogaya II se .. why cant II be a baby why should everyone learn to be mature .. why should every one be a naari mahan bahu taking care.Why should II become a Sam or a Vanditha. I dont want II mature i want her impulsive and crazy .

She made a mistake she sent the help out since they were going on out, she didnt know , she is willing to cook . its clearly a mistake hota hai all of us do that.
Yes Iyer house or any house she would have been clobbered so in MM too she will get clobbered but i think if some one does things to purposefully hurt and be mean they should be clobbered and when its completely unintentional then why make a big deal.
I wont take ur Ikkat, i will ridicule ur culture and food, watch when my brother makes out with his wife, knock at middle of the nite , enter without knocking how is she different from the chachi clan folks.

This is Manny's house too i agree she has suddenly decided to make it her own again and give up her PHD and taunt Ranjan and R&B and treat II like dirt like Chachi does is not right and yes some rules change and it will change for both Manny and II , just like it changed for R&B and Ranjan and II for that matter.
I know this is how Manny will react my point is its not right..I get manny's point but i still feel thats mean and not needed.

it is not justifiable to turn II into a sanskari caring bahu overnight and the same goes with our meanie...she cant behave as an understanding SIL to II who had just turned out to be everyone's laadli...

Originally posted by: TanjoreGirl

Yes mistake hogaya II se .. why cant II be a baby why should everyone learn to be mature .. why should every one be a naari mahan bahu taking care.Why should II become a Sam or a Vanditha. I dont want II mature i want her impulsive and crazy .

She made a mistake she sent the help out since they were going on out, she didnt know , she is willing to cook . its clearly a mistake hota hai all of us do that.
Yes Iyer house or any house she would have been clobbered so in MM too she will get clobbered but i think if some one does things to purposefully hurt and be mean they should be clobbered and when its completely unintentional then why make a big deal.
I wont take ur Ikkat, i will ridicule ur culture and food, watch when my brother makes out with his wife, knock at middle of the nite , enter without knocking how is she different from the chachi clan folks.

This is Manny's house too i agree she has suddenly decided to make it her own again and give up her PHD and taunt Ranjan and R&B and treat II like dirt like Chachi does is not right and yes some rules change and it will change for both Manny and II , just like it changed for R&B and Ranjan and II for that matter.
I know this is how Manny will react my point is its not right..I get manny's point but i still feel thats mean and not needed.

sam or ranjan will forget and forgive II instantaneously as they knows what II has done in their lives...what she means to rnb...but manya is soo reluctant to that fact and she wholeheartedly tries to ignore II's importance...this can occur between SILs...i really loved this touch of reality and II thinking of akka comforting her...

Originally posted by: Ashu25

Sure II is wrong

I did mention in a previous comment of mine that both are wrong. II needs to be responsible as well!!

I am not denying it

I liked your point. Both are wrong!

I have been married over a decade and a half, I am on II's side. But unfortunately life chooses to hand you the toughest of its lessons on your happiest days. That's how it always works. We don't wake up one morning and go "OK today is a blah kinda day let all the lessons flow in today"

The day we get a raise or promotion at work is the day our mother in law tells us how inadequate we are, or our sister in law reminds us how much we talk. Or husband tells us how messy the house is... always

I agree with Swa, YES she could have checked first

The first time in two months she took the liberty of giving the help time off and it blew up all over her face. R&B is on her tail that she doesn't "make any efforts to belong" to his home or its trappings. So she thought... OK... we are all going to be out so why not give the help some time off... it will seem like "I am taking charge"

It's a harmless gesture that enables the help to have a good time while showing my husband "I AM TRYING".

I agree with Anu... if we all became mature and smart and sensible and "deep" there would be no purpose in living. People like II are so sincere and sensitive and playful.. don't meant any harm. Minds her own business, but yet gets rapped in the knuckle because her SIL is her warden. It breaks my heart to see II's innocence been torn down thread by thread😭

Its easy to say "II deserved it" but the hurt and pain associated with humiliation she endured at Manny's behavior cannot be taken in one's stride😭 Bura to lagta hai... Manny had no idea why II took the lead, she was being haunted by her husband for two months now... in various form, by glares, by stares, by sacrcasm, scoldings, he was reminding her to BELONG.

R&B SUSPECTS but does not know fully, how tense and crackling her relationship with Manny is. He knows Manny is opinionated and needy

He knows his wife is insecure and unsure of her position in his life.

What if R&B would NOT have been married and Marliese would have given the evening off to the help? What if R&B had let the help go? Is EVERYTHING II doing causing many to bristle and assume the worst? She lives by herself, of course she knows how to make dinner, or her boy toy could make it

Good to see healthy discussions on II vs Manny in SoSY world😉

Most of us would have essayed the roles of II an Manny in our lives like:
Good II
Good Manny
Mean II
Mean Manny

Make your own combinations😊

II's situation is like nut caught between scissor blades. One side hubby and the other side SIL😔.
Hubby is reading wife's face and mind! Trying to connect the dots😊

Originally posted by: ishruhi

dristi, u are a lawyer??? 😊

Originally posted by: Ashu25

Oh we match again!! To some extent..

Am a student of political science...