I rarely make posts on the forum since I am too lazy to do so but tonight I am compelled to make one and so am here.
I know the party was not the most loved aspect of tonight' episode however that is the crux of my post.
To me was the most important aspect of this episode is divided into two things - the pros & the con.
The con first - Really? These people are a bunch of educated modern, forward thinking lot, I get it but are they blind and idiots, in that order? Who asks a woman on a wheelchair to dance in the first place? Next even if they want her to just do the jiggy sitting on her chair, why, why in the world would they insist that she dance with her Ex, when they clearly now know they have broken up and she' married another guy, who happens to be right there! Why play what is their song and try to make them relive the memories of their past, repeat their romantic dance again when clearly there' no romance left there, cause they have split, like duh Sherlock, does it need to become any more obvious? Really I was like WTH, had they asked her to croon I would have not batted an eyelid, legs and singing don't have any connection - dancing and feet do
The pros - there were two pros for me tonight.
- The reality aspect of the gossiping, back-biting that was shown, yes even so -called friends bitch and gossip about you when all they are doing is apparently discussing you and even when no one knows anything, people make up stories, weave tales as was shown today trying to decipher things and pick apart someone else' life as was shown. Why did Ishita marry Raman and not Subbu - was it the money, the status that lured her, family pressure or something else. Apparently the world can only have a very cynical view of you, even without knowing you.
- The UGLY and I mean brutally, UGLY stigma of a divorcee remarrying - even a MAN who' divorced remarrying again was raised in such a fantastic way. Our society takes pride in moving forward today - they think remarriages of widows, abolition of practices like Sati and right to education for the girl child, save the girl child campaigns have made them modern, but, when the question of someone wanting to have a second chance at their life happens to be raised, its still a sort of a social stigma, a taboo which raises eyebrows. Had Ishita married Raman, who was single without any past, without his baggage of being a former divorcee and a father of two, it would have still raised some eyebrows elicited a few whispers but eventually it wouldn't have been considered as such a tawdry thing. The fact that Ishita, a woman who was single and obviously not lacking options, as per them or otherwise, married a divorcee who also happens to be a father of two was distasteful to her so-called friends.
Makes you wonder does education really make a difference to the mindset of people?
One on hand, we saw this very bunch trying to persuade Ishita, a wheelchair bound Ishita to shake a leg with her ex, knowing her husband is present with her and on the other hand those very people made it seem like what Ishita has done by marrying a divorcee is rather tacky. As if the only reason and intent that she could have had in marrying a guy like him would be his money because of course, what man with a past can be a perfectly nice person - flawed and damaged he may be, but he is 'untouchable' in their minds and a guy who' single has to be a perfect prince charming who would sweep you off your feet.
A man is gallant or crude to someone only based upon what they know on the surface - but do surfaces really reflect what is on the inside?
Would these very friends if they learn someday in the future, shun Subbu if they learn that Ishita didn't dump him for a richer man who came with a truckload of baggage because of his position and status, rather she was dumped for something beyond her control?
Would Raman then be a hero to them that they would like to associate themselves with should they learn that he has found it in himself to love a woman for who she is and not viewed her as a baby-making machine?
It remains to be seen, hope that one day we do actually see something on these lines frankly.
Though the question arises is progression only valid, applicable when someone can have no hard feelings for their Ex and be cool enough to attend the same events as them and even shake a leg or two if the occasion demands it, and if this is progression why does it run out on people seeking second chances - at life, happiness, love, relationships?
Being modern, being progressive has nothing to do with being able to flaunt a western dress in a curvaceous figure while holding a flute of champagne like a perfect socialite. Rather it is about adapting the attitude to not judge people without knowing them, not look down upon someone simply based on some prejudices you might hold in your mind regarding things - could be religious, social, racial or otherwise.
In the end, I would like to end this post with these quotes
"When it comes to privacy and accountability, people always demand the former for themselves and the latter for everyone else."
David Brin
"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation."
Paulo Coelho, By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
"When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself"
Earl Nightingale
Good night and I cant promise to make individual replies to those who comment to my post but will try to do so, thank you for taking the time out to read my rambling. 😳
Kumkum Bhagya
Anupamaa
