Originally posted by: Viji15
But I do remember him saying why can't you become Ishima to Adi too and how he expected for her to keep intact with all his children whereabouts, remember his anger when Shagun and Adi leaves with Mihir... Raman doesn't say but he actions speaks otherwise.
I don't know if you been in love but its a girl thing to expect the guy to express first, stupid I agree. BUT thats sort of how its... Plus She didn't run away everytime he tried to express, she anticipated it and he knew that and they teased each other as they both knew.
There is only two time they tried to consummate , one during holi and that dialogue ruined it for him. Second time he seduced her to get the legal document , which is not an act of "independent love"
I agree with Viji...its a girl thing to want to have the man confess first...
but actually it was Ishita that confronted him about her feeling, and their feeling first. The whole Airpot fiasco, bit OTT if you ask me, but the last bit of the argument, when he is surrounded by all of the people in a human chain...she is the one to say why are you leaving me after changing me, and after changing yourself...why to you want to hurt us? Why did you think I would love Mani more than...? This is more confession than Raman had made...up until that time.
So it not about who loves who more or less...its about being a family, learning and juggling the dynamics in a relationship with each other and their children. People struggle with this all the time in real life with their own kids...here its more complicated by the fact that Ishita is not their biological mom!!!
And like almost all marital relationship...the LACK OF COMMUNICATION is killing them...and complicating the matters more. But today, Raman gave rationale for why he didn't tell her all of his woes...he didn't want to stress her...and as the man o the house he feels its his duty to take on the responsibility...and as a man...he wants to pamper the woman he loves, to keep her from bad experiences...and that to me sounds very realistic. Granted that men are short sighted, and don't realize that it eventually catches up, and things don't stay hidden...but what to do, it the overprotective gene in the man...and that why they say
Men are form Mars, and Women are from Venus...we will always be different, think differently, feel differently, and react differently too!!
Sorry Viji...to hijack your thread...but i had to get this rant out of me too!!
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