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WhyAmIHereAgain

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Posted: 10 years ago

Hey friends...

What exctly are they doing to adi... pampering him..n the moment ruhi's name came up... trying to sush the matter... what exctly is this?? this is how u r planning him to take out of his depression.. by trying to show... "that nahi beta... u r the only one..." ..ur sis... who ur sis...

Today adi n bhalla parivars behaviour reminded me of a real life incident..which i had been misfortune to see very closely...

dont read if u have weak heart...

in our apartment, there was this bhaiya.. (who was a classmate of my didi).. he was single child.. both his parents were teachers... they pampered him very much... gave him watever he asked for... watever... in this protective environment...i remember he was a lil weird to start with... used to read only paranormal n ghost stories... now it was diagonsed...tht he has psychological problem... he was further pampered n showered with anything he asked for...

he wanted to buy a bike.. ( he was 18 then...), but since he was a lil disturbed psychologically, they refused.. coz it wud have caused problem... but according to him...that was a huge rejection... n he cudnt handle it.. n at night, he slashed his wrist... n after he did tht... he roamed around all the rooms to check that everyone is sleeping... why i mentioned this is becoz.. the people who try to commit suicide, backtress their steps..once they go trhu the excrutiating pain... but not he... n then he collapsed... he was admitted to hospital n finally saved.. after that one body gaurd used to accompany him always... n then just after 3-4 months... he again tried.. this time, he just jumped in front of a train... n this time he succeeded... i still remember the trauma his parents had...n still are continuing to have...

parenting is not very easy... it is not about pampering just...it is not abt discipline just either... there has to be a balance... if u continue to pamper n shower gifts..n never say no to ur child...u dont make a good parent... one day u cannot give somethign they want, they will rebel... their needs to be a balance. ... what they r doing to Adi is not healing, but destroying him further...

PS: I am not a parent yet, but have seen n observed many..n being in the teahing profession myself... i have seen what wrong type of guidance can do to children...

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Posted: 10 years ago

I don't know much about this... But yes, today, i couldn't connect to that scene alone. All of a sudden, whole family was dining with him. But, i wouldn't say its completely wrong too... They are trying to provide normal environment to that kid. They are not experts in this field. Its just trial n error. They are trying to make him comfortable. I don't have about that scene too...

BTW, a very nice post...

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Veeann

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Posted: 10 years ago

Good post Shalz. I can't understand why they can't mention Ruhi's name in front of Adi either. It is possible to love more than one child at a time, missing Ruhi doesn't mean they dont want Adi. Anyway, this entire child swap has ZERO logic, toh kyun dhoondti hoon?

Apart from that, I liked today's epi.

Edited by Veeann - 10 years ago

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WhyAmIHereAgain

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: krikumar.91
I don't know much about this... But yes, today, i couldn't connect to that scene alone. All of a sudden, whole family was dining with him. But, i wouldn't say its completely wrong too... They are trying to provide normal environment to that kid. They are not experts in this field. Its just trial n error. They are trying to make him comfortable. I don't have about that scene too...

BTW, a very nice post...

Thanks kri for liking n replying to the post... yes i was fine till the time, they were dining together,...no harm in it..but y the mention of ruhi n his squirming the same was not taken into account.. does that mean the moment adi squirms... ruhi shall henceforth be not mentioned?? ideally instead of pampering or sugarcoating things for him... what they require is a one to one conversation as too y suicide is not a solution.. just becoz we are missing ruhi doesnt mean we dont love u..

i have a problem with how it is being projected in the show...y u know... i have seen how impressionable today's kids are.. n when they r showing this in national tv...it is worrisome...

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anjali

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Posted: 10 years ago

I got irritated when i watched that scene online...

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WhyAmIHereAgain

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: Veeann
Good post Shalz. I can't understand why they can't mention Ruhi's name in front of Adi either. It is possible to love more than one child at a time, missing Ruhi doesn't mean they dont want Adi. Anyway, this entire child swap has ZERO logic, toh kyun dhoondti hoon?
Apart from that, I liked today's epi.

thanks V... I m missing Gan's post so much...😭

@bold...that is the exact question i have... if they r porjecting they cant talk abt ruhi... then that is completely wrong...n that cannot be called healing...

I liked today's epi... but cudnt connect much on few aspects...like raman being super excited n saying adi ke saath waqt kese guzarta hain pata hi nahi chalta... dat didnt sit well with me... oh ofcourse i m in ruhi team.. so main bhi gussa hu...😡 in sab ke upar...that dialogue "aap kisi ne mere liye nahi laade..." ufff... 😭

and honestly make up thoda hona chahiye tha..i was not being able to look beyond the pink lipstick n eye shadow... n think tht she is sick..😆

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--Megha--

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Posted: 10 years ago

I know they brushed Ruhi's topic completely today but I guess they were just trying to pamper him coz he was feeling too left out.

As u say that in this drama they show too extreme situations or emotions n there is no midway. 😆

So last week thry showed Bhallas crying for Ruhi n completely ignoring Adi.

Now they r showing that Bhallas care for Adi too. 😆

One thing to notice was Adi made sure that Raman promised him to get Ruhi back in the house- he loves Ruhi too n has built an awesome bond with her compared to how he used to be earlier completely ignoring Ruhi etc.

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mar_21

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Posted: 10 years ago

What I fail to understand from this entire fiasco is they (here 'they' means Ishra and Bhalla clan) expect a 6 yr kid to understand the hard realities of life, to understand why her parents n family has abandoned her while a kid double the age of this child is being provided with a delusional world of happiness!!! What the hell is this??? Jus a threat of Adi thinking of committing suicide and the whole family turned a blind eye towards Ruhi?? For heaven sake that child is half his age!!! If a child who is 12 yrs old can't understand this situation how will a child who is half his age understand all this ???

Today Adi wanted to stay with Bhallas so his wish was granted, tomorrow he would want to stay again with Shagun, his wish will again be granted in the name of "Adi ke liye", what about Ruhi's wishes. She never wanted to stay with Shagun! Heck she always wanted to stay with Bhallas then y this injustice towards her. No matter how much I try to rationalize with Adi's condition I just can't do it at the cost of hurting the feelings of a mere 6 year old kid. I can't

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Veeann

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Posted: 10 years ago

Originally posted by: shalz_123

thanks V... I m missing Gan's post so much...😭

@bold...that is the exact question i have... if they r porjecting they cant talk abt ruhi... then that is completely wrong...n that cannot be called healing...

I liked today's epi... but cudnt connect much on few aspects...like raman being super excited n saying adi ke saath waqt kese guzarta hain pata hi nahi chalta... dat didnt sit well with me... oh ofcourse i m in ruhi team.. so main bhi gussa hu...😡 in sab ke upar...that dialogue "aap kisi ne mere liye nahi laade..." ufff... 😭

and honestly make up thoda hona chahiye tha..i was not being able to look beyond the pink lipstick n eye shadow... n think tht she is sick..😆

Lol, yes the make up was totally OTT.

Everything Ruhi said was true. They didn't fight for her. Now Raman wants to starve Shagun of money, so she will use Ruhi to earn. How does that help Ruhi???

I miss Gans thread too 😭

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WhyAmIHereAgain

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Posted: 10 years ago

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Originally posted by: --Megha--
I know they brushed Ruhi's topic completely today but I guess they were just trying to pamper him coz he was feeling too left out.

As u say that in this drama they show too extreme situations or emotions n there is no midway. 😆

So last week thry showed Bhallas crying for Ruhi n completely ignoring Adi.

Now they r showing that Bhallas care for Adi too. 😆

One thing to notice was Adi made sure that Raman promised him to get Ruhi back in the house- he loves Ruhi too n has built an awesome bond with her compared to how he used to be earlier completely ignoring Ruhi etc.

hey megha... thanks for commenting...

i m not saying adi doesnt want ruhi back..but his squirming at the mention of ruhi's name suggests he is afraid of again beign bartered... tht needs to be addressed...he shud be pampered...n looked after...but with that it shud be clearly said tht ruhi is a part of this house too...

drama hain... I only said... i remember in one of our earlier discussions.😆.. but may be becoz it is regarding child issues... thts y having difficulty in digesting...

m still hoping that this track will bring the sane Adi back...n he will help his father n aunty to bring his lil sis back...