Originally posted by: harshita27
Too many emotions going on in my head reading that part right after an "ideal couple" part they witnessed. I shall gather my thoughts better and then update my comments... I felt a bit of irritation towards both their behaviors but I would want to put myself in their shoes before I judge them n their behavior
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So I re-read the part... Men who are quiet and dont express too much are difficult to understand specially by someone so talkative n expressive as II... II is doubting herself because he doesnt let on too much about whether he "needs" II like he needs his oxygen. II is trying to hold back expresding her love because the guy directly proposed marriage, no mention of love. There was no friendship so a relationship based on attraction has very less to thrive on other than attraction and maybe then further expression of love n assurance of the other person's "need" in your life. So if he is not going to start to assure II, it might lead to downhill progress too. This is my practical self talking. But given that its a fiction n we all "know" that ultimately it will be a happily ever-after so we know R&B will start re assuring II of his love, n his care for what she thinks.
I somehow feel R&B hasnt completely realized the class difference or has perhaps seen the so-called " betrayal" by Ranjan that was handed over to his mom... I think that wired him to keep his expressions in check n not invest too much in relationships "maybe". The class difference adds to the fact that even though the Bhalla family is close but its not as close knit as any middle class one. So he doesnt know that she is very much aware of the class difference n thinks of it as a cause of self doubt as well as their class difference is also the main point of Appa's disapproval of their relationship. To him, he has always seen money and its not of huge importance since it couldnt get him his perfect family and also that he doesnt think like a middle class person would perceive the class difference. R&B too will falter before he has her emotions figured out completely. Their lack of compatibility lies in their pasts and background and it would need to be addressed by them at some point in their relationship. One of them will have to figure out ways and means to bridge this gap - either R&B will start expressing himself freely to II( doesnt look like it in near future) or II will start figuring out his silent expressions( that too doesnt seem like happening). I guess both would need a jolt to take a step towards each other again.
II - I totally can understand why she feels that self doubt... She feels he hasnt declared love, expressed no jealousy when she declared she was getting married, didnt even show care when she was super sick like she did or even after engagement when she was slogging n travelling alone. So she doesnt know her worth in his life or how she impacts him. Plus the fact that Appa isnt gung ho about the match is adding to her jitters. She is a classic example of us self respecting working class women who feel they are self dependant n have a loving family so when a relationship happens they want declaration of love from the other party specially if the other party starts the pursuit.
I felt it that II didnt really want to offend him by saying she didnt come coz she cared for him and to apologize but the fact that he didnt explicitly say he cares for her n instead said he had previous relationships only based on physical attraction which too has been a basis of their relationship, so II just in one upmanship blurted out she didnt go out of her way to meet him at his home n didnt come to apologize. I think II didnt want to give him too much of an upper hand even though she is a lost cause in her head and heart where R&B is concerned.
They both are so real... 3rd party perspective sounds so simple but having a personal experience with silent person makes you lose your head 😆
Vanshaj
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