Tum dena saath mera *Updated* - Page 6

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

Finally Raman,the guy who internalizes everything and embraces all that goes wrong around him as his fault, somehow has found someone to lend her shoulder for him to support him on those days. It's a beautiful scene where a wife steps in and coddled her hubby as she knows how he must be blaming himself and helps him through his emotions. It was such an emotional scene...she just gave him what he needed...a tender touch, some words of comfort, her shoulder to lay his head on and the caress of her soothing voice...and unequivocal support. So far we've seen Raman internalize his emotions to the point of saturation and that's when they come out. This is the first time really, you see both Raman and Ishita having an emotional conversation as drama is going on. Hopefully there will be a day in the future where we can see Raman comfort Ishita.

Today's scene was a stark contrast of how Ishita comforted Raman when he told the truth about the accident track. Now I think a scene needs to be brought that contrasts how Raman comforted Ishita during the licence track reveal. In both of the scenes, the comforter (😆) maintained a distance, but now they have nothing keeping them from closing the gap! ❤️

To say I was touched by the tenderness of the scene would not express how moved I was by that scene. KP and DT are great emotional actors and they just raised the emotional quotient of the scene to make it transcend the medium and pull at our heart strings. Minus 3 people on this show, I feel like the entire cast has so much potential and diversity! I can't wait for spend future tracks that allow other characters to also shine.

This is a very favorite song of mine...the scene reminded me of this song

Link: https://youtu.be/BAqgHmIwp00

I love this song! It's so perfect for Puttar & Biwi today! ❤️

Notes

• Loved...RKB in Jagga jasoos mode 😛 RKB's Jagga Jasoos mode only comes out in response to a situation, and he's currently owning it! Now after he deals with ish his way, it's Mrs. JKR's turn to activate her Jagga Jasoosi to learn about what's troubling her poor devar.

• It's a shame that the #1 villain, Ashok has become an afterthought in the CV's mind...such a wastage of talent. I really felt bad for Sangram today. I agree! They have made his appearance much better since his "marriage" with Mihika but they turned his character into a joker. After Suraj's comments in yesterday's episode, I'm hoping they bring the Khanna brothers back into focus & maybe show some internal struggles between the duo! 😆

Originally posted by: krishy13

Amid all these amazing actors stands Shagun. Such a lost cause. There is absolutely nothing between her ears and I still am not sure if that is what the character has to portray or ... Enough said. No praise for the til-wali today? haha, jk. But you're bang on about her character & "depth" of expressed emotions. It's like the CVs have reduced the character's depth to match the emotional range given by the actor. I like Anita and have seen some of her other work, so I'm not sure why she's coming out so flat here...

One thing I did not like was the statement made by the big boss about Ishita.. bhabhi is the sensible Bhalla .. or something like that.. that could have been avoided. I think sometimes they overdo with the praises.. it used to be yashoda maiyya for sometime. In this case, it was totally unwarranted because she had nothing to do with any of it .. at all. Anyways...I agree! This is such a "prime time daily soap move" - always throw in comments to elevate the female lead. Once in a while, it's fine, but I think at this point - everyone gets what a blessing Ishita is for the Bhallas. By constantly remind us, it's reaching beyond a saturation point. If they want to throw in lead praise, why not send some Raman's way? Better yet, just stop it for a bit and reintroduce it when it actually seems appropriate. Real relationships that go the distance don't rely and constantly harp on how good one person is. #DesiShowProbs

Originally posted by: RomComFan

To the same point it was very bittersweet to hear Mihir speak of appah. He said 'periappah.. I mean Iyer uncle'. That says so much non? Made me feel for him more then any cries of pain and loss might ave because it showed very subtlety that Mihir lost not only Mihika but his periappah and periammah as well. This man who rejected his own mother and sister and was adopted into the Bhalla family finally began imagining a future with Mihika and adopted her family as his and after this break up, he lost a certain right on them too. Beautiful, subtle tremendous point - handled so very craftily by the CVs and RSA... very impressive.

Originally posted by: maaloo

haha.. do hafthon se thats all I am doing yaar.. til bharke pyar for til-wali. 😆 So thought I would give it a break.. didn't want all this praise from me to go to her head!!! 😆😆

But jokes apart, I would like to see her work too. what other shows has she been in? Any pointers?

I agree about the female lead praise. In today's episode for example, Ishita had nothing to do but run to Raman.. It was Raman who made the decision to quit and force the boss to listen to him. I guess cvs take the saying "behind every successful man ..." a bit too much to heart and think that glorification of the female lead is kind of glorifying all women in general. (am not sure if I made sense, but..)

I find that .. overdoing it actually can have a negative impact..(many a time on the actor themselves) more because people tend to associate the character with the actor, and nobody wants to see goody-two-shoes all the time..

Originally posted by: RomComFan

RES... to brotherhood, manhood and the bonds that drive them & to taking responsibility- for things that were never your fault and things that undoubtedly are.

Definitely time ISHRA to put their combined JJ instincts to use and finally sniff out the true culprit and give her the long awaited walking papers!

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G! That collage... *sigh* seriously what a moment huh? What an poignant and marked moment for this couple that has come so far form where they began. From him deliberately provoking her sadness at the adoption loss news to her wiping away his tears today- it has truly been an amazing journey.

I loved your description of the moment, of the kind of man he is and how wonderful it is to have finally found a partner who will so easily share his burdens and even remove the self imagined ones he puts unto his already heavy load. I loved the entire scene.. the way she wrapped him in her embrace and laid his head on his shoulders in an almost motherly hold and most especially the way she wiped away his tears. Very reminiscent of the way he comforted her after her attack. And in both instances as much as the words matter , the gestures say more. DT&KP truly got to the essence of this amazing couple today and deserve a lot of accolades for such a flawless performance.

Another thing that struck me about the the scene was Raman's 'you trust me right?' Trust is the core of every relationship and both of them have had their trust broken very bitterly by their previous partners. And Raman especially always seems to want a reassurance of her trust in him. The question itself implies that he knows that he has her trust, he just needs the confirmation. For him whether the matter is big (like this) or small (like the photo shoot) he needs a verbal assurance of her trust.. almost like it's a reconfirmation of her love for him. To love someone is, to a certain extent, to trust them unequivocally and RKB seeks this assurance of fact from his wife before setting out to do right for their family. But The fact that even having no doubt of her love (I think it's a given now) he needs repeated verbal assurance of her trust speaks highly to the level of hurt his heart has endured and the depth of the scars of his past.

I also adored the comparison scenes between the Iyers and ISHRA as both couples shared and looked for comfort in each other. The way that Madhu talked about 'our Raman' was also very beautiful... again drawing to the tightness of the relationship between them and going back to her claim that they had gained a son in the ISHRA marriage.

To the same point it was very bittersweet to hear Mihir speak of appah. He said 'periappah.. I mean Iyer uncle'. That says so much non? Made me feel for him more then any cries of pain and loss might ave because it showed very subtlety that Mihir lost not only Mihika but his periappah and periammah as well. This man who rejected his own mother and sister and was adopted into the Bhalla family finally began imagining a future with Mihika and adopted her family as his and after this break up, he lost a certain right on them too. Beautiful, subtle tremendous point - handled so very craftily by the CVs and RSA... very impressive.

As for Romi and his circumstances, as much as I want to say 'you got what you deserve' I feel really bad for him. The desperation , loneliness and fear of his circumstance led him to make a very wrong and selfish choice. But that doesn't negate his pain... i hope the CVs handle it with the sensitivity it deserves. I for one am quite curious as to see how they handle the issue of a man who can no longer do the thing that defines him as such in much of the world- procreate. Will the Cvs be able to give us a balanced juxtaposition of male and female infertility I wonder? Can they attack that issue with the same seriousness and gentleness as they have Ishita's stance without resorting to cheap, overdone jokes or old fashioned ideas about GKC and deal with redefining the 'real man' as much as they have the 'real mother.' Will this, can this, be the turning point for Romi Bhalla? I sincerely hope so.


#2 regular episodes until ISHRAnniversary ...and all I want is for ISHRA to forget about the celebrations being planned by their families and create their own private moment of celebration.