When a sorry is not sign of weakness - Page 5

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

My favorite puttar crying scene reasons

• A father vindicated by his child fro, being accused of being gender biased
• A guy who has lost everything because he was considered 'unworthy' by his ex ..for the 1st time someone claimed him as her 'most favorite person in the world' '
• My 1st post on IF YHM forum was with this post

Was he 'unmanly' over there?

Originally posted by: krishy13

Word.

Gender roles and gender inequality in my mind are different things. We live in gender roles but can overcome them, if we desire, but with gender inequality, you have to fight an entire system.

We just covered how a woman who presents with an MI more often receives lower quality care than a male patient. #W*F We had 4 hours of lecture about gender inequality in medicine, and I wanted to blow a fuse the entire time. 🤢

This thread has gone from a #GoPuttarGo to gender roles, which goes to prove that when this show is fairly managed - educated people are prone to discuss the underlying issues.

Even tough men cry - case in point, Puttar.

Puttar's stubble game in this picture = on point. The emotional quotient of this scene = wonderfully senti.

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

I am going to apologize in advance for what i am about to say because i am making a fictional show way more serious than it needs to be. Having said that I also think that posts like these are very necessary especially in today's climate and especially in a country like India.

So here is my thought on this entire non-issue

1) Why as a society we think apology is a sign of weakness, irrespective of the gender? Major conflicts have been averted because diplomacy has been used where two parties sit and apologize to each other rather going to war. So why do we view apology as a sign of weakness.

2) But since we do equate apology = weakness, why do we freak out when the male gender apologizes? Why men aren't supposed to be weak? They must alway be strong and live in a false sense of bravado. You know I have little nephews and nieces and I treat them equally, no on in my house is allowed to say, 'don't cry like a girl' 'don't throw the ball like a girl', 'you run like a girl'

What does crying like a girl entail anyways? I am proud that my parents have brought my sister and I up with a sense of pride and self belief that we can achieve anything in this world. Unfortunately as a society we are failing our men. We expect them to behave in false bravado, any sign of emotions and we call them 'sissy', 'that dude cries like a girl', we make our men emotionally unavailable and halt their growth.

MEN are human beings, they have feelings, they are allowed to cry, allowed to make mistakes, allowed to apologize and allowed to be human for Christ sake.

CRYING, APOLOGIZING, BEING EMOTIONAL, AND BEING CONSIDERATE ARE NOT FEMININE, IT'S JUST BEING HUMAN!

Regarding puttar when he apologized my respect for him grew even more because he did this to protect his family, and I would do the same to protect mine.

May be if we stop fighting the gender battles and focus on some real shit like making men feel emotionally secure then may be rape and molestation rates will go down.

Here is the DOVE campaign aimed at MEN who CARE, bringing out the softer emotional side of their gender. Their logo is: Care makes men STRONGER.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoqWo3SJ73c

This is the Always campaign where they ask young girls and then women what it means to, 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl'. The results will startle you when you watch it because you will see young girls are confident but the society brainwashes us into believing that 'like a girl' is weak, it's heartbreaking.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

I am sorry for the rant but I get really disturbed by such behavior. Thanks for hearing me out.

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

OMG so many feels! G I didn't wanna cry tonight and now my eyes are moist. 😭 This was your first post??? What an episode and brilliant acting my KP and little Ruhaanika. Ohhh I wanted to take puttar in a bone crushing hug after watching this episode. 😳

Originally posted by: GanBarunFan

My favorite puttar crying scene reasons

• A father vindicated by his child fro, being accused of being gender biased
• A guy who had lost everything because he was considered 'unworthy' by his ex ..for the 1st time someone claimed him as her 'most favorite person in the world' '
• My 1st post on IF YHM forum was with this post

Was he 'unmanly' over there?

Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut

I am going to apologize in advance for what i am about to say because i am making a fictional show way more serious than it needs to be. Having said that I also think that posts like these are very necessary especially in today's climate and especially in a country like India.

So here is my thought on this entire non-issue

1) Why as a society we think apology is a sign of weakness, irrespective of the gender? Major conflicts have been averted because diplomacy has been used where two parties sit and apologize to each other rather going to war. So why do we view apology as a sign of weakness.

2) But since we do equate apology = weakness, why do we freak out when the male gender apologizes? Why men aren't supposed to be weak? They must alway be strong and live in a false sense of bravado. You know I have little nephews and nieces and I treat them equally, no on in my house is allowed to say, 'don't cry like a girl' 'don't throw the ball like a girl', 'you run like a girl'

What does crying like a girl entail anyways? I am proud that my parents have brought my sister and I up with a sense of pride and self belief that we can achieve anything in this world. Unfortunately as a society we are failing our men. We expect them to behave in false bravado, any sign of emotions and we call them 'sissy', 'that dude cries like a girl', we make our men emotionally unavailable and halt their growth.

MEN are human beings, they have feelings, they are allowed to cry, allowed to make mistakes, allowed to apologize and allowed to be human for Christ sake.

CRYING, APOLOGIZING, BEING EMOTIONAL, AND BEING CONSIDERATE ARE NOT FEMININE, IT'S JUST BEING HUMAN!

Regarding puttar when he apologized my respect for him grew even more because he did this to protect his family, and I would do the same to protect mine.

May be if we stop fighting the gender battles and focus on some real shit like making men feel emotionally secure then may be rape and molestation rates will go down.

Here is the DOVE campaign aimed at MEN who CARE, bringing out the softer emotional side of their gender. Their logo is: Care makes men STRONGER.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QoqWo3SJ73c

This is the Always campaign where they ask young girls and then women what it means to, 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl'. The results will startle you when you watch it because you will see young girls are confident but the society brainwashes us into believing that 'like a girl' is weak, it's heartbreaking.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

I am sorry for the rant but I get really disturbed by such behavior. Thanks for hearing me out.