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Originally posted by: Eyes-Wide-Shut
I am going to apologize in advance for what i am about to say because i am making a fictional show way more serious than it needs to be. Having said that I also think that posts like these are very necessary especially in today's climate and especially in a country like India.
So here is my thought on this entire non-issue1) Why as a society we think apology is a sign of weakness, irrespective of the gender? Major conflicts have been averted because diplomacy has been used where two parties sit and apologize to each other rather going to war. So why do we view apology as a sign of weakness.2) But since we do equate apology = weakness, why do we freak out when the male gender apologizes? Why men aren't supposed to be weak? They must alway be strong and live in a false sense of bravado. You know I have little nephews and nieces and I treat them equally, no on in my house is allowed to say, 'don't cry like a girl' 'don't throw the ball like a girl', 'you run like a girl'What does crying like a girl entail anyways? I am proud that my parents have brought my sister and I up with a sense of pride and self belief that we can achieve anything in this world. Unfortunately as a society we are failing our men. We expect them to behave in false bravado, any sign of emotions and we call them 'sissy', 'that dude cries like a girl', we make our men emotionally unavailable and halt their growth.MEN are human beings, they have feelings, they are allowed to cry, allowed to make mistakes, allowed to apologize and allowed to be human for Christ sake.CRYING, APOLOGIZING, BEING EMOTIONAL, AND BEING CONSIDERATE ARE NOT FEMININE, IT'S JUST BEING HUMAN!Regarding puttar when he apologized my respect for him grew even more because he did this to protect his family, and I would do the same to protect mine.May be if we stop fighting the gender battles and focus on some real shit like making men feel emotionally secure then may be rape and molestation rates will go down.Here is the DOVE campaign aimed at MEN who CARE, bringing out the softer emotional side of their gender. Their logo is: Care makes men STRONGER.This is the Always campaign where they ask young girls and then women what it means to, 'run like a girl', 'throw like a girl'. The results will startle you when you watch it because you will see young girls are confident but the society brainwashes us into believing that 'like a girl' is weak, it's heartbreaking.I am sorry for the rant but I get really disturbed by such behavior. Thanks for hearing me out.
That is a wonderful post Doc!! Brilliantly written! You know- it reminds me- I have actually been made fun of for being the fan of remarkable sports person for no other reason than- "He cries like a girl when he wins". When a woman can shed tears of happiness/sadness; why can't men? And vice versa for many such things. Are we not supposed to have "Gender equality" in everything? And you are not alone, all of us get worked up sometimes due to some reason or the other- even if that trigger is a fictitious show.
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