Raman Kumar Bhalla...Please come Back Soon - Page 5

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

EDITED

let's mull over two similar scenes:


Scene-1

Ishita heard the news of reopening of Ruhi's custody case and was shattered. Raman came to console her but only got scoldings from Ishita in return. She vented all her anger on him and shooed him away initially by saying "don't touch me". She accused him and others to come between her and her daughter's happiness every time. Deep down she very well knew though that Raman was not at fault at all. She even forgot that Ruhi was his daughter too and it had hurt him equally to visualize his daughter parting away from him.

Many of us us justified the rudeness and harshness of Ishita by saying that she wasn't a wife then, she was only a mother who was scared of losing her daughter.

Scene-2

Raman saw no trace of Adi and Shagun in the house, relived his worst fear of losing his son yet again and got shattered. He asked Ishita about Adi's whereabouts and in the process vented out all his anger on her. He even accused her of being reckless and wanted to solve the matter by himself from now on. He didn't realize or forgot for a moment that Ishita was always very supportive towards Adi even though her actions might be questionable.

Many of us reprimanded him vehemently for his rudeness and harshness by saying that he is blinded by the love for his first born. He failed as a husband and whatnot.

Point to be noted, we gave different reactions to the two very similar situations. If Ishita was justified for her actions because she was a mother, then shouldn't we give Raman the same breathing space as he was then just a father too. I'm not justifying any of their activities but it's very natural for them to behave like the way they did back then. Fear of losing your child overpowers every other emotions and rationality. Hence the different treatments for two similar scenes baffled me.


Now, in today's episode Raman is again caught between two loves of his life and he's fighting hard to reach to a common ground. Yes, he's wrong for his obsession for his son. But don't we see the similar kind of obsession in Ishita for Ruhi? Just because Adi is a spoiled brat; Raman, his father, would stop loving and caring for him? If Ishita can choose Ruhi and her happiness over everything, then why can't Raman do the same for Adi?

Ishita had given him the hope that he and Adi soon would come close despite knowing the fact that it wasn't true. Raman saw his shattered dream once again coming into reality and it now pricks him to realize it on the verge of being shattered once again. Whether we agree or not, Ishita's false hope was one of the main catalysts to the situation that Raman is facing right now. Is he making mistakes and will he continue doing so? YES, because he's very much human till now and as a human being, he's got no solution either. But he'll fight and he'll fight a battle knowing that he will end up in a losing side at the end of the day. It's NOT easy being in this position but as a normal human being, he will come to a point that does proper justice to everyone.

We just have to bear in mind that Raman is NOT a god, he is very much human. And just because, he's married to a Goddess, we can't expect him to behave like a God. At the end of the day, he will always remain a human.

Very good analysis of current track. As a parent I can understand why Bhallas are showering more attention on Adi. Parents tend to give more attention to troubled kids. That does not mean they do not care for other normal kids.
But What is not acceptable is cutting cake with ex wife and dancing with her and doing pheres and poojas with her ( not aired yet but we know CVs can stoop to any level and make a mockery of every ritual ,sentiment and relationship in the name of drama ) .
Bhallas and Ishita are ignoring the source of Adi's misery which is Shagun and Ishita gave in to every unreasonable demand of Adi and Bhallas are doing the same too.

OMG..Its fictional show

and looking all the post and the thread I am going crazy

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

EDITED

let's mull over two similar scenes:


Scene-1

Ishita heard the news of reopening of Ruhi's custody case and was shattered. Raman came to console her but only got scoldings from Ishita in return. She vented all her anger on him and shooed him away initially by saying "don't touch me". She accused him and others to come between her and her daughter's happiness every time. Deep down she very well knew though that Raman was not at fault at all. She even forgot that Ruhi was his daughter too and it had hurt him equally to visualize his daughter parting away from him.

Many of us us justified the rudeness and harshness of Ishita by saying that she wasn't a wife then, she was only a mother who was scared of losing her daughter.

Scene-2

Raman saw no trace of Adi and Shagun in the house, relived his worst fear of losing his son yet again and got shattered. He asked Ishita about Adi's whereabouts and in the process vented out all his anger on her. He even accused her of being reckless and wanted to solve the matter by himself from now on. He didn't realize or forgot for a moment that Ishita was always very supportive towards Adi even though her actions might be questionable.

Many of us reprimanded him vehemently for his rudeness and harshness by saying that he is blinded by the love for his first born. He failed as a husband and whatnot.

Point to be noted, we gave different reactions to the two very similar situations. If Ishita was justified for her actions because she was a mother, then shouldn't we give Raman the same breathing space as he was then just a father too. I'm not justifying any of their activities but it's very natural for them to behave like the way they did back then. Fear of losing your child overpowers every other emotions and rationality. Hence the different treatments for two similar scenes baffled me.


Now, in today's episode Raman is again caught between two loves of his life and he's fighting hard to reach to a common ground. Yes, he's wrong for his obsession for his son. But don't we see the similar kind of obsession in Ishita for Ruhi? Just because Adi is a spoiled brat; Raman, his father, would stop loving and caring for him? If Ishita can choose Ruhi and her happiness over everything, then why can't Raman do the same for Adi?

Ishita had given him the hope that he and Adi soon would come close despite knowing the fact that it wasn't true. Raman saw his shattered dream once again coming into reality and it now pricks him to realize it on the verge of being shattered once again. Whether we agree or not, Ishita's false hope was one of the main catalysts to the situation that Raman is facing right now. Is he making mistakes and will he continue doing so? YES, because he's very much human till now and as a human being, he's got no solution either. But he'll fight and he'll fight a battle knowing that he will end up in a losing side at the end of the day. It's NOT easy being in this position but as a normal human being, he will come to a point that does proper justice to everyone.

We just have to bear in mind that Raman is NOT a god, he is very much human. And just because, he's married to a Goddess, we can't expect him to behave like a God. At the end of the day, he will always remain a human.

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

EDITED

let's mull over two similar scenes:


Scene-1

Ishita heard the news of reopening of Ruhi's custody case and was shattered. Raman came to console her but only got scoldings from Ishita in return. She vented all her anger on him and shooed him away initially by saying "don't touch me". She accused him and others to come between her and her daughter's happiness every time. Deep down she very well knew though that Raman was not at fault at all. She even forgot that Ruhi was his daughter too and it had hurt him equally to visualize his daughter parting away from him.

Many of us us justified the rudeness and harshness of Ishita by saying that she wasn't a wife then, she was only a mother who was scared of losing her daughter.

Scene-2

Raman saw no trace of Adi and Shagun in the house, relived his worst fear of losing his son yet again and got shattered. He asked Ishita about Adi's whereabouts and in the process vented out all his anger on her. He even accused her of being reckless and wanted to solve the matter by himself from now on. He didn't realize or forgot for a moment that Ishita was always very supportive towards Adi even though her actions might be questionable.

Many of us reprimanded him vehemently for his rudeness and harshness by saying that he is blinded by the love for his first born. He failed as a husband and whatnot.

Point to be noted, we gave different reactions to the two very similar situations. If Ishita was justified for her actions because she was a mother, then shouldn't we give Raman the same breathing space as he was then just a father too. I'm not justifying any of their activities but it's very natural for them to behave like the way they did back then. Fear of losing your child overpowers every other emotions and rationality. Hence the different treatments for two similar scenes baffled me.


Now, in today's episode Raman is again caught between two loves of his life and he's fighting hard to reach to a common ground. Yes, he's wrong for his obsession for his son. But don't we see the similar kind of obsession in Ishita for Ruhi? Just because Adi is a spoiled brat; Raman, his father, would stop loving and caring for him? If Ishita can choose Ruhi and her happiness over everything, then why can't Raman do the same for Adi?

Ishita had given him the hope that he and Adi soon would come close despite knowing the fact that it wasn't true. Raman saw his shattered dream once again coming into reality and it now pricks him to realize it on the verge of being shattered once again. Whether we agree or not, Ishita's false hope was one of the main catalysts to the situation that Raman is facing right now. Is he making mistakes and will he continue doing so? YES, because he's very much human till now and as a human being, he's got no solution either. But he'll fight and he'll fight a battle knowing that he will end up in a losing side at the end of the day. It's NOT easy being in this position but as a normal human being, he will come to a point that does proper justice to everyone.

We just have to bear in mind that Raman is NOT a god, he is very much human. And just because, he's married to a Goddess, we can't expect him to behave like a God. At the end of the day, he will always remain a human.

double post sorry !

Nikki n Monal u both rock !! take a bow girls !!! Bang on post !! u both nailed it totally !!

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

EDITED

let's mull over two similar scenes:


Scene-1

Ishita heard the news of reopening of Ruhi's custody case and was shattered. Raman came to console her but only got scoldings from Ishita in return. She vented all her anger on him and shooed him away initially by saying "don't touch me". She accused him and others to come between her and her daughter's happiness every time. Deep down she very well knew though that Raman was not at fault at all. She even forgot that Ruhi was his daughter too and it had hurt him equally to visualize his daughter parting away from him.

Many of us us justified the rudeness and harshness of Ishita by saying that she wasn't a wife then, she was only a mother who was scared of losing her daughter.

Scene-2

Raman saw no trace of Adi and Shagun in the house, relived his worst fear of losing his son yet again and got shattered. He asked Ishita about Adi's whereabouts and in the process vented out all his anger on her. He even accused her of being reckless and wanted to solve the matter by himself from now on. He didn't realize or forgot for a moment that Ishita was always very supportive towards Adi even though her actions might be questionable.

Many of us reprimanded him vehemently for his rudeness and harshness by saying that he is blinded by the love for his first born. He failed as a husband and whatnot.

Point to be noted, we gave different reactions to the two very similar situations. If Ishita was justified for her actions because she was a mother, then shouldn't we give Raman the same breathing space as he was then just a father too. I'm not justifying any of their activities but it's very natural for them to behave like the way they did back then. Fear of losing your child overpowers every other emotions and rationality. Hence the different treatments for two similar scenes baffled me.


Now, in today's episode Raman is again caught between two loves of his life and he's fighting hard to reach to a common ground. Yes, he's wrong for his obsession for his son. But don't we see the similar kind of obsession in Ishita for Ruhi? Just because Adi is a spoiled brat; Raman, his father, would stop loving and caring for him? If Ishita can choose Ruhi and her happiness over everything, then why can't Raman do the same for Adi?

Ishita had given him the hope that he and Adi soon would come close despite knowing the fact that it wasn't true. Raman saw his shattered dream once again coming into reality and it now pricks him to realize it on the verge of being shattered once again. Whether we agree or not, Ishita's false hope was one of the main catalysts to the situation that Raman is facing right now. Is he making mistakes and will he continue doing so? YES, because he's very much human till now and as a human being, he's got no solution either. But he'll fight and he'll fight a battle knowing that he will end up in a losing side at the end of the day. It's NOT easy being in this position but as a normal human being, he will come to a point that does proper justice to everyone.

We just have to bear in mind that Raman is NOT a god, he is very much human. And just because, he's married to a Goddess, we can't expect him to behave like a God. At the end of the day, he will always remain a human.

Originally posted by: taara113

Iv not really read all discussions in the thread but your Scene 1 and 2 just caught my eye and i went a few scene back in each case

Scene 1

Resulted beacuase Raman could not keep a hold on his anger...and eventually in that scene you mentioned, ishita did understand his side and shared the pain with him

Scene 2

Resulted out of Ishita's goodness and concern towards that brat...in reaction Raman just shouted without a thot and remourse is happening just in his beautiful mind and nowhere to be shared with ishita

Just a thought

@Bold: Well, to keep discussion short, don't think so and Ishita understood it too when Mihir explained it to the curt.

Adi and Shagun leaving the Bhalla house certainly was not because of Ishita's goodness or selflessness. I agree Raman shouted without a thought and so did Ishita in scene-1. That's why two scenes are very similar.

As far as sharing and patching up are concerned, it mainly depends on how well and tactfully the pacifier can calm the aggrieved one and the result is pretty evident if we compare the scenes.

Just a thought from me too. 😛

Originally posted by: MonalSingh

@Bold: Well, to keep discussion short, don't think so and Ishita understood it too when Mihir explained it to the curt.

Adi and Shagun leaving the Bhalla house certainly was not because of Ishita's goodness or selflessness. I agree Raman shouted without a thought and so did Ishita in scene-1. That's why two scenes are very similar.

As far as sharing and patching up are concerned, it mainly depends on how well and tactfully the pacifier can calm the aggrieved one and the result is pretty evident if we compare the scenes.

Just a thought from me too. 😛

Originally posted by: taara113

Hahaha...chal taken😉

Im sure both of us can defend our pov to no ends but sometimes we should just be happy with the difference in opinionmakes for good reading 😊

Bdw i though everything that happens is because if ishita's goodness and concern ( popularly read as her"mahaanta")

I just hope one of them pacifies the other with something more than a hug 😳

Baki to story to chalti rahegi

Yaar, we always agree to disagree. 😛 And I write to express my view, not to change anyone's thought. Simply because I don't have that power or patience in me. 😆

Hug nehi milne wala hai till IshRa wedding anniversary unless Puttar becomes "despo". 😉