A Fruitful Tree - Nov 19

A fruitful Tree

Yaad Hai Ik Din?
Mere Maze Par Baithe Baithe
Cigartte Ki Dibiya Par Tumne
Chhote Se Ek Paudhe Ka
Ek Sketch Banaya Tha

Aakar Dekho,
Us Paudhe Par Phool Aaya Hai

-Gulzar Saab

Translation

Do you remember, one fine day while sitting at my desk you had sketched a plant on my cigarette box. Come take a look, that plant is now bearing a flower.

What beautifully simple lines penned by Gulzar saab to portray the growth of a relationship. Today's beautiful episode reminded me of this nazm so I ended making a small post. I sound like a repetitive parrot when I say that I love this show and today's episode is a prime example of my obsession with this show. (unhealthy perhaps) When Ishita was talking to Mani, I felt a sense of pride in her talking about HER family, her husband and her child, the song Yeh Tera Ghar Yeh Mera Ghar came to mind.

Ye Tera Ghar Ye Mera Ghar Kisi Ko Dekhna Ho Gar
To Pehle Aake Maang Le Meri Nazar Teri Nazar

Na Baadlon Ke Chhaon Mein Na Chandni Ke Gaaon Mein
Na Phool Jaise Raaste Bane Hain Iske Vaaste
Magar Ye Ghar Ajeeb Hai Zameen Ke Kareeb Hai
Ye Eent-Pattharon Ka Ghar Hamaari Hasraton Ka Ghar
Ye Tera Ghar...

In the 7 or so months of their marriage, Ishita and Raman have built a home for their unconventional family. This home isn't fancy, it doesn't emanate 24 hours of laughter, not all it's walls are dipped in happiness and it isn't surrounded by a cushiony garden, yet it's their lovely home. For an outsider to understand and appreciate the intricacies of this beautiful home they will have to borrow Raman and Ishita's vision. We saw this beautiful home through Ishita's eyes today when she described her marital bliss to her friend Mani. She told him, yes her husband has flaws, yes he has a complicated past but so does she, and to an outsider it may seem like relationship from hell but to appreciate it's beauty one has to live in that relationship. She states that her husband has numerous qualities that help their marriage blossom but those are not for the outside world to see, the foundation of their marriage is not for public display, it stays hidden between them in their imperfect house made of bricks and held together by their dreams.

Yahan Mahak Wafaaon Ki Mohabbaton Ka Rang Hai
Ye Ghar Tumhara Khwaab Hai Ye Ghar Meri Umang Hai
Na Aarzoo Pe Qaid Hai Na Hausle Pe Jung Hai
Hamaare Hauslon Ka Ghar Hamaari Himmaton Ka Ghar
Ye Tera Ghar...

Their house however unconventional is their home, it stands tall on Ishita's resilience and Raman's unconditional support and fidelity. To outsiders their home may seem unkept with broken windows, walls covered by mold of the past and a ceiling leaking problems but if you look at their home through their eyes, we will see a home kept together with serenity, windows letting hopes and dreams enter their lives, walls colored with their love removing the mold and ceiling kept intact by their commitment and support to protect their tiny family from a rainy day. It is not easy to keep a family intact, it takes strength, determination and unwavering faith in your partner, irrespective of their personal flaws, Ishita and Raman have built a beautiful home together with sheer strength and determination.

Ishita and Raman have sketched a plant on each other's heart and now it's bearing fruits of love, how lucky are we; that we get to witness this relationship blossom into a fruitful tree.

First res!!! Yikes!!! I'm noticing this just now... Doc much as I love reading your posts, I don't think I should be first page responders!!! What u write is absolute poetry! And not to mention the poetry you add that just makes this post divine! Now whatever I may say may seem blah in comparison.. But lemme try anyway!

"Success in marriage is less about doing the big things than it is about doing those little things day after day." - Unknown

And this why their little cocoon is just so beautiful.. Its not about the big sacrifices, big material things, big decisions - but about small joys of everyday life! Its about the little nameboard gesture, about the small pasta and palak-panneer love, about the little sleeping on the bed with Ruhi in between moments.

This family is about a mother-in-law who lends a lap for her to cry on, a father-in-law who would eat idlis with her to make her feel comfortable in a new house, a brother-in-law who won't let her give up on her self-respect by falling at the feet of a creep, a sister-in-law who doesn't shy away from apologising for her husband's crimes once she knows the truth, a daughter who will stand up for her Ishima in front of everyone - even her own mother! But this family is also about a husband who may never talk to her straight face but not hear a word of insult against her by her an outsider, a husband who may not say anything in support of her when she is being blamed, but go to any length to prove her innocence to the whole family, a husband who may not admit he cares, but would panic when she pretends to lose memory! A husband who may not be vocal about his support, but wouldn't hesitate before giving up on a powerful post for her, a husband who may have never said it, but would make her feel loved by giving her the kkhh moment when she needed it the most, a husband who may not have confessed but showed what she meant to him by giving her the ring and asking for a promise of togetherness forever!

With such a sweet home to go back to everyday, why would Ishita be deterred by little disruptions like a frivolous complaint or some losers trying to intimidate her? She is stronger than all of that cos she has her strength - her husband by her side!! And her support system - her family to fall back on!!

And that's why the dialogues today in her scene with Mani were just so apt and just so perfect! You could feel how beautiful her life is through what she said! And for any third person to understand it is difficult!

"Happiness doesn't lie in conspicuous consumption and the relentless amassing of useless crap. Happiness lies in the person sitting beside you and your ability to talk to them. Happiness is clear-headed human interaction and empathy. Happiness is home. And home is not a house - home is a mythological conceit. It is a state of mind. A place of communion and unconditional love. It is where, when you cross its threshold, you finally feel at peace." - Dennis Lehane