Is it really wrong to consummate before confessing in a marriage?

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peace..

@peace..

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Posted: 11 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Peace
I AM TOTALLY OK with Raman wanting sex
I have major issues with how he is going about doing IT

Appears to me that Ishita doesnt want ANY

Love or no love she doesnt want any... so him declaring love by having an airplane etch those words with contrail is not going to get her aroused

She seems plainly disgusted at the very thought

I have to see her seducing Raman before I change my mind sorry...

i might just be dat ishita is a virgin, n esp after knowing dat she cannot concieve, she totally lost all expectations in dis regard..so it might not be so easy n natural for her..

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peace..

@peace..

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Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

EXACTLY PEACE
There has to be physical attraction for sex
COMPLETE TOTAL EMOTIONAL UNDERSTANDING IS NOT A PREREQUISITE FOR SEX
I see Raman oozing attraction
In her eyes i see two things repulsion or GRATITUDE
I DONT SEE AROUSAL these days

i feel even her gratitude is her love! 😊

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

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Posted: 11 years ago

#23

Peace

Its not like Ishita has never displayed arousal

DT DOES A FABULOUS JOB...SOME TIMES

she appeared clearly aroused when he checked her forehead for fever after the Sanjana fiasco👏

Mostly her expressions only seem like disgust when this topic is mentioned

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nebuna

@nebuna

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Posted: 11 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Peace
I AM TOTALLY OK with Raman wanting sex
I have major issues with how he is going about doing IT

Appears to me that Ishita doesnt want ANY

Love or no love she doesnt want any... so him declaring love by having an airplane etch those words with contrail is not going to get her aroused

She seems plainly disgusted at the very thought

I have to see her seducing Raman before I change my mind sorry...

Their marriage was for other reasons than love ...Her inability her condition has made her to think the way she is now so she needs to come out of that ...She has been throwing signals through her dance but men and women express in different ways

She would have least thought that raman would want her so I one push from raman s side she will let herself down in this relationship.

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Ishrafanno1

@Ishrafanno1

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Posted: 11 years ago

#25

I voted for the first choice. I felt they have confessed their love when he 'sealed the deal'. So consummation is fine.

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Anju.s

@Anju.s

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Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: Nisha0604

EXACTLY PEACE
There has to be physical attraction for sex
COMPLETE TOTAL EMOTIONAL UNDERSTANDING IS NOT A PREREQUISITE FOR SEX
I see Raman oozing attraction
In her eyes i see two things repulsion or GRATITUDE
I DONT SEE AROUSAL these days

well said nisha..

i want them to show Ishita ozing attraction ..maybe she sees shirtless Raman or something like that😉 ...Raman has been shown checking her out ...dumbstruck looking t her at parties😛..but nothing from Ishita ...so how will they proceed towards physical intimacy..😳

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Hira

@ramanishitaonly

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Posted: 11 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: peace..

lovely😊do share ur story a bit..u fell in love after ur marriage? in how much time did u confess after marriage?😉

yeah i fell in love after one year of my marriage my husband is so bechare typ person :* bt i love him alot now

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Rukhsar Ahmed

@ruky786

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Posted: 11 years ago

#28

Not really...some arranged marriages from what I've gathered actually consummate on the first night.

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947708

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Posted: 11 years ago

#29

I say if couples know they are in love why not but Raman needs to express it ishu shy lady and Raman made it clear before marriage that ruhi sake they are hitched so ishu has inhibition Raman should come forward .
Hope pehle aap pehle aap ki chakar me shagun +adi na gush jai Raman ke bedroom me

Edited by rockstar29 - 11 years ago

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Janaki

@RamKiSeeta

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Posted: 11 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: biancay

simple it is always better to live a single life than live in a stressful and unhappy marriage.

if given the choice and freedom from society indians too will opt for divorce .
but parents and society ,security plays a major role in india.

That's not always the case though. There's some stress in every marriage. To expect marriage to be a cakewalk is unreasonable. Living in the US, I've seen how many westerners have very unrealistic expectations from marriage. They meet someone, feel that it's "love at first sight" (which is utter nonsense IMO, there is no such thing as love at first sight), marry then weeks or months later, and expect it to be "happily ever after" from then on, so when they're faced with even a little bit of stress, they freak out and divorce their partner. Even research has shown that Westerners simply cannot take stress compared to Easterners, especially in relationships. The concept of compromise is almost alien to them. It's either "my way or no way" for so many of them. Americans get a divorce like they change a pair of clothing. There's nothing great that. Divorce should always be the very last option, not the first.

I agree that one should not stick to an unhappy marriage is it's taking a toll on them and their children, but one shouldn't divorce their partner like it's a normal everyday occurrence either. Marriage brings together two families and divorce is always a very painful thing, especially when there's children involved. I know there are people in India who do not get a divorce due to fear of society, but I also think it's because our values are different, more realistic. So many go into marriage without knowing much about their partner. They do not have unrealistic expectations, and neither do they believe in fairytale "happily ever afters". Both husband and wife typically compromise some of their interests after marriage. It's inevitable. To compromise for your spouse is not demeaning to one's self-respect. That's how a marriage works. It requires compromise from both partners and good communication skills, which Indians have. That's why Indians have more successful marriages even though most of them are arranged. Many love marriages, despite the presence of so-called "love," end in divorce because of unrealistic expectations.

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