Is it really wrong to consummate before confessing in a marriage?

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Is it really wrong to do IT bfor confessing in a marriage?

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peace..

@peace..

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Posted: 11 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: biancay

simple it is always better to live a single life than live in a stressful and unhappy marriage.

if given the choice and freedom from society indians too will opt for divorce .
but parents and society ,security plays a major role in india.

but wat abt d kids?

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979039

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Posted: 11 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: peace..

personally, i agree wid wat u say! but d thing is u might not feel physically aroused everytime to d person u love, but wud u really want to hv sex widout ny emotional connect? i dont think so..u wud feel wierd atleast!

particularly women need more emotional attachment and comfort fot physical intimacy compared to men

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Hira

@ramanishitaonly

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Posted: 11 years ago

#13

but me and my husband consummate after our confession :p

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WhyAmIHereAgain

@WhyAmIHereAgain

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Posted: 11 years ago

#14

in many arrange marraiges ppl consummate even before they r in love...personally i feel it is completely ur own choice...for me emotional connect is necessary for being attrcted to one..

now in western countries..people sleep together n then they might or might not be in love... the 'I want u' comes before 'I love u'... whereas it is not really like tht here... I dont think it is backdated.. it is completely abt what u r comfy at..

if u feel the emotional connect it is not necessarily for u to confess before consummation... if ur actions (like raman ishita here) show u love tht is..

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peace..

@peace..

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Posted: 11 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: ramanishitaonly
but me and my husband consummate after our confession :p

lovely 😊 do share ur story a bit..u fell in love after ur marriage? in how much time did u confess after marriage? 😉

Edited by peace.. - 11 years ago

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

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Posted: 11 years ago

#16

Peace

Emotional connect understanding etc are terms that are very popular in the West

Most couples in the country I live in attend WORKSHOPS on marriages when they are dating

YET 6 or 7 of them are clawing each others eyes out in court before year 5

Emotional connect understanding empathy compassion ARE ALL ELEMENTS THAT BUILD OVER TIME

THAT IS CALLED MARRIAGE

Theyve been married for 10 months

If they wait until they achieve "complete understanding" (whatever THAT means) then Ishita will be post menopausal and Raman will be 70... a good candidate to seek "help" for non performance

aplogize for being blunt...

World mein har shaadi understanding tak ruki rehti

To the entire human civilization would have been wiped out

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979039

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Posted: 11 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: peace..

but wat abt d kids?

i live in usa .i saw lot of couples getting divorced . they share custody . if couples decided to split

they have to deal with co parenting issues , child support , step fathers ,step mothers ,boyfriends ,giirlfriends.

an amicable divorce and parents who try to put aside their differences and work for child's mental and physical well being are happy in post divorce cases.

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peace..

@peace..

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Posted: 11 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Nisha0604
Peace
Emotional connect understanding etc are terms that are very popular in the West

Most couples in the country I live in attend WORKSHOPS on marriages when they are dating

YET 6 or 7 of them are clawing each others eyes out in court before year 5

Emotional connect understanding empathy compassion ARE ALL ELEMENTS THAT BUILD OVER TIME

THAT IS CALLED MARRIAGE
Theyve been married for 10 months

If they wait until they achieve "complete understanding" (whatever THAT means) then Ishita will be post menopausal and Raman will be 70... a good candidate to seek "help" for non performance
aplogize for being blunt...

World mein har shaadi understanding tak ruki rehti
To the entire human civilization would have been wiped out

ok! 😊 i appreciate ur opinion! all i feel dat u definitely need a little bit of attraction

(physical or emotional) atleast to be wanting to do IT.

Edited by peace.. - 11 years ago

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

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Posted: 11 years ago

#19

Peace

I AM TOTALLY OK with Raman wanting sex

I have major issues with how he is going about doing IT

Appears to me that Ishita doesnt want ANY

Love or no love she doesnt want any... so him declaring love by having an airplane etch those words with contrail is not going to get her aroused

She seems plainly disgusted at the very thought

I have to see her seducing Raman before I change my mind sorry...

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Nisha0604

@Nisha0604

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Posted: 11 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: peace..

ok! 😊 i appreciate ur opinion! all i feel dat u definitely need a little bit of attraction
(physical or emotional) atleast to be wanting to do IT.

EXACTLY PEACE

There has to be physical attraction for sex

COMPLETE TOTAL EMOTIONAL UNDERSTANDING IS NOT A PREREQUISITE FOR SEX

I see Raman oozing attraction

In her eyes i see two things repulsion or GRATITUDE

I DONT SEE AROUSAL these days