At the end of the day Raman is ALL ALONE - Page 9

Now he has improved though. No woman can bear rudeness for long. If i was ishita, even I would have reacted in the same way.

Originally posted by: anjs

@ bold : Raman is genuinely trying...but Ishita doesnt look like she wants to do things for him, except for that bracelet thing...apart from that all her other time is busy in talking to mani only...

also, expectations of love is different, and expectations of changing the behavior is different...earlier Ishita knew that though Raman scolds n shouts at her, he cares for her...now suddenly she is expecting him to change himself...and his simple actions like switching off the phone, got such a cold reaction from her...she is telling him to stop thinking bt her...why, cause he is selfish n thinks only for himself...is this how much she knows him, after being with him for 8-9 months ????

If raman is alone, ishita is also alone. She wants the love and care of her husband but gets only rudeness and taunts from him.

wow..
u said it...
totally agree with your view...

Ishita's anger will teach him how to love and how long can he hide his love. He can say I love you to her twice jokingly, and now when he really loves her, he can't say it.

Originally posted by: DivAniTanni

Oh! Wow...what a great logic. Mani is making him think as a bad husband na! So, what's the difference? If Ishita's world is called stabbing, Raman's word of throwing her out of the house is also stabbing.

Originally posted by: AraBearxx

It could be that. What if it wasn't? Twelve years in a relationship isn't an easy task and Subbu dropping her like a hot potato without a simple explanation and backup story makes no sense. When you are in a relationship for such a long time the love and crush factor in the relationship turns into something more, something more than companionship and acceptance. If I had to tell my long time boyfriend that I couldn't be a mother, he would hold my hand and tell me that would fight through this like we did the since the day we met each other. He wouldn't give me a speech merely along the lines of "kids hold a marriage and love fades two years in a marriage", you aren't having having a shotgun marriage, God dammit. There was jo can't keep my hands of you at the moment sort of live.

The dude she agreed to marry in December introduces himself as a suave gentleman unlike our kid kud Kumar. And knowing that her mother's desperation to get her her married to shut all the gossiping mouths. And her reaction to meeting Subbu. As I stated in my fanfiction, the Ishita. - Subbu backstory has so much that could be explored.

Actually the time duration can't be ignored as 12 years indeed a long time. But they started dating very early, she was 15 only then I guess. Their relationship never faced any acid test eaither because both the family were happy with their relationship. They led their relationship like a fairy tale. As people say, relationships get their real taste when turbulent times arise. They never faced it hence I'm not sure about the strength of emotional attachment between them. In terms of physical proximity, that's more non existent. She's brought up following typical orthodox Tamil Brahmin culture, I wouldn't be surprised their if their physical proximity was limited to hand-holdings and hugs. Even a peck on cheek seemed like a distant dream. Yeah, they have dated for 12 years but something big was missing in their relationship, both the lacking of emotional and physical attachments were vividly visible.

Prateek was shown as suave gentleman but she wanted to have a proper husband-wife relationship from the word ago. She certainly wouldn't have entered in a loveless marriage with him. It clearly indicates she's over Subbu long ago. Another interesting fact is that how easily and speedily she's fallen in love with Raman. She's in love with Raman before the Adi accident track happened. She didn't realize it then. Even when Mani brought up Subbu topic many times in their conversations, she didn't feel a thing, no sign of awkwardness whatsoever. When Mani questioned her over her choice of Subbu and Raman, she acknowledged silently that she's not meant for Subbu. But in case of Raman, she sternly shot back at Mani saying he's perfect her. That reminded me her balcony convo, she gladly and wholeheartedly accepted the fact she and Raman destined for each other only.

Originally posted by: Colt.Pixy

why did he pointed out to get out of house? because she brought shagun. right ?? 2 times he asked her to go out of home and life if am not forgetting. both times reason was shagun and shagun's life. and still he said sorry for 2nd time.

1st time I really don't complain because no real woman would bring sautan to home and to his bed. he said if you want this kind of social service, do out of your home, i don't find it wrong. and it was about FUTURE, not for past . when a man wants to move on , you keep bringing her in front of him do you really expect him to keep calm ?

she voices , I really don't mind . I myself has told that it s regressive to bear all if you don't like it. but once you say you like , and other day says you have tolerated all, that does not fit in character like ishita.

it was not her outburst at time is her frustration and it was about PAST OF his behavior.

when she outburst in accident case, no one blamed her,, I too wanted her to shout at times and stop him to use her in picnic seq. i had posted that how long he will keep using her.

she does not say some time. she says all time . that makes very much difference first of all.
and if she feels it s said in outburst, does she feel that she did wrong? no. so why would I think she said all outburst could be given benefit of doubt?

Coming to the Shagun issue... I never supported her for bringing Shagun into their bedroom. She was wrong. Her mahaanta which is her biggest problem. First of all, I don't agree with the fact that Shagun was out of his life, she was never out of his life. Even after marrying Ishita, half of the time his life was revolving around Shagun and Ashok. But that doesn't mean I support what Ishita did by brining Shagun to their bedroom.
Well, threatening to throw your wife out of the house is a big deal after accepting her. Even for someone angry, it certainly is big deal. Second time she wasn't even at fault..

I don't understand that is it necessary that she likes all the taunts.? Where is it written that she should.? Some of them are really crude. What is wrong if she says that she didn't like them. if she really had a problem with them, she would have said it before, but that outburst, she just said everything she wanted to. I don't understand why that makes her a target.

Even if it is her frustration, where is it written that she cannot voice it out.? She does it once and its such a big deal.. This is what is something that's beyond my understanding. If you can give a benefit of doubt to his outburst and anger, why not her's.?
She is the one who praises him the most..once she is rude to him and it becomes such a big issue.. 😆
And as for her apologizing, she has never shied away from apologizing to him. For anything and everything, Be it Param issue or shagun issue. Yes, it wasn't convincing enough, but that's the fault of creatives that they failed to give us a more intense scene.!

Originally posted by: -Hima-

When you are angry, you do say a lot of things! You should see me fight with my husband.. you would think he is the most selfish person in the world😉😆 But that is not true.. I know that and he knows it too! In a fit of anger, you say certain things which are mostly for that situation alone but sounds like things have ALWAYS been so! That is how most wife/husband fights are in real life. Raman too says a LOT of things to her in anger and also threatens to throw her out of his house and life.. but he does not mean it. And both are not same.. they are different people trying to co-exist. The fact that he/she is yours, you tend to show your rights on them! And there is no need to apologize as well.. things and intentions are understood even in anger. And that is what brings two people closer!

To me, I look at it this way.. Until recently, Ishita did not expect anything much from Raman because she thought it was only a 'Ruhi ke liye' rishta.. but now, since she feels more for Raman, and feels her right on him as his wife, she has developed some expectations.. That is progress in my mind. Only when you accept a person to be your partner w/o any conditions like 'Ruhi ke liye', a new set of expectations will take shape related to ONLY YOU. That is the phase in which Ishita is right now for me! And as a matter of fact, Raman too! They both want to do things for the other and no other reason. For me, that is growth in relationship.

Again, Mani thing is not something I want to comment on.. I am only talking about IshRa here.

in anger, completely justified, you say everything in anger. but what about other day you say similar things when he is actually trying for her ?

and does she think what made raman to do shaq on her ? can she see her flaw ever? and why should be anger in first place?
madam, you wanted to see him jealous , but then you wanted to dance him on your finger that din happen na. he got jealous but his insecurity also came in fort. you could not digest it despite you are aware of his past.
playing with fire , your hands got burned so now you are complaining for what? why anger should be justified for that in first place?

ishita who said that let him be under his misconception, let him be jealous, the ishita who enjoyed it...says she cant stand suspicion

Very 2ru..completely agree with you..😊