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Originally posted by: redwine1
Beautiful Beautiful Beautiful ... hell i did repeat myself .. but i am fast running away with adjectives ...I did cheating .. by doing 2 posts ... but i think u might've edged me out for the award anyways .. đThis is purely my reading of the Characters ... ur post made me do some thinking on ASHOk .. i always pegged him as a DUMB BLONDE .. the quintessential north indian munda .. more brawn less brain ... a man full of himself .. a man who thought he is THE BEST ... a man who thinks he is the ULTIMATE MAN ... look at his confidence .. even after very stern rejections from Mihika he feels that he will get Mihika ...HENCE ... he will always LOOSE TO RAMAN ... because the winner is a combo of an ALPHA & NERDY man .. thats a COMPLETE MAN ...
Ruby
let me start with the shortest thing đ - @bold - I absolutely agree as I said Mani can provoke RKB enough to to make him chase the biggest goal of his life now - wooing his wife, sweeping her off her feet - he has romanced her once...but post that he while pushing her a little more, goading her a little bit is still taking baby steps not only because he wants her to be comfortable with him, his proximity but because something stops him too - A MENTAL BLOCK- if I may say so... Mani would be the person who would make RKB push past the barriers overcome the hurdle he has in his own head due to himself and put up a fight for his wife - he would show exactly how much caring, chivalrous he can be ...she called yet another man perfect in front of him, the BEST...for her he would be better than the best and that can only happen with Happy' co-operation too...He has to heal overcome his own insecurity and while Ishita can be the only one to do that... he has to come out of his shell to be READY to be healed... because unless and until a patient goes to a doctor, even a doctor can't heal - to be healed, to be helped you have to reach out too...let your doctor know you are in pain and its only then that you could be diagnosed and cured...he has to OPEN UP.
And so I wrote in my comment it is the coming together of RKB + Happy that can make Raman Ishita' PERFECT man - cos it is their amalgamation that have the qualities that match up to hers.
As for Ashok, I am humbled you felt my post made you think. đł I love your analysis and takes so ya that is a compliment for me...now I felt he has superiority complex too frankly but like I said I slept on it and with a new day my mind was like nah...this is insecurity... an individual with a superiority complex does definitely follow the patterns you narrated here but what made me say its insecurity was - why chase a married woman who is a mother as well? Why pick on a nerd? Yes bullies have this tendency to pick on the weaker boys
I read this wonderful take on bullies which I have posted below that made me relate the term with Ashok instantly...and bullies have one thing at the back of their minds - in their own head these individuals are rather disturbed - their surface may project a different demeanor but in actuality these are troubled people and the only thing in my mind that came to me what could make Ashok so slighted, what did Raman have that he didn't for him to want to do this to the guy...why go after a nerd who isn't his equal in anyways as you rightfully said he comes from money, an affluent background - he has it all so what does he LACK that a nerd possesses - and the answer lay in the simple term - contentment... and that was when this idea struck me - Raman equated his contentment, his happiness with his family particularly his wife - whom he loved madly, who seemed too good for a nerd like him... with her he had achieved something beyond his potential already and added to the fact by this time they were parents to a boy he doted on... his life was bliss... and hence Ashok targeted the root of that very happiness, that very bliss and seduced Shagun...now RKB is his competitor in more ways than one... what makes him pick on Happy is not pits him against RKB...he knows RKB is his equal, his adversary and knows to give back as good as he gets in fact better...He picked on Happy but it is RKB who always undermines him even as a man...his mother alluded he is impotent too...NOW this man definitely is hence trying to lock horns with RKB every chance he gets only to prove his superiority over an accomplished and worthy adversary cos now its a matter of ego, a point of pride for him...and this time around he knows the woman in Raman' life is NO Shagun and hence that makes him madder...he knows how to use influence and money..he doesn't know how to win against someone who doesn't have a materialistic bone in their body like Raman was as Happy but as a man so competing with him, destroying him gave him a perverse satisfaction but whereas with Ishita - it becomes a different ball game since she is a woman.. and putting her down is NO matter of pride...cos he cant do that in front of the world... this man believes in SHOW and a man putting down a woman in front of the world is an MCP not an achiever which is why so far he hasn't gone after her on a public platform, same unfortunately doesn't stand for his brother
What makes a bully?
Self-esteem problems
Although it is a popularly held belief that bullies suffer from low self-esteem and are acting out in order to compensate, some research suggests that these individuals actually have high self-esteem. Rather than having a healthy level of positive self-regard, however, bullies have pathologically high self-esteem that is also unstable (Baumeister, 2001). When a bully feels that they have been emotionally or psychologically slighted or insulted in some way, this ego threat provokes extremely negative feelings that they are unable to tolerate. The result is that they lash out defensively in anger in order to preserve the image they have of themselves as in control, powerful and superior to others.
Although it is a popularly held belief that bullies suffer from low self-esteem and are acting out in order to compensate, some research suggests that these individuals actually have high self-esteem. Rather than having a healthy level of positive self-regard, however, bullies have pathologically high self-esteem that is also unstable (Baumeister, 2001). When a bully feels that they have been emotionally or psychologically slighted or insulted in some way, this ego threat provokes extremely negative feelings that they are unable to tolerate. The result is that they lash out defensively in anger in order to preserve the image they have of themselves as in control, powerful and superior to others.
Personality problems
Studies of adult bullying provide converging evidence that bullies tend to have certain personality traits in common, including authoritarianism, a strong need for control and a desire to dominate. Other research has suggested a small but consistent relationship between bullying and narcissistic personality disorder, which is characterized by a perception of oneself as a special, elite person deserving VIP treatment, a lack of empathy toward others and a tendency to be exploitative.
Bullies may possess additional troublesome characteristics found in other personality disorders including superficial charm, insincerity, a propensity to manipulate, rigidity, stubbornness, dictatorialness, and obsessive-compulsive leanings. Finally, extremely dangerous bullies have much in common with psychopaths, in that they feel little to no remorse over their actions. While all of these personality problems may have a genetic component, they frequently have roots in a disturbed childhood in which emotional needs went unfulfilled.
And Wiki had this to say in short for the same
Of bullies and accomplices
Studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying.[15] Research on the self-esteem of bullies has produced equivocal results.[16][17] While some bullies arearrogant and narcissistic,[18] bullies can also use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self-esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser feels empowered.[19] Bullies may bully out of jealousy or because they themselves are bullied.[20]
I hope I made sense there LOL... sometimes its so hard to explain the way your mind thinks đł
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