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Hello All 🤗... I see that soon the forum is going to drown in the flood of sadness due to recent upturn of events or rather the lacks of any events in Ishraland. So, the eternal romantic in me decided to act optimist and look for the silver lining in a cloud 😳.
To begin with, I will like to revisit YHM from the beginning and start with the character sketch of Ishita and Raman, followed by their misconceptions about each other.
Ishita: A strong independent woman who has faced a bitter heartbreak and yearns for companionship at heart.
Raman: A victim of adultery in marriage, who has long ago accepted defeat from his lonely heart and is a ghost of his real self. A self proclaimed loner and a woman hater who has shunned every relation in his life including relationship with his innerself.
Misconceptions of Raman about Ishita
Raman initially perceived Ishita to be a gold digger who was using his daughter as a baton to get into his life and eventually dig a hole in his deep pockets. Later on, he also mocked her as a desperate woman who wanted to fulfill her yearning for a child by snatching away his daughter from her. Even after they got married, the misunderstandings galore continued and Raman continuously blamed her time and again about being the reason for the rift between father daughter duo.
He clearly had trust issues with his woman. While, his anger during the land deal was a first glimpse of it, his questions about their non-existent relationship in front of the entire family during Param fiasco was a clear proof.
The trust issues clearly continued during Amma accident track as inspite of his sane mind reminding him day in and out to tell the truth to his wife, he purposefully withheld it.
Misconceptions of Ishita about Raman
Ishita initially perceived Raman to be an irresponsible father who thought that every problem in the world could be solved by money. Further misunderstandings between them led her to believe that he is an MCP who does not respect women rather any relationship for that matter. He is an insensitive prick who can stoop to any level to gain what he wants.
Ishita also had trust issues with her man. The very fact that she was reluctant to share her plight when Param abused her with him was the biggest example. When she figured out that Simmi was staying with her husband in Delhi itself, she took the matters in her hand and never thought of sharing this problem with Raman.
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In short, both of them have opened a huge Pandora box of misunderstandings and trust issues.
Let me bring their exact ante-thesis into the picture .. Vandu and Bala. The normal couple, who talk, love, fight, live, communicate together and most of all trust each other. Vandu sharing her apprehension of pregnancy and Bala sharing his apprehension of the additional financial burden with Mihika's marriage are subtle yet big examples of normalcy.
So, how do the CV's make this eccentric non-trusting couple of Ishita and Raman into a normal trusting couple like Vandu and Bala.
The only feasible option is to close each and every issue one by one until there is nothing left between them to create any more rift and love can finally blossom.
The CV's have been intelligently closing each and every issue by giving beautiful subtle examples. Let me quote some issues which have been beautifully closed:
1. Gold Digger Ishita: While Shagun settled only for a 5 carat ring, Ishita was happy with the small ring crafted by Ruhi. Recently, Ishita settled for a cheaper saree because she felt that the designer one is too expensive.
2. Ishita using Ruhi to satisfy her yearning for a child: Time and again, it has been shown that although Ruhi completes Ishita's life, she has much more to offer in return. She brought the father daughter duo together and is a major reason for a stable and grounded parenting to the child.
4. Ishita trying to create a rift between father and daughter: This has been dealt many a times, few instances being, Ishita made Ruhi praise her father in school, Ishita made sure that the relationship between the father and daughter duo was never affected despite their misunderstandings during Param fiasco and later on during Amma accident when Raman was favoring Shagun.
4. Raman, the irresponsible and insensetive father: Raman has come a long way from being an apprehensive parent to a sensitive father. The same Raman who was reluctant to hug his daughter passed his daughter's trust test with flying colors.
5. Raman, the heartless man who vouched that everything can be bought from money: The raw side of Raman, who went to any means so that his son accepted him as a father is enough proof for Ishita to break her myth that Raman Kumar Bhalla can get whatever he wants from his money.
6. Raman, the Insensitive prick: This part was dealt most beautifully. Small hints like Raman's sensitivity towards the culture of his in laws, his respect for them was a beautiful and subtle proof of RKB with a heart. The biggest example yet again is his children and his yearning for them.
Phew ... so all the issues mentioned above have been sorted out from the Pandora Box. If you notice, there is just one issue which is left and is common for both of them. Trust.
Before some of you begin to ask, trust has been established between them ... examples like Raman finally admitting the truth about Adi in front of Ishita, Ishita opening up about Subbu for the first time with Raman, Ishita and Raman coming up together to sort out Param's issue and so on and so forth, however, let us pause for a while.
I agree, all the issues mentioned above do ensure trust, however, please notice that this newly formed trust is displayed only inside the confined spaces of their bedroom ... does anyone else apart from them knows about this changed equation?
Remember Raman trying to get cozy with Ishita in Holi to show off to Shagun or calling Ishita in the night from Mumbai. All this was a fiasco to show off his better life to Shagun.
When Param had mocked Ishita about their non existent relationship between them, instead of countering Param on the face, Raman had questioned Ishita in front of the whole family. He had clearly stepped out of the "Inside the Bedroom" limits of this relationship.
How do CV's close the biggest pending issue from the Pandora Box?
Bang on .. the master plan of CVs.
Let us now go back to the scene between Ishita and Param where she went to meet him and invite him back to Bhalla house. Param openly mocked her relationship with Raman and infarct actually demeaned her that she can never be good enough for Raman. He mocked about their "Inside Bedroom" equation.
Quoting Shagun's incident, When Ishita went to confront Shagun for Ruhi's abortion issue, Shagun had yet again mocked her and treated her as AAYA of her children; someone who means nothing to Raman. Yet again, "Inside Bedroom" equation.
Masterstroke.
Now, let me come to the actual reference of the silver lining. Both Param and Shagun have been living in the misconception that Raman and Ishita are two disjointed souls who are there in a marriage of convenience for the sake of Ruhi; what they are absolutely not prepared for is the fact, that these two souls have unknowingly bound to each other and are no more two but one single strong soul ready to fight any evil.
So, against the popular wave, I for once want Ishita to fall into the trap of Param. Param will apply his usual tactics to demean Ishita and expect the same show of annoyance and disinterest from Raman.
However, am sure, this time what he will get is a husband fighting for a wife ... and though Raman will be angry from Ishita .. it will be out of worry and not out of mistrust ... and that will be a big jerk to Param.
Shagun ... apply the same logic here ... Raman does not need to force Ishita into anything or get cozy with her to show to Shagun that he has accepted Ishita has Mrs. Raman Kumar Bhalla, his gestures, his talks, his eyes will be a give away, so if Shagun enters Bhalla house, she will be in for a real shock to know that Ishita is no longer the AAYA of her children, but the wife of her ex-husband as well.
Both these issues will close out the biggest and last issue between them and of course shut everyone's mouth. Trust in front of others. What goes inside the bedroom stays inside and is no more an exhibition for others, and anyone who tries to enter this No Entry zone will find two joined hands ready to fight against this evil.
Leaving you all with the quote which actually made me think about this piece.
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than begin loved."
cheers
Bhanu.
To begin with, I will like to revisit YHM from the beginning and start with the character sketch of Ishita and Raman, followed by their misconceptions about each other.
Ishita: A strong independent woman who has faced a bitter heartbreak and yearns for companionship at heart.
Raman: A victim of adultery in marriage, who has long ago accepted defeat from his lonely heart and is a ghost of his real self. A self proclaimed loner and a woman hater who has shunned every relation in his life including relationship with his innerself.
Misconceptions of Raman about Ishita
Raman initially perceived Ishita to be a gold digger who was using his daughter as a baton to get into his life and eventually dig a hole in his deep pockets. Later on, he also mocked her as a desperate woman who wanted to fulfill her yearning for a child by snatching away his daughter from her. Even after they got married, the misunderstandings galore continued and Raman continuously blamed her time and again about being the reason for the rift between father daughter duo.
He clearly had trust issues with his woman. While, his anger during the land deal was a first glimpse of it, his questions about their non-existent relationship in front of the entire family during Param fiasco was a clear proof.
The trust issues clearly continued during Amma accident track as inspite of his sane mind reminding him day in and out to tell the truth to his wife, he purposefully withheld it.
Misconceptions of Ishita about Raman
Ishita initially perceived Raman to be an irresponsible father who thought that every problem in the world could be solved by money. Further misunderstandings between them led her to believe that he is an MCP who does not respect women rather any relationship for that matter. He is an insensitive prick who can stoop to any level to gain what he wants.
Ishita also had trust issues with her man. The very fact that she was reluctant to share her plight when Param abused her with him was the biggest example. When she figured out that Simmi was staying with her husband in Delhi itself, she took the matters in her hand and never thought of sharing this problem with Raman.
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In short, both of them have opened a huge Pandora box of misunderstandings and trust issues.
Let me bring their exact ante-thesis into the picture .. Vandu and Bala. The normal couple, who talk, love, fight, live, communicate together and most of all trust each other. Vandu sharing her apprehension of pregnancy and Bala sharing his apprehension of the additional financial burden with Mihika's marriage are subtle yet big examples of normalcy.
So, how do the CV's make this eccentric non-trusting couple of Ishita and Raman into a normal trusting couple like Vandu and Bala.
The only feasible option is to close each and every issue one by one until there is nothing left between them to create any more rift and love can finally blossom.
The CV's have been intelligently closing each and every issue by giving beautiful subtle examples. Let me quote some issues which have been beautifully closed:
1. Gold Digger Ishita: While Shagun settled only for a 5 carat ring, Ishita was happy with the small ring crafted by Ruhi. Recently, Ishita settled for a cheaper saree because she felt that the designer one is too expensive.
2. Ishita using Ruhi to satisfy her yearning for a child: Time and again, it has been shown that although Ruhi completes Ishita's life, she has much more to offer in return. She brought the father daughter duo together and is a major reason for a stable and grounded parenting to the child.
4. Ishita trying to create a rift between father and daughter: This has been dealt many a times, few instances being, Ishita made Ruhi praise her father in school, Ishita made sure that the relationship between the father and daughter duo was never affected despite their misunderstandings during Param fiasco and later on during Amma accident when Raman was favoring Shagun.
4. Raman, the irresponsible and insensetive father: Raman has come a long way from being an apprehensive parent to a sensitive father. The same Raman who was reluctant to hug his daughter passed his daughter's trust test with flying colors.
5. Raman, the heartless man who vouched that everything can be bought from money: The raw side of Raman, who went to any means so that his son accepted him as a father is enough proof for Ishita to break her myth that Raman Kumar Bhalla can get whatever he wants from his money.
6. Raman, the Insensitive prick: This part was dealt most beautifully. Small hints like Raman's sensitivity towards the culture of his in laws, his respect for them was a beautiful and subtle proof of RKB with a heart. The biggest example yet again is his children and his yearning for them.
Phew ... so all the issues mentioned above have been sorted out from the Pandora Box. If you notice, there is just one issue which is left and is common for both of them. Trust.
Before some of you begin to ask, trust has been established between them ... examples like Raman finally admitting the truth about Adi in front of Ishita, Ishita opening up about Subbu for the first time with Raman, Ishita and Raman coming up together to sort out Param's issue and so on and so forth, however, let us pause for a while.
I agree, all the issues mentioned above do ensure trust, however, please notice that this newly formed trust is displayed only inside the confined spaces of their bedroom ... does anyone else apart from them knows about this changed equation?
Remember Raman trying to get cozy with Ishita in Holi to show off to Shagun or calling Ishita in the night from Mumbai. All this was a fiasco to show off his better life to Shagun.
When Param had mocked Ishita about their non existent relationship between them, instead of countering Param on the face, Raman had questioned Ishita in front of the whole family. He had clearly stepped out of the "Inside the Bedroom" limits of this relationship.
How do CV's close the biggest pending issue from the Pandora Box?
Bang on .. the master plan of CVs.
Let us now go back to the scene between Ishita and Param where she went to meet him and invite him back to Bhalla house. Param openly mocked her relationship with Raman and infarct actually demeaned her that she can never be good enough for Raman. He mocked about their "Inside Bedroom" equation.
Quoting Shagun's incident, When Ishita went to confront Shagun for Ruhi's abortion issue, Shagun had yet again mocked her and treated her as AAYA of her children; someone who means nothing to Raman. Yet again, "Inside Bedroom" equation.
Masterstroke.
Now, let me come to the actual reference of the silver lining. Both Param and Shagun have been living in the misconception that Raman and Ishita are two disjointed souls who are there in a marriage of convenience for the sake of Ruhi; what they are absolutely not prepared for is the fact, that these two souls have unknowingly bound to each other and are no more two but one single strong soul ready to fight any evil.
So, against the popular wave, I for once want Ishita to fall into the trap of Param. Param will apply his usual tactics to demean Ishita and expect the same show of annoyance and disinterest from Raman.
However, am sure, this time what he will get is a husband fighting for a wife ... and though Raman will be angry from Ishita .. it will be out of worry and not out of mistrust ... and that will be a big jerk to Param.
Shagun ... apply the same logic here ... Raman does not need to force Ishita into anything or get cozy with her to show to Shagun that he has accepted Ishita has Mrs. Raman Kumar Bhalla, his gestures, his talks, his eyes will be a give away, so if Shagun enters Bhalla house, she will be in for a real shock to know that Ishita is no longer the AAYA of her children, but the wife of her ex-husband as well.
Both these issues will close out the biggest and last issue between them and of course shut everyone's mouth. Trust in front of others. What goes inside the bedroom stays inside and is no more an exhibition for others, and anyone who tries to enter this No Entry zone will find two joined hands ready to fight against this evil.
Leaving you all with the quote which actually made me think about this piece.
"To be trusted is a greater compliment than begin loved."
cheers
Bhanu.
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