where subu was wrong?

As far as i have seen the serial.

I will agree to all of it if I get the answer for just one question. Is marriage only about kids? Don't we have couples who cannot have children? I don't think its about the Mahaanta of a person. Mrs Iyer was wrong in hiding the truth but Subbu should have thought about it instead of just agreeing to his mother. It was a 12 year old relationship. He should have shared his insecurities with Ishita first then he could have taken a decision.

finally interesting post on subbu

Originally posted by: rupali_rout

I will agree to all of it if I get the answer for just one question. Is marriage only about kids? Don't we have couples who cannot have children? I don't think its about the Mahaanta of a person. Mrs Iyer was wrong in hiding the truth but Subbu should have thought about it instead of just agreeing to his mother. It was a 12 year old relationship. He should have shared his insecurities with Ishita first then he could have taken a decision.

And whereas Subbu's mom is concerned,I dont have any sympathies for her and that's because of her notion of Infertility. Its shocking. She had the right to be angry. Agreed. She wanted a Waaris or whatever. Agreed. But calling Ishita a Baanjh/Apshagun and what not. This is horrible and unforgiving. She not leaving a chance to degrade or abuse Ishita and her family. Totally uncalled for.

In our forum we have always supported the right acts and criticised the wrong ones. People dont hate Subbu's mom for her breaking Subbu-Ishu's relationship but for the way she is. And nobody has bad mouthed subbu also. Its just sad that after 12 years of a beautiful relationship, he could not support the one he loved. He left her at a point where she needed him the most...more than her own family.

Ishita is not completely mahaan. She tends to be but she too has her own faults. Maybe compared to others, her actions are a bit more selfless. But no one in the show is completely positive.

Raman and Ishita will teach Ruhi to value things that matter. And if she loves a boy who cannot father then I think Ishita and Raman will support and guide her much better. In the end its the person in the relationship who has to decide. And trust me, Ishita and Raman will do much better than what Subbu's mom did.

Originally posted by: rupali_rout

I will agree to all of it if I get the answer for just one question. Is marriage only about kids? Don't we have couples who cannot have children? I don't think its about the Mahaanta of a person. Mrs Iyer was wrong in hiding the truth but Subbu should have thought about it instead of just agreeing to his mother. It was a 12 year old relationship. He should have shared his insecurities with Ishita first then he could have taken a decision.

And whereas Subbu's mom is concerned,I dont have any sympathies for her and that's cos her notion of Infertility. Its shocking. She had the right to be angry. Agreed. She wanted a Waaris or whatever. Agreed. But calling Ishita a Baanjh/Apshagun and what not. This is horrible and unforgiving. She not leaving a chance to degrade or abuse Ishita and her family. Totally uncalled for.

In our forum we have always supported the right acts and criticised the wrong ones. People dont hate Subbu's mom for her breaking Subbu-Ishu's relationship but for the way she is. And nobody has bad mouthed subbu also. Its just sad that after 12 years of a beautiful relationship, he could not support the one he loved. He left her at a point where she needed him the most...more than her own family.

Ishita is not completely mahaan. She tends to be but she too has her own faults. Maybe compared to others, her actions are a bit more selfless. But no one in the show is completely positive.

Raman and Ishita will teach Ruhi to value things that matter. And if she loves a boy who cannot father then I think Ishita and Raman will support and guide her much better. In the end its the person in the relationship who has to decide. And trust me, Ishita and Raman will do much better than what Subbu's mom did.

Subbu wasn't wrong breaking their marriage ...but he took d wrong way... Ishu's infertility prob came as much of a surprise / shock to Ishu, as to Subbu. & d way he just left her like we throw 'use n throw pens' ... He may not be willing to marry Ishu is understandable ... but abandon a girl, whom you claim to love, plan future together, at the time when she's in her most vulnerable phase of life, when she's totally devastated, WAS wrong.

Less humanity, more selfishness... which is wrong.

Had he taken his decision being lil more considerated towards Ishu, his friend, love for 12 yrs, he wouldn't have been wrong here.

Nice post btw.

Originally posted by: bareta

Thats what i meant he was being normal human being who wants to lead normal life have kids.

He said its true i love ishita very much.

but i want kids. Isn't it good he knows what he wants with life?

I can think Subu wrong if i think he didnt do mahaan act.

Please help me to think abt him is wrong way.

Dont want to think him normal human being.

Please guys make me understand how he is wrong apart from being mahaan pyar janam janam ka saath.

Really need help.

Originally posted by: bareta

As far as i have seen the serial.

subu left Ishita because she cannot be mother. It came suddenly to him.

I would have thought of him wrong if after knowing this and then falling in love for 12 years and then leaving ishu. I would have considered wrong if knowing this he married her and made her felt about her physical weakness on daily basis.

I think its normal human behavior.

If he would have married her then we can see his pyar is mahan.

But as of now he is normal human.

Isn't Madhavi aunty (ishu mom) wrong when she hide it from subu and family. and thought may be after marriage Ishita can become mother on her own. if even after marriage Ishu's pysical condition is same. what would madu aunty have done?She just wanted Ishu's happiness and wanted her to be married. that we can consider as normal.

But when Subu's mom wanted her son not to married infertile gal she is wrong.

Subu's mom is horrible on other matters. but here i find her normal.

The time Mihika and mihir's marriage isn't both the families denied relationship because of their dis likeness toward each other.

Didn't Tandon do the same with Neil?

So in yhm i feel every character is normal human being.

Except Ishita now a days at least who serial wallah showing some great person.

Will Raman and Ishu let marry Ruhi such boy who cannot be father?

Please let me know your thoughts .

What makes his decision wrong is not the act itself since you have rightly pointed out what could have been the repercussions of his marriage with Ishita. It was the way he went about it, he could have told Ishita he cannot marry her because he wants to have kids and biological ones at that.

Originally posted by: bareta

Thats what i meant he was being normal human being who wants to lead normal life have kids.

He said its true i love ishita very much.

but i want kids. Isn't it good he knows what he wants with life?

I can think Subu wrong if i think he didnt do mahaan act.

Please help me to think abt him is wrong way.

Dont want to think him normal human being.

Please guys make me understand how he is wrong apart from being mahaan pyar janam janam ka saath.

Really need help.