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Sona reminds me so much of myself. I have been married for 20 years. Mine was an arranged marriage, so in some ways it was much harder because you are also trying to understand your husband and the other family members at the same time. Our culture is like a double edged sword. On one side, you are expected to immediately accept all the customs and rituals of your new home as your own and on the other side, as soon as you share your own opinion about any matter, you are regarded as an an"outsider" I felt so helpless the first few months. I was an educated, independent girl and yet felt so
Vulnerable to all the people non stop judging you. Some people were much younger and even they would judge and some people were older and even when they would judge. I almost felt like an
Animal in the zoo. But as time passed things started to change. I developed a trust worthy relationship with my husband over the years and then even when someone said something against me, he would just laugh it off and never really got bothered with it or bother me with it. But it takes time and. LOTtt of patience. Men do not understand the complexity of relationships. They are just wired like that whereas us women have 6th sense. Married life is not a romantic cake walk, it is a lot of hard work, a lot of compromises. Most of all, it needs ability to forgive and forget. Even today my husband hardly shares what money he gives to his parents or his sisters or brothers. I have accepted that it is ok . It is important to be happy and ignore the little things because at the end of the day it's is not worth it. So for all you soon to be married girls out there, what Sona is facing is real. I hope the CVS show how husband and wife should develop trust in each other and not how they fall apart and separate. Separation is an easy way out. What they should show is how they stick together and make it work!! Because that is what makes Indian marriages great!!
Sorry for the long post. Today's episode took be back to 20 years ago!
Vulnerable to all the people non stop judging you. Some people were much younger and even they would judge and some people were older and even when they would judge. I almost felt like an
Animal in the zoo. But as time passed things started to change. I developed a trust worthy relationship with my husband over the years and then even when someone said something against me, he would just laugh it off and never really got bothered with it or bother me with it. But it takes time and. LOTtt of patience. Men do not understand the complexity of relationships. They are just wired like that whereas us women have 6th sense. Married life is not a romantic cake walk, it is a lot of hard work, a lot of compromises. Most of all, it needs ability to forgive and forget. Even today my husband hardly shares what money he gives to his parents or his sisters or brothers. I have accepted that it is ok . It is important to be happy and ignore the little things because at the end of the day it's is not worth it. So for all you soon to be married girls out there, what Sona is facing is real. I hope the CVS show how husband and wife should develop trust in each other and not how they fall apart and separate. Separation is an easy way out. What they should show is how they stick together and make it work!! Because that is what makes Indian marriages great!!
Sorry for the long post. Today's episode took be back to 20 years ago!
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