Beautiful Message Which We Missed

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Posted: 10 years ago
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As we all have heard about the New promo it's clear Nisha was physically abused in childhood. No big deal, it was evident from quite a sometime.
But this time I'm disappointed with myself, because I failed to see beyond my limits. I was so engrossed in the whole marriage drama that I couldn't see how long it takes a parents to understand that something went wrong in their child's life that her life took 360 degree U turn.
The clear message which CV's wanted to show that sometimes when you see a devastating change in your child's life you need to dig into the matter. You need to find out what went wrong. You need to talk to your child. You need to protect your child. You need to be their supporting system. You need to tell them they will always stand by you.
Ramesh and Laxmi failed badly as being a parent. Because they couldn't protect their child. It was the other way round. At age of 15 Nisha took the responsibility on herself of protecting her family. Though we should be proud but I guess sometimes you have to let it go, you have to let others protect you.
I don't know what damage this truth will do but one thing is for sure the entire family will be devastated. Even after having so many differences I hope they realise how they failed their child.
Harsh but CV's did their best to show the bitter side of Indian families. I hope people get the message from the show.
This show is definitely UNIQUE.
P.S- Ignore the typos please.

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Posted: 10 years ago
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I agree with you in the point about the parents should be there for their child. They should always maintain a close relation ship with the child.They should protect them and support them.

But I disagree you when you say they failed as being parent. When a child get abused, that doesn't mean that his parent failed in duty.

And it is not only occurs in Indian families, it occurs everywhere in the world.Its true...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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So very well said. Parents don't realize easily. sometimes it can be too late
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Posted: 10 years ago
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I agree... there really is a thought-provoking message. Its not enough for parents to just love their kids and provide for them... they need to be well-connected to what is going on in their children's lives. I also liked how the CVs presented this issue in a very subtle way until now... I mean, when we see the first few episodes, we don't even realize there is something wrong with Nisha... that under the fun-spirited girl there could be these unhealed wounds. When the lehenga drama happened, none of the family members thought to think there could some reason behind Nisha's refusal and even we as viewers were not given any clue about it... and it seemed like Nisha's stubbornness. It was nice how they threw each hint in a subtle way and gradually brought the entire thing to this point.

Plus, even though Nisha's mother has woken up late to the issue, I'm glad she is giving prime importance to the matter now. She started worrying about stuff and went to the counselor only because she couldn't understand why Nisha has no interest in marriage at all. But now even though Nisha agreed to the marriage, I'm glad that Lakshmi hasn't let go off her investigation and that she is more concerned about getting to the root of the issue than about getting her daughter married.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: rima

So very well said. Parents don't realize easily. sometimes it can be too late

Rima diii... *hugs*
yup, this show now reminds of satyamev jayte's first season first episode. It was on same topic. N i still remember the story of guy who was raped by his own uncle that too for years.. Oh my god. That was horrifying. Still CV's have very carefully handled this topic. I am so impressed.😊
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Posted: 10 years ago
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[QUOTE1]I agree with you in the point about the parents should be there for their child. They should always maintain a close relation ship with the child.They should protect them and support them.

But I disagree you when you say they failed as being parent. When a child get abused, that doesn't mean that his parent failed in duty.

And it is not only occurs in Indian families, it occurs everywhere in the world.Its true...
[/QUOTE]
Fair enough it's not parents mistake that their child is abused but are parents not to be blamed for not taking up the hints that something is off with their child??
Yup I know this whole is so corrupted and evil and full of heartless cruel and pathetic people.🤢
I just hope and pray no child has to face any such thing in any part of this world. They don't deserve this.
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Posted: 10 years ago
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Originally posted by: S.Stephy

I agree... there really is a thought-provoking message. Its not enough for parents to just love their kids and provide for them... they need to be well-connected to what is going on in their children's lives. I also liked how the CVs presented this issue in a very subtle way until now... I mean, when we see the first few episodes, we don't even realize there is something wrong with Nisha... that under the fun-spirited girl there could be these unhealed wounds. When the lehenga drama happened, none of the family members thought to think there could some reason behind Nisha's refusal and even we as viewers were not given any clue about it... and it seemed like Nisha's stubbornness. It was nice how they threw each hint in a subtle way and gradually brought the entire thing to this point.

Plus, even though Nisha's mother has woken up late to the issue, I'm glad she is giving prime importance to the matter now. She started worrying about stuff and went to the counselor only because she couldn't understand why Nisha has no interest in marriage at all. But now even though Nisha agreed to the marriage, I'm glad that Lakshmi hasn't let go off her investigation and that she is more concerned about getting to the root of the issue than about getting her daughter married.

yup yup agree to every single word.
tomorrow's epi is going to be super exciting...
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Posted: 10 years ago
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i was wondering the same...that how come no one noticed any change...or didnt bother to ask why...as she changed her dressing, her touch, her interest in sports...

but yes, a very subtle and beautiful message from the CV's to not take such things lightly...there is usually a reason behind it...without it being thrown in your face, just there, like people would and can take things for granted...

Nicely shown...I like the way they are doing this whole thing...

Yes, Nisha from episode one...you see a vulnerability in her...but yes in the lehnga time...when she imagines and feels throttled by everyone...and escapes to the terrace, felt like it was a little more than, I just dont like these clothes...

And then her dreams...

And then was very obvious with her panic attacks...


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Posted: 10 years ago
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Its commendable that such a sensitive topic is taken by the show. I hope and pray that they handle the issue with the same sensitivity till the end.

Taking the track and the general scenario into account, the incident has a huge role to play before pointing fingers at who is responsible. Same is the case with Nisha. We cannot say Ramesh and Lakshmi hadn't been good parents or has failed. Like the way Lakshmi questioned Nisha today, Ramesh and Lakshmi could have Nisha even before too. The same way Nisha didn't answer today, she might have not answered then too. Both might haven't felt the urgency to get deep into the matter as they would have found Nisha behaving perfectly normal with just few changes.

Now another question is why couldn't Nisha share her problems with her parents. I don't think Ramesh or Lakshmi would over react, or may blame her. They seem to be understanding parents. Then why? According to my reasoning, the incident would have been such that Nisha herself is so ashamed of that she is just not able to share it with anyone. The incident would tarnish her image, her parents image and her family image so much that she might have considered to keep it within herself. Or she could have been blackmailed into keeping it a secret.

With Lakshmi knowing her truth, what would be her next move? Should she tell Nisha that she knows the truth now? Should she share it with Ramesh and both of them together be the pillar of strength for Nisha? Or let Nisha come around by herself?

I think girls need to be given good knowledge about proxemics. They need to know the distance which men/women should main when having a conversation with them. Jwala had no clue about that. Same way, boys too should be taught about the distance they need to maintain. Parents do hold responsibility to educate their children about this.


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Posted: 10 years ago
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I agree...
I didn't think it should take so long for parents to realise something bad has happened with their child...maybe Ramesh wasn't really that frien to his children that he says he was...or Nisha would've trusted him and her mother...

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