Beautiful Message Which We Missed - Page 3

Originally posted by: lovely_lady

I agree with most of your post, especially in regards to the message. But I completely disagree with the assumption that Laxmi and Ramesh failed as parents. No way.

Laxmi and Ramesh ARE Nisha's support system. When Nisha had the nightmare, she went to her dad. She went to him because she trusted him to keep her safe and help her through the nightmare. Laxmi is the only person Nisha even allows near her, physically. That also speaks of the trust, comfort, and support she accepts from her mother. Nisha's relationship with her parents is beautifully depicted.

As for Laxmi and Ramesh not figuring out the truth, I think there's a lot of factors at play. It would be wrong and simplistic to blame Laxmi/Ramesh or even Nisha.

We can gather from the fact that Nisha was childhood best friends with Sourav + her appreciation for sports, that she was never really a super girly girl. If she received awards for her sports, that means she was dedicated to them, kind of like Jwala and her academics. Thus, she probably didn't mind wearing Indian clothing, but wasn't obsessed with looking all pretty and girly like Kirti. Therefore when she stopped wearing suits, her parents probably took it as a teenage thing (because she was a teen).

Teenage years are very difficult for parents and people to manoeuvre. Honestly, I can totally see Nisha's parents chalking up her changing behaviours (not being all touchy-touchy with boys, stopping sports, refusing to wear Indian clothes, etc) as a product of teenage changes. There are girls who are just like Nisha, in regards to the clothing they prefer, etc., who haven't been abused.

Abuse itself manifests differently in people. Some people go into shock and think it never happened (which is what Nisha has done to some extent I think). Others pretend that it never happened. Others make their voices be heard and bring light to their situation. I don't think there's a general guideline that tells how an abused person reacts.

Also, I think it was very good of Laxmi to prob the matter. She took initiative after noticing and realizing that Nisha's behaviours were different. Heck I think her mom was great in even considering the fact that something happened. Some parents don't even consider that.

So yeah, I don't consider Laxmi and Ramesh bad parents.

But I definitely do agree that this show is bringing to light some great issues, especially the one of realizing how long it can take to realize that someone could be abused.

I am not saying they are not caring, loving n supporting parents. But I will say they failed as in protecting her.

^Personally, I think that is a much better post than your initial one! Very well written and argued! But I still disagree :P

Wonderful to read a healthy discussion on this forum.

I completely understand the viewpoints of both lovelylady and Shruti. But as I said before, we need to wait and see what the incident was and how Nisha reacted after that.

As @lovelylady said, Lakshmi and Ramesh has made a mistake by not considering the issue to be a serious one. Nisha could have got stressed when asked repeated question on her change of behaviour and they might have considered to leave her alone and let her live the life the way she wants. I am happy that they aren't parents who constantly mock at Nisha's tomboyishness and have taken it sportingly. They aren't embarrassed by the fact that their daughter is different from others. We have seen situations where Nisha's behaviour have put them both into trouble. It could have happened numerous times in the past too. But even after that their love for her hasn't come down. So again, I wouldn't say they FAILED. Failed would be when they don't understand her problems.

Coming to the dress. I think its pretty normal for teenagers to behave differently at certain point of time. So that couldn't have triggered suspicion.

Also, we need to consider the family condition too. If Dadaji is so involved in the lives of his grandchildren, why didn't he see the change?

Bu the point is, we are forgetting who really is to be blamed. Its not Nisha. Its not Lakshmi or Ramesh. Its the people who assaulted her. Nisha, Ramesh and Lakshmi are all victims here. Those people have gotten away so easily leaving these three to struggle in their lives.

@lovelylady- My lady, i never asked you to agree with me.. :P they are just my views. No one is bound to agree them. Hell, maybe my entire pov is wrong. I do believe "we should never judge anyone" but I always fail to stick my thoughts. Kya karu.. Bache hai na *pouts* seekh jayenge with time. ;)

@Shruti "hiding behind chairs"?? Hahaha. We are all sharing our views based on the experience and people we have met. When we take in general, all your points apply perfectly. Just that the story that we have on our hand is incomplete. Hence it is not wise of us to judge the characters. That's it.

I am really looking forward to see how they shape this track as this issue plays a huge role for the show. Will Lakshmi share this with Ramesh? Will Ramesh state this reason to Dadaji to postpone the wedding. What will Nisha's reaction be when she comes to know that her parents have found out? Will the culprits be caught and given punishment? Answers to these question will be interesting.

let the history be unfold today.. Hahaha..

This show has picked up on very sensitive Issue and I appreciate it... Bcoz its d shameful and absurd reality of our society.

I had already guessed it when Nisha had those dreams where she was in school uniform...

I m looking forward on this 😊

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Originally posted by: dsupriya

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@TM do not agree with you completely. It is quite difficult for parents to spot the sexual abuse spot on especially when you are in conservative environment. It is difficult for the parents to believe or digest that something of this nature can happen with their child.

But am glad that in this case Laxmi is taking steps to know the truth and the right steps. One of the right step is to speak with the counselor. I hope they take this positively a step further by coaxing Nisha to see the counselor who can help her come out of this trauma that she has buried it for so long. And also somehow push the marriage for Nisha in back burner as the way I see it she is not mentally ready and till she comes out of the horrifying past she may not be ready.

Hope they show in the serial that it is okay to take external help and support and it is not really derogatory to seek a help of the counselor who is well qualified to handle such problems.

Because that should also be pushed forward by the serials as in India there is still a taboo to approach a counselor or psychologist when required.