Guide to Parenting by Shilpa Sharma MESSAGE pg37 - Page 12

Originally posted by: a little faith

Originally posted by: Senny

Hey Sabah,

Coming to step 4, nature and nurture, I loved how you linked both, i agree about mothers they are the ones who control the reins of a child and i guess just as Naploean said that you give me good mothers and i will give you a good nation. Please pardon me if i am not able to quote the exact words. I agree about the whole analysis of a mother and she is the one who lays down the foundation and base for a child and in any and every way.The most cruelest thing in nature for me is that we aren't able to remember all the love our mothers give us as babies. Those tender kisses, staying awake all night, that attention at the slightest cough, caring about each little comfort. We grow up ignorant and therefore sometimes we forget that no matter how many acts of kindness we give our parents, we will ALWAYS REMAIN IN DEBT.


I lovedddddd and enjoyed so much Sabah, it was sooo beautiful and heartening to look at the MN i had fallen in love with and even so with the new vision you have provided us all with, or better to say is that your words, enables us to think on our own and add our own colours to life and its surroundings.I am so touched that you like it. I never like impinge upon other people's aspirations and thoughts of their beloveds; within the myriad of possibilities of the imaginations of all the unique souls that exist or existed therein lies infinity. However I offer up my vision, my imaginings by way of enticement so that you too share your most precious dreams. Although our hopes may encroach upon one another, their denouement knows no bounds.

I indeed need to take classes for this fourth lesson, i am never able to or hardly able to keep these two apart. M was able to do so until N came in his life and he himself allowed the walls around him to be broken down, there was this light about her and even he couldn't deny that.Arjun really evoked those walls crumbling down perfectly. If she had been just a pretty girl, it wouldn't have had the same effect. It was that combination of inner and outer beauty that mesmerized him. The combined force was overwhelming and his defense never arrived.

No matter how hard he tried he was attracted to that light, he wanted to get more close to that light, more so because of curiosity or because he also wanted to have a friend, he never had one and he felt incomplete in one way or another but never allowed those feelings to come out in open but when N came, those emotions came up to the surface.Human beings are not meant to be alone. How do they punish people already in prison? Solitary confinement. How do your discipline a naughty child? Put them in the corner. For what crime do we insist in punishing ourselves isolation, both physical and emotional?

I loved all the bangs bangs coming in and giving me a bang as well. I absolutely and thoroughly enjoyed reading each and every part, you made me think about each and every step so beautifully, pardon me for being a little repetitive and please let me whole heartedly thankyou for making me feel so wonderful.OKAY, I will let this one slip past the compliment detectors, for would not want to subdue this kind part of you. 😳

The best part was that as you perfectly pointed out that Mum let both of them be themselves, no pretence, but just they themselves enjoying life with a new feeling of content, excitement, hope and happiness. I love to be with people with whom i can be me and they never look down upon or make fun of the way I am or choose to be. We all are just the way we choose to be, its always better if its choice here and not of others. So true!👏 I too believe in the potential of every person to fulfill their OWN and PERSONAL journey, not my idea of what it should be. Rather like Shilpa Aunty, I want to nurture, support, encourage both in the good and difficult days. No disappointment, only concern. For instance, with MJHT I didn't want to give the creators creative suggestions, I wanted to see the culmination of the majestic journeys of those beautiful characters from the hearts of those who had imagined them. Praising every milestone and checking every wrong turn.

God bless.😃God bless you too, in abundance.

Originally posted by: a little faith

Originally posted by: myownarea

Sabah :) Its always such a pleasure to read what u write and yes, I will tell u when u stray :D, but hey right now, u can do nothing wrong :D Divya, always a pleasure and an honour. I am glad you have my back.

U wrote that so well and so perfectly that I wonder if I have anything left to say ? :)You are too kind, of course there is more too say. This is only one narrow view. In your insights there is another wilderness waiting to be discovered. You do flatter me, but you still reign as the queen in understandings emotions. I have yet to live them all.😳

So, I'll go off tangent and try and write on how the entire Meeting with Mayank, mother and nupur meeting was from a viewer's (me me ) POV :DHAPPINESS!😃😃😃

I found the whole curiousity of Shilpa aunty to meet Nupur interesting. I think it had to do with the fact that Shilpa aunty could see a change in her son owing to the arrival of Mallika-e-Morena :)Even CJ, I loved that she noticed too. For me it did not signify that she was observant but rather that she knew him well, not necessarily from length of time but depth of time.

Not very obvious changes, not things that others would not notice but things that a mother close to her son would notice. Nupur was the one who brought out reactions in Mayank sharma. CJ was a great friend, somebody he respects, whom he considers a good buddy. Again it spoke volumes that CJ thought of him as a decent guy. Even she couldn't resist teasing him, as Mayank points out, she never spoke to him like this before. Basically we are all kids at heart.😛Nupur was something else, she was an enigma for him, he wanted to know why she affected him so much even though he never admitted it. I don't think he understood it. He felt it but didn't understand it. Shilpa aunty wanted to know the same thing probably!She loved her son, that she has so much care and attention over what most parents regard as small or insignificant, and without ever becoming overbearing as those very same parents become in comparatively inconsequential matters.😕

The best part ofcourse was his spontaneous reaction on how beautiful she looked, that was so not the normally cool Mayank sharma, it was straight from a heart that had been quite taken by the beautiful Nupur.Seriously, Arjun acted exceptionally well. He raised it from funny and cute to endearingly comical and phenomenally heart-warming.👏

Shilpa Aunty was even more taken in by Nupur, as she sees her practicing outside the door to meet her friend's mother, Nupur had already endeared herself to Shilpa Aunty and add to this the Mein bilkul Madhuri ki tarah lag rahi hoon , she is bowled over by the girl's innocence.. You can't fake modesty, insincerity always surfaces. Senny pointed out that Nupur too has haya, all her loud and bold actions are inexplicably tainted by it.

The entire time they spend together is filled with vast insights into the various bonds developed. You could spend your life deciphering those emotions and still keep going back for more. The endlessness of the human soul. The creators gave us such depth of characterizations that even in our thorough investigations our torches extinguish before all paths, cracks and secret passages are discovered.

Shilpa Aunty and Nupur hit off instantly, While shilpa aunty is not patronising or dominating,. Nupur is not trying to please. Its a natural reaction to each other, they instantly connect. Lucky Mayank:)He is blessed to have not one but TWO lights in his life. Darkness has not the smallest chance.

Shilpa aunty and Mayank share a pvt smile when they see Nupur dipping her biscuit in the tea, when Nupur realises it, she is not embarrassed, thats Nupur, she would not let things she enjoy be considered a reason to be upset even if it amuses others.Oh, my heart is so glad you mentioned this scene. I wanted another 'light' to comment upon its perfect endearing charm. They weren's laughing at her, but just enjoying her funny ways. They were both falling in love with her over and over. Not for her lenga, not for her name but for all those things which they know to be truly of worth. Like a Diwali spent in good company.

My fav conversation of the evening is where Nupur and Shilpa Aunty discuss the stereotyping of women on television, its such a moment where 2 characters that are the anti-thesis of stereotype heroine or mother discuss stereotypes...I was always amazed at the gems that MJHT used to throw up...EXACTLY EXACTLY EXACTLY!!!!👏 People keep saying wow, you write so well about MJHT. It is NOT me, but the inspiration. I would only be talented if I were able to write as well for current MJHT, then I would call myself a writer. Write? I can't even bear to watch. I digress, let us talk about beauty instead! 😃 Interestingly Shilpa Aunty realises that the project can't have been done by Nupur. Yet she is not judgemental about it. She understands her nature, she wants her to shine forth her own light. One aspect that Mayank is unable to learn from Aunty.He learns it from love😆 Life has a way of teaching you the HARD way if you don't pay attention.

This may be because he cares for her far more than he realises.They always showed him to be caring as his mum. The opening entrance he changes the tire for a stranger, he helps out Nupur on her first day. However he doesn't get attached, maybe afraid that people will let him down, disappoint him, maybe as it happened in the past so it becomes a defense mechanism. However her inner light just penetrated that thick veil through to his core, pass all the passwords and secret doors until they was no space, room or corridor to hide in, not even in himself. There is no defense against LIGHT, not even in the darkest recesses of the night. I truly love the very nature of light!😃

Interesting complex relationships! The poetry of fusion of so many minds and thoughts, the creators and actors and directors, where one influence ends and another stops, who knows, but one cannot help but marvel and gawp in awe!
Divya, Thanks for all the insights, we are ALL indebted and honoured. 😳

Originally posted by: a little faith

Originally posted by: nanditasingh

STEP - 4

Nandita, I don't see what you are referring to, that this isn't your best! I think you might have stepped into a badly lit area, for I can clearly see that the below comments are beautiful. 👏

What better backdrop than Diwali to unite the two most important ladies (one of them ....to be) in Mayank's life....Lights, colors, fireworks and every auspicious symbols and sounds mark the grand entry of Nupur into the Sharma household...she gets not only welcomed into their house but also into their life. Shilpa Aunty is the sunlight in Mayank's life then Nupur is his moonlight.....and they meet and also with them uniting , it also marks the meeting of Mayank (the sadhu and perfectionist ) and Mayu(the adorable and caring)...I never doubted that Mayu would be subdued. In truth Mayu is a part of Mayank just as much as Mayank is a part of Mayu. You cannot remove either completely without destroying the whole character.

I often ponder about the difference of Shilpa Aunty and Mayank. No doubt Mayu is from her. Like most fans, I like the idea that Mayank sprang from the hardness of life, of being made to grow up too quickly, of wanting to take over and be the guardian of his loving mother. However I also have a liking for the whole 'it is inherited from his father' angle too. Thereby Shilpa Aunty becomes the Nupur to his father's Mayank and we have history repeating itself! However I prefer to leave his father and their past the mystery it remains, for the consequential Shilpa and Mayank are lights I do need to enhance.


Nupur places a diya in Mayank's guarded sanctuary... ....with that diya Nupur lights up the path into Mayank's guarded castle and his heart...and makes room for herself....the diya also brings to her notice the real Mayank minus his defensesI loved this observation! I loved the symbolism of light permeating quite aptly all the Diwali scenes. I knew I would have missed some precious detail, thanks for sharing. ....what more but the first sentence he utters after seeing her proves it "Tum achi lagrahi ho."Did I find all of the 'bangs'? I have this niggling thought that I might have missed one! ...Nupur who is so much used to compliments cannot help but feel the genuiness of it .Again, thanks for this gem. We can always feel sincerity, it saturates our actions, our words and thoughts. I fell for Mayank Sharma due to his most honest sinerity, even when it is against himself. In this gentically modified world, I even doubt the truth of the fruit I eat.😕


I loved the enchanting image MJHT creators give us of Shilpa Aunty and Nupur, together creating the rangoli outside on the porch whilst Mayank is inside his dim room with his books. They are outside living life, he is inside taking notes! Like the diya and rangoli they use to delicately decorate the porch, Shilpa Aunty and Nupur are those lights that refract though into Mayank's small world bringing forth all the colours of life! these two ladies not just add beauty and meaning to his life , but also are the very soul of his existence.I cannot imagine a Mayank Sharma without them. He would be more lost than when he began his journey. I also love that fact that he isn't a 'campy' mummy's boy. That being influenced by women doesn't make you weak, feminine or dainty. Mayank Sharma was also a man's man. He augmented that with those wondrous qualities found in women. Nor was he ever ashamed to giving 'women' credit, his mum, CJ, Nupur and Tamana mam. So refreshing!


The generosity of Shilpa Aunty's light, like the sun, unbiased she nurtures all those around her not only her son. She encourages Nupur to grow into her own natural traits and nurtures Nupur to have courage in her own conviction. Mother's play the most important role in ones life . She is not only our first teacher but also the only selfless best friend we can ever ask for. A mother's ability to give unconditional love and support does not just limit to her child but also willingly includes any other child entering her orbit.....I guess thats why after meeting Shilpa Aunty , Nupur voices her heartfelt feelings by saying ".........Mujhe ek pal ke liye aisa lagga, voh Mayank ke mummy nahin hai, voh mere mummy hai...".Exactly. Motherhood brings with it selflessness. They are so open, so giving, as vast as the heavens in their forbearance.

after going through your post not just I miss those wonderful moments but it also makes me wonder every time how can they , the CVs not miss such an important character as Shilpa Aunty ....I cannot speak about nor for others. On a personal note I would say that it is hard to miss things which you have never witnessed (although not impossible) . People are blind to beauty as well as being blinded by it. Intentions change, to find the courage day in day out to face the over riding force of majority takes its toil.

However there is more strength in light, in beauty and in valour and loyalty. Indeed, we MUST stay the course, for its fruits are beyond our dreams. Don't you want Shilpa Aunty, Mayank and Nupur in your real life too? Gandhi said, ' you must be the change you want in this world', I live by this so that one day I become worthy of my own Mayank Sharma, that I may become worthy of being a Shilpa Aunty to my own Mayu. (Sorry for digressing, but you hit a nerve) 😳Feel free to ignore. 😃

Heartfelt thanks, Nandita. 🤗Love Sabah

Originally posted by: Mou.

Okk...finally gather my thoughts ........I will prepare myself for the onslaught!

firstly, the prelude..........Cj is another character that is so close to reality....a friend, who notice every single change in her friend, even here she told mayank that she never saw mayank behaving like that! & mayank replied."mujhme koi baat hai, aur mujhe hi nehi pata"....like true friend ,CJ noticed the change in her friend, even before he noticed it. We depend upon the sincere judgment of our friends. They are always plenty of naysayers, contrarians and criticizers, but few honest advisers who wish for you what they wish for themselves. I loved the whole healthy rivalry between CJ and Mayank in their studies too. They bait each other on as well as genuinely wanting success for the other. Herein lies the wonderful truth, they both value effort over results. & actually through this she made the audience like us think.......arre! ha, mayank toh aise nehi hai.na toh uski mom aise hai.jaise usne nupurko bataya.😕.......so, why is he behaving like this????...i so wish that they bring back smart intelligent CJ ....the only common friend in both mayannk & nupur's life. Coz though she ws mayank's friend, but unlike all other in the college , she never underestimated nupur.accepted her as she is....thats the sign of a true friend na!CJ rocked! She was the true 'cool'! Not some plasticized version. Her very prescence demands respect. Just like Mayank. For me they were the true King and Queen of Excel college (pre Morena imports) but I am sure they would have hated these titles. Just bravado inexplicably mingled with humbleness. Look at CJ's interaction with Uday, the court jester of Excel college. I think she was the ONLY one who gave him any honour. Wait, I forget Tamana mam, ANOTHER woman!


now coming to ur step 4......shilpa aunty proved yet another time why she is unique...........just from the beginning when she move away the curtains of mayank's room.....it was like she is ready to welcome the new moonligh as u say "Nupur" in their life. & that pinching tne ."acha nupurka naam suntehi."...She already knew Nupur has an effect on her son.though he tried to hide that so innocently.....😆I loved that last sulky line of Mayu's 'mum aisekoi baat nahin, aap hamesha kyu kehte ho...Mano ya na mano....🤣

& when the two met...i love that scene ...how nervous nupur.was(thats obvious ..the mayank gave the description of her mom anyone would😆).but look how she made her comfortable ......with the complements ,with the sweet gesture....she was just ready to welcome her .......& nupur's fear & preconceive notions r all gone ..three sheers for shilpa aunty😆People who let you be yourself, without feeling ashamed or emabarrassed or awkward are exceptional. However people who nurture your idiosyncrasies are...I really love and miss her😭

& that boxing match diaogue.....when both mayank & nupur said CJ bhi yehi kehti hai....well for me it is just a msg ..like CJ.they hv got another friend here "shilpa aunty"ALL of Mayank's best advisers, friends and companions were and are women. Full stop!

& that rahgoli scene .here comes ur nature & nurture thing. clearly.shipa aunty appreciate nupur's creativity.....she as a mom, not only appreciate the bookish knowledge , or college based study ,though she is proud of her son, but yet she praise nupur....& the way she encourage her...to stick to her own thinking ,own pov..i simply love her for that!!!!!!!!! she was unknowingly giving courage to nupur which i appreciate so much!!!!!Her heart is so vast. Her love so irrepressible. Beauty that cannot be contained. Shilpa Aunty was just fantastic!

in between.that pqajama scene happen........uff! mayank with all this happening around him.still maanged to complement nupur rihjt from his heart....of corse nupur's beauty , her lightening the dia all that made him left with no choice but to say the truth na!!!!Honest Mayank strikes again. His poor dignity paying the bill. 😆On a side note, I loved that fact that 'adult' Mayank still runs to his mum to 'fix' his pyjama!🤣

then nupur also made her contribution .to this new deewali of mayank.....she being the ultimate inspiration tell mayank.that he also need to do something new...& that strikes him & he get ready to attend the first party of his life with nupur!!!!!!!! I loved the way she 'tricks' him' Which house? Sends away his ride home, leaving him alone. Then scolds him! Then getting upset herself leaves him..speechless! The charm of Nupur Bhushan.
That whole deewali was for mayank to rediscover himself.that sometime doing regular things can also be fun,like burning crackers... doing something new for others happiness can make u happy!!!!!!!.& the most important influence behind this discovey was Nupur & shipa aunty's first time meeting.

I love this trio scene so much.i wana writr more & more but no time .......I would advise you just watch the scenes again. The look upon your face as you watch, says more that words will ever be able to articulate. Just like Mayank's expression when he sees Nupur, elevates his words 'tum achi lagti ho'.

Btw sabah , i love the bangs.u mentioned.writing it in such a hurry make me forget to mention this earlier.😆......Did I miss any? I feel like I might have not heard one. I did listen hard and carefully.

nways....waiting for step -5.............& i m sure that will also be a treat to read & to cherish memory of old MJHT.Best tonic for current stress. I was inspired by the love I found in your thread. Thank you Mou. 👏


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